Because I also watch Criminal Minds and have been exposed to many cases of children being killed. In CM, the great grief of losing a child usually leads to the mutual blame of the parents, so that the ending of divorce and separation, and even in one episode, the parents of the family who died of the child are still in harmony, which aroused the suspicion of the FBI, and finally found out that it was them Another child killed his own brother.
Same thing in this movie. The mother who lost her daughter was reluctant to enter her daughter's room, and only hoped that the incident would pass quickly, but the father insisted on finding the real murderer, which eventually led to the separation of the two.
In February last year, my cousin, who was 2 years younger than me, died of a sudden illness. I was not in my hometown, so I don't know how my aunt and uncle survived this period. When I went back six months later, they had put their focus back on work, and at the same time, they were more loving than before. However, in the beginning, I also experienced self-blame and pain.
Something like death is the most extreme irreparable loss. I haven't experienced this deep pain because I haven't been so lost. However, do we have a chance, in the face of this pain, not to continue to hurt the people around us?
I know that such a thought is too frivolous to say, because the pain must be too deep to drive people to the brink of madness, so that they are completely hysterical and completely lose the ability to get along normally. However, if one pain causes more pain, life may enter a more tragic vicious circle.
Yet life has taught me that acceptance may make things a little easier than avoiding or forgetting. Because the pain of loss is an unavoidable bearing in life, the more you want to escape, the more deeply you get caught up in the memories of the past. What if you try to make such a loss part of your life and welcome the coming of pain as a normal thing?
Actually, it's not that difficult. When the loss comes, tell yourself: This is an irreversible fact. Then the pain hits, tell yourself: This is a normal reaction, and it should be painful at this time. So I immersed myself in pain happily, how the pain comes. After the pain, I found that those things have become the past, and the future life can still be chosen by oneself. If you still feel pain, it just means that the pain is not enough, continue to welcome until the day you want to be liberated. I tried this method and it worked immediately.
When the loss is irreparable, life needs to continue, face, bear, let go. What many people lack is only courage, in fact, it is really not that difficult.
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