After watching this film, a friend of mine who has not come to Qingqing cried a lot. When I heard it, I thought it might be because I was moved and cried. I also looked for it, and when I saw the end, I also cried, but I felt that I was crying because of entanglement. I can't tell if I'm moved or uncomfortable. In short, I'm touched by something. I still can't tell. It's really puzzling.
This movie tells a story. In a family with many children, the children are very noisy and no one can control them. The magical nanny McPhee appeared. She used magic to control these children and taught them what good children should be. qualities, such as faith, hard work, courage, etc.
The most important idea here, and also McPhee's mantra, is this sentence:
There is something...you should understand about the way I work. When you need me but do not want me ,then I must stay. When you want me but no longer need me, then I have to go. - Nanny McPhee
You have to understand my way of doing things, when you need me but don't want me to stay, I have to stay; when you want me to stay but don't need me anymore, I will leave.
It was this sentence that gave me a lot of discomfort.
First of all, McPhee said, "You need me", "You don't need me", who needs who? Did McPhee see the needs of others, or did he see his own needs? When McPhee wanted to stay, he said it was because others needed her, and when McPhee wanted to leave, he said it was because others didn't need her. This is tangled and tangled, and McPhee will do whatever he wants, not to mention that it is for others.
Second, McPhee said, "You don't want me to stay, I have to stay" "You want me to stay, I'll leave". What are you doing against people? Confused again.
Third, regarding separation, McPhee came and forced his way into other people's lives: "When you need me but don't want me to stay, I have to stay." McPhee's coming is destined to leave McPhee and leave At times, I was even more entangled, "When you want me to stay but you don't need me anymore, I will leave." McPhee lives in his own world. He seems to see others, but in fact he only sees himself. And in the end, it was very tragic: she helped others without asking for anything in return. In the end, others thanked her, but she couldn't thank her. I will always owe her love, not to mention how uncomfortable it is in my heart.
Fourth, McPhee has magic, McPhee is strong, and the children are weak. They are coerced to say "please, please", not from the children's original wishes, but the product of militarized management and "education". became a good boy. As McPhee said in two episodes of the movie: "I'm the government nanny" and "I'm the military nanny". Come if you want, leave if you want, punish her if you don't listen to her, and leave indifferently if you become obedient. Aloof and dignified.
All this in one sentence: Who is in charge of my needs?
It's from nanny McPhee, I need her, I don't need her. Or is it up to me to say what I need, or whether I need her?
How my needs are met, is it enforced by nanny McPhee, or is it met according to my own will.
The abilities that children lack temporarily, such as courage, industriousness, courtesy, communication, belief, etc., should be acquired by education and training, or should they be acquired by their own practice?
There are so many different things, in the final analysis, it is whether to impose or to be independent.
McPhee came here voluntarily, and also left voluntarily. It seemed that he only paid without returning, but it hurt people's hearts. The adults and children she helps are passive and incompetent, and the qualities they have cultivated are good, adapt to social norms, and meet expectations. However, the deprived autonomy and the forced heart are ultimately separated. McPhee brought order and tangle, suppressed many emotions, and on the surface resolved a contradiction, but actually created more contradictions.
McPhee couldn't speak well, and she couldn't speak well. With her own entanglements and contradictions, she seemed to be helping others to dedicate silently. In fact, she was conveying her beliefs and persistence. After reforming others, she left with satisfaction. However, her own complex and discomfort were still unresolved, so, again and again, McPhee repeated helping others understand what McPhee wanted to know: such as establishing boundaries, respecting others, taking responsibility for herself, and never giving up Live happily together. And McPhee himself couldn't get it, and was forever wandering.
Before helping others, help yourself first!
Compared with the phrase McPhee brought me uncomfortable dialogue, I think the poem recently by the "If You Are the One 2" in reference sung Lama:
you see, or not see me
I'll be there
not sad do not like
you read or do not read I
love is there
not to go
you love or do not love me
love is there
not to rise
you with me, or with me
my hand is in your hands
dismay Don't abandon
me in my arms
or
let me live in your heart,
love each other
silently, be quiet, and be happy.
When you express comfort, this person must be comfortable, and your heart is also comfortable.
There is no contradiction between true autonomy and love.
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