Lonely people are shameless

Santino 2022-03-15 09:01:02

Ryan's brother-in-law flinched on the day of the wedding, and Ryan bit his head and went to talk to him. The brother-in-law said, what does it mean to get married, then have children, watch the children grow up, get married, have children, grow old, and then pass away forever? Ryan couldn't refute him, and after thinking for a long time, he said, life is better with company. I don't know if my brother-in-law will settle accounts with Ryan for these words in 30 years. The possibility is still quite large. Many people think that getting married is to find a partner. In fact, very few people can stick to this goal. You can get a divorce if you are married, and you will leave you when you have a child. If you insist on keeping him or her by your side, that is selfish. Even if it is less than 70, 80, it is still possible for one of the couple to take the first step. People actually grow old alone by themselves.

You can marry for selfish purposes, but marrying for a purpose that is unlikely to be achieved is actually unreliable.

Many people believe in fairy tales that two people will live happily together ever after after marriage. They blindly ignore many details, and they temporarily forget that only the person wearing the shoes knows whether the shoes are comfortable. I am not a pessimist, I am just a realist. So I believe that no matter how glamorous the appearance of a marriage is, how luxurious the opening is, the good show is still to come. There will be quarrels, boredom, mutual disapproval, and deception; of course there will be sweetness, warmth, mutual support, and company. You can say that this is life. Of course life is not always satisfactory. Marriage is not a perfect summary of the relationship between two people, it is just the beginning of real life.

Starting a family or being alone is just a choice. Like any choice, there will always be gains and losses, depending on which one is more important to you. Those who choose to get married, please endure limited freedom, accommodate to another person, and even your family, change yourself if necessary to match the growth of your spouse, and, most importantly, please stick to your commitments and responsibilities. Those who choose to be single need to endure sometimes loneliness, and don't envy others where they belong, because you have more freedom than them.

People are contradictory animals. Married people will inevitably admire the freedom of being single, and single people will always have some moments when their hearts are touched and they begin to think about the possibility of two people being together. Independent like Ryan, he also has the urge to leave everything behind and run to find Alex. If the movie ends at this time and two people live happily together ever after, then it would be a cliche. Fortunately, the director prepared a surprise for us.

I like the role of Alex very much. It is rare that a male director is willing to believe that a woman can do anything that a man can do, sometimes even stronger than a man. As a woman in her 30s, Alex is perfect, in work and life. She defines herself as a woman's version of a man. I want to give her another adjective: perfect. In contrast, Ryan is really a small kid.

He is indifferent and doesn't know how to get along with his family. He constantly reduces the weight of his backpack, because loneliness is his religion. One of his goals in life is to accumulate miles that have no practical meaning, because he can't find anything more meaningful. This point has the same effect as many people persistently remembering countless anniversaries. You desperately want to remember, because there is nothing more meaningful. However, what we don't deliberately but really remember is really meaningful.

Apart from all the above, I still like Ryan very much. Partly because independent people actually have similarities. The other part is probably due to maternal nature. I have watched too much, and listened too much. A man, no matter how old he is, is actually a child. There is still a large part, of course, because of George Clooney. I still like him as much as ten years ago, or more.

Back to the topic of marriage and family. At the end of the film, it is pointed out that the one who supports you in adversity will ultimately be your partner, child, and family. Yes, that's right. Although life is trivial and helpless, when you jump out of your regular life and look down at your life from a certain height, all you can think of and remember are probably beautiful things, and everything else is no longer important.

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Up in the Air quotes

  • Maynard Finch: [referring to his frequent flier miles] You're the youngest person so far to hit ten million. I don't know where you find the time

    Ryan Bingham: [dumbfounded after reaching his goal] I don't know

    Maynard Finch: [Hands him the lifetime executive status card] We really appreciate your loyalty.

    Ryan Bingham: I've thought about this moment so many times, I even thought about the conversation we'd have

    Maynard Finch: What'd you want to say?

    Ryan Bingham: Now I don't remember

    Maynard Finch: That's alright it happens to all of us, where are you from?

    Ryan Bingham: [realizing he has no home] 'm from here

  • Craig Gregory: You remember Karen Barnes? She was part of a thirty percent reduction in Wichita, Natalie fired her

    Ryan Bingham: I've fired dozens of people a day

    Craig Gregory: She killed herself, jumped off a bridge

    Ryan Bingham: Fuck

    Craig Gregory: I need to know if anyone gave you any signals, depression?

    Ryan Bingham: Their all depressed when we fire them

    Craig Gregory: I need to ask you this stuff

    Ryan Bingham: No, I don't remember

    Craig Gregory: You don't remember anyone woman that gave you any signals?

    Ryan Bingham: No, nothing stands out, is Natalie alright?

    Craig Gregory: Natalie quit

    Ryan Bingham: She quit?

    Craig Gregory: by text message, fucking nice right? Nobody's got any manners anymore

    Ryan Bingham: Did she say where she was going?

    Craig Gregory: no, I need you back in the air, did you hear what I just said? I thought you'd be thrilled about that

    Ryan Bingham: That's fine, what about the video conference?

    Craig Gregory: CTC is going have to pause since Natalie walked out, we've got to get our work horses in the air: doing what they do best

    Ryan Bingham: How long you sending me out?

    Craig Gregory: We're going to let you sail and sail, send us a post card if you ever get there