Our minds widespread in black and white, either-or condition. This state, known as the paranoid split state in the psychoanalytic school, is the normal developmental level of a 3-month-old baby. Such an old baby cannot deal with contradictory information, so it adopts a split mental mechanism. At this moment, either Accept the information of A, or only accept the information of -A, and cannot accept the coexistence of A and -A at the same time. For example, the mother at this moment is either completely perfect or completely evil, but the truth is that a mother has both advantages and disadvantages. This kind of contradictory information coexists at the same time.
If the parenting environment is good enough, a baby will pass the paranoid split period more smoothly and enter the depression period. During the period of depression, a more mature baby gradually understands that good and bad, satisfaction and dissatisfaction originally coexist. He feels a little depressed because of this, because he can no longer cling to "perfection", but at the same time he also has more maturity. His mind has learned tolerance and trust. For example, he finally learned to accept the fact that mothers have both advantages and disadvantages, and "good mother" and "bad mother" can be the same person.
Perhaps it is because there are too few good enough mothers. As a result, countless people are still largely stuck in a period of paranoia and division. Those students who are touched by this simple exercise have unanimously said, "I have always been either black or white. , It’s either or the other. Through this exercise, I can feel that I can be both black and white.” Some students quoted Tai Chi diagrams, not only can it be both black and white, but also black and white, and white. black.
If this principle is used to recognize people, a consciousness can be formed: seeing the presence of black in a person can confirm the presence of white in his body, and the degree of black and white is equivalent, so if one The more a person is consciously attached to something, it means that the opposite force in his heart is stronger.
I have deeply understood this truth through a large number of examples. I have summarized this truth in my article before:
if a person is super extroverted, then it can be asserted that he is actually super introverted. He seems to have countless friends, but in fact there is no A friend who can make a heart-to-heart;
if a person is super happy, it can be concluded that he is actually super sad. He is very happy in the daytime and in front of others, and will cry alone at night;
if a person is super sexy, it can be assumed that he is very It may be cold;
if a person is super friendly, it can be speculated that there is a big shadow hidden in his heart...It
can be said that everyone's human heart is like a Tai Chi picture, with black and white, and the black and white components are equal. However, we often consciously judge the content of one aspect as "good" and judge the content of the other as "bad", and then consciously cling to the "good", but the "bad" has not disappeared. Repressed into the subconscious.
—— Source of the article: "Psychological Monthly" blogger: Wu Zhihong
In addition, many people talked about spiritual salvation, thinking that La Motta's hitting the wall in prison was a kind of regret. I didn't see it. I think this is an accusation of the frustration La Mota has encountered in society, a kind of helpless depression. He himself lacks the mindset of reflection and self-adjustment in interaction with society. If he has that kind of temperament, or if he has obtained spiritual salvation, his later life shouldn't be so desolate. The quote from the Bible added at the end of the film may be a misleading to everyone, a misleading to make you deduced.
"You are very smart, you give me all the answers but you don't tell me the correct answer."
Does the correct answer exist?
Did you really open your eyes?
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