I have read a passage: The real difficulty in life is that facing difficulties and seeking solutions is a very painful process. In everyone's life, there will be many difficulties, and the road to happiness is not easy to walk. But it is not easy to walk, it does not mean that we will not be happy. Bette and Tina have perfectly explained this truth in life to us.
Bette's appearance, smart and capable, successful career, happy life, independent, confident, high-spirited, in control of everything, exudes a dazzling light all over her body, and gathers thousands of pets. And Tina, beautiful, virtuous, considerate, and a little bird. However, problems followed. Bette was frustrated at work, two people lost their children, and Bette cheated..., which kept my heart tangled. There was no pain, and even happiness was humble. In our lives, each of us We all suffer, but fortunately, pain makes us grow, pain makes us know ourselves, yes, know ourselves, and Bette and Tina let us share the most painful and difficult journey of their lives to know ourselves.
Bette is responsible, loyal, narcissistic, strong, motivated, insists on an independent self, and has a strong view of right and wrong. She bears the burden of the family, bears Tina's happiness, bears her own beliefs. She did not regard herself as an ordinary person like others. She felt that she was different. She was strong. She would not share the pressure of work. She felt that she would not depend on others. She felt that she You don't need anyone else, because everything is under your control. She said she didn't need tears. Because of these, she can't see others, what she sees is only herself, she needs others to need her, rely on her, envy her, respect her. From others, she proves and feels her worth. These things are obviously overwhelmed. Bette's journey to understand herself began with her disappointment in her career and the pain of losing her child. Bette, who has always been proud of herself, was at a loss for these. Her great pain was beyond the sense of others, because she would never tell others. Expressing her own thoughts, she just wants to show everyone, especially the strong, indestructible side of tina she loves, she doesn't know herself, she doesn't know she's not that strong, she's just not yet Know how to take care of yourself, face difficulties, how to solve problems, how to learn to take responsibility with others, to share, to be sensitive, to be lonely, to be children who need love. She hasn't learned to share her pain and stress with the people she loves, because she wants to bring out the best in them. There is no doubt that she loves Tina and has always loved Tina, It's just that she doesn't know that she loves her so deeply. She is emotional and affectionate. She loves her. She thinks that she should bear Tina's happiness. I just want to show my best side to others. The more I love and care, the stronger this feeling will be. At this time, she didn't know how to love or how to love. Many people can't understand why Bette cheated. Just like Tina said, how difficult it is for a person to finally love someone, it's really not difficult, but we don't have any real experience, we all stand and talk without back pain, Bette I did something wrong. I think Bette at that time desperately needed someone she didn't care about and met her by chance to share her stress and pain. Of course, Bette was a person who kept a distance from others, and she didn't want to share it with anyone. Her life, just like Jodi's unhappy interview with alice on planet in the fifth season, why she cheated, she doesn't know, many things are for no reason, why are they making excuses for themselves to a large extent. It's just that at that time, she was just controlling herself, not finding an outlet for herself. The perfect self was too tired. She said, I always force myself to destroy it. If I have something beautiful, I will There is always a feeling of wanting to destroy it. The reason why she feels this way is because she overestimated herself, she was very tired, she wanted to be the person she should be, but she didn't know what kind of person she was. People who don't know herself don't know how to give love, because she will feel that her love is very heavy and tired, so she will wonder if she has lost the ability to love. It's not that she doesn't love, it's not that she doesn't have the ability to love, it's just that she doesn't know herself. As for Tina, she will resign and stay at home because she loves Bette deeply. She has to organize a family together, raise a child together, and then accept Bette who is tolerant and control freak. She is even afraid that beete will mind because she is pregnant and fat, and she will mind her body after giving birth to a child. She doesn't want to make out with Bette. She knows Bette and knows how to get along with her. Tina is very independent and decisive. She loves Bette and starts to rely on Bette. When she feels loved and secure, she is not the real her. She finally understands that we can't rely on anyone, nor can we be depended on by others. She is good at self-examination and change. She bought the fertility tub from tina. As it turns out, Bette asked her: When did we decide to do this? tina replied: From when I decided to do it. Although Bette always felt that she had to take care of her and bear her pain, Tina was a more rational, braver and stronger person than her. Losing a child made Tina very painful, but for Bette, she quickly regained her strength and went to artificial insemination, which shows her strength, and she said that she felt that Bette could not bear the blow of losing another child, but undoubtedly, she felt You can bear it yourself. She knows Bette very well. When Bette got into an argument with her because she bought a fertility tub, Tina finally just said, please, move your car. She is also very considerate. She never makes a scene when she encounters a problem. I want to understand myself. Like when Bette didn't tell her that the donor was black in advance, she faced it well and solved the problem, I think a black donor is not an easy thing for a white person. Just like when she felt that she couldn't feel the pride of Bette being with her, and when she didn't feel safe, she just suffered silently and made changes silently. Her pain is not exposed, and many things are buried in her heart and not expressed. She has a very tolerant person, and in the face of Bette's vexatiousness, or her desire for control, she always tolerates it without complaint. She is also very understanding. She never makes a big noise when she encounters a problem. She will let herself figure it out. Like when Bette didn't tell her that the donor was black in advance, she faced it well and solved the problem, I think a black donor is not an easy thing for a white person. Just like when she felt that she couldn't feel the pride of Bette being with her, and when she didn't feel safe, she just suffered silently and made changes silently. Her pain is not exposed, and many things are buried in her heart and not expressed. She has a very tolerant person, and in the face of Bette's vexatiousness, or her desire for control, she always tolerates it without complaint. She is also very understanding. She never makes a big noise when she encounters a problem. She will let herself figure it out. Like when Bette didn't tell her that the donor was black in advance, she faced it well and solved the problem, I think a black donor is not an easy thing for a white person. Just like when she felt that she couldn't feel the pride of Bette being with her, and when she didn't feel safe, she just suffered silently and made changes silently. Her pain is not exposed, and many things are buried in her heart and not expressed. She has a very tolerant person, and in the face of Bette's vexatiousness, or her desire for control, she always tolerates it without complaint.
When she lost Tina, she realized that she couldn't live without her, how much she loved her, and the confession she made to Tina asking for forgiveness in front of everyone. Yes, she wanted Tina to love her like a child, so she was so angry when she found out that Tina was looking for a lawyer. She even imagined that Tina became fat because she loved her and overeating, and imagined that others would not pursue a fat Tina. She lives in her own little world, she still can't see others, she still feels that she is powerful and in control of everything, she loves tina, and tina should love her. Bette is vulnerable and impulsive. As for Tina, her pressure and pain must be no less than Bette's. For a person who gave up his job and entrusted everything to a loved one, then his dream was broken, everything started from scratch, and he had to be a single mother. , Bette's derailment and the shattering of her first love made her feel like she wanted to die. But Tina is rational, she will not suffer endless pain, she will not give up on herself, she has a strong healing function, she can quickly know what to do, and then take action, she will not let the pain stop Being on herself for too long, her heart is strong, she doesn't complain, she can face reality positively, she quickly found a job, and found her place in the job.
But Bette didn't really understand Tina. She hoped that Tina needed her, needed her care, needed her protection. When she saw Tina who made her own decision, she was stunned. When she saw Tina who was confident and radiant, she was at a loss. , Feeling abandoned, she wants to be needed, but she is the one who needs others. But the touching person, Bette is a responsible person, a person who can bear it. In the face of mistakes, she did not run away, but did not give up and worked hard. Bette who doesn't need tears is a very emotional person, she doesn't need it, she just hopes she doesn't need it, and the person who doesn't need tears is not a real Bette. Bette doesn't know Tina, but, no doubt, Tina is the one who knows Bette best, she is pregnant, she knows to make Bette think she is the first to know, especially to help Bette chase Jodi and text Jodi in Bette's name Say: When I'm scared, I'm cautious, when I'm overwhelmed, I exaggerate, and when I'm faced with a challenge, I'm timid and embarrassed. It can be seen that Tina understands Bette, and Tina points out that Bette is a control freak. Bette knows that Tee knows her best. She actually relies on her and loves her, so she will talk to her and ask questions.
Tina is realistic, but Bette lives in her own artist's small world. As everyone knows, she has to think about life, rice, oil, and salt. She can't face her credit card suspension. Faced with the problem, she can't find her own reasons, but the reasons of others. She doesn't know herself, and she doesn't know Tina. She feels Her work is more important than Tina's. Tina was disappointed. Tina began to doubt her original choice. Was it a mistake to betray her heterosexuality and fall in love with Bette? She is a person who can constantly reflect on herself. During that time, her inner struggle and Pain is incomprehensible to others. This introspection requires great courage and determination to truly face it. Bette will not understand. This is a huge harm to Bette. Even in the face of such great pain, Bette still cannot Knowing Tina, she didn't really look at herself. She was proud. She felt that Tina was no longer her partner, so Tina would have no privileges in many things. At this time, Bette still didn't know how to love, although she loved Tina, If she doesn't love her, she won't mind everyone who gets along with Tina, even when she has Jodi, if she doesn't love Tina, she won't love Angie so much. Her love for Angie also reflects her love for Tina. The love of this person is someone who is willing to build a family with her and have children with her, because Angie was born by Tina, because Tina was pregnant when she lived with her, so she cherishes Angie very much, it can also be said that She cherishes her relationship with mmt very much. Participating in meditation was a turning point, she knew she wanted a lot of things, but when she was hurt, she didn't know how to face it, all she thought about was hurting others, even the ones she loved, that's why she wanted Agen's Custody, but when she faced her beloved Tina, she immediately regretted it. In fact, how much she longed to form a family with her beloved mother and daughter, how much she hoped that Tina would value her. I really feel bad for Bette. After so much pain, Bette has finally changed. She knows that her relationship with Tina is real and that Tina has loved her. We see more painful bettes, But Tina's pain is ignored. In fact, both of them are struggling in pain, reborn, but the emotional, fragile Bette and rational, strong Tina are presented in different ways, she often does not show it, yes deep in my heart. Our eyes sometimes blind us, and many things need to be experienced and felt with our hearts, just like the pain of Tina.
This part with Jodi is just a process of infatuation, not love. Infatuation can only be viewed from a distance. Once the distance is gone, it will be calm. Whether Bette and Tina are together or not, in my opinion, they are both in the closest place in each other's hearts, a place that no one can enter and replace. This kind of feeling is the accumulation of pain, joy, etc. over time, it is deep and cannot be erased. Bette accepts this relationship. First of all, I think she discovered a lot of her own problems in her relationship with Tina. She understands that she has done a lot of wrong things. She really wants to start a new relationship to prove that she has established a relationship with herself. Feelings is not a difficult thing to make up for your mistakes. Secondly, I think she is more inclined to identify with this relationship, and she wants to do better. There are frictions, problems between her and Jodi, she is always thinking of solutions, trying to change herself, this is not because she loves her, but only because she is making up for that through her review of the failure of her relationship with tina wrong self. She tried to learn how to love others. Tina confirmed that she is les, no longer confused, she found that she still loves Bette, but she didn't show too much, she knows how to love, she hides love in her heart, I think she also knows Bette, Everyone said that Bette was a very caring person and used to be a super cheat in the office, but only Tina said that Bette was loyal and she was giving her time to recognize her feelings. Without these twists and turns, Bette would not have found that Tina was the love of her life, Tina would not have determined that she was a les, and would not have been sure that Bette was really her first, last and forever. They belong to each other, they have always been like this, they have the same values, they both yearn for a stable family, they like the choices made by each other, and they like to hate the same people. Only in front of each other can they be the most authentic, relaxed and happiest. All the pain they experienced was just a process of discovering themselves, recognizing themselves and each other. I am really fortunate that the two grew up together, and because of this, the two finally settled down together. Angie was a bond between the two of them and played a vital role in both of them. Their growth and transformation began with angie, who also made them understand more and made them more harmonious. They must have realized this too, and knowing how important this child is to them, they will love her even more, and even thank her. That's why Bette and Tina still want to adopt a child and form a happy family. Nothing matters, what matters is mmt, mmb, and cute angie, what matters is such a happy family.
Later, Bette said that she didn't think that she could let Tina take care of her and take care of the children at home. I think this is the real Bette, the one who relieves the pressure. On the contrary, tina is a person who can't live without a career. Tina at work has powerful energy and charm. When her work is not satisfactory, she feels bad when she sees the energy emitted by bette and jodi. She felt proud to be together, and that way, it felt safe for her. It turns out that we may not know what our true self is like until we encounter difficulties.
Time is really a wonderful thing, it can make people forget a lot of things, make a lot of things continue to become lighter until they disappear, and also precipitate a lot of things, getting heavier and heavier. I really like to see the tacit understanding between Bette and Tina together, the perfect combination of the two people together, the deepest impression is the tacit understanding when they and everyone let Alice end the relationship with Gabby, and what the two of them said to Alice in the last season" "Lightbulb obsession" and many other places, the two of them raised their hands, made a gesture, smiled, looked at each other, they hugged, they kissed, they slept with each other, even quarrels, pain, every detail, It makes people feel their love for each other, and it makes people feel that these two people are destined to be together, they really belong to each other, and they are the right people found in each other's life. Fortunately, they found it, and they supported each other. Their future road will definitely have twists and turns, pressure and pain. We renew ourselves every day and promise ourselves that tomorrow will be better, but there are many difficulties in the process. . But, I believe, they will still be together. Their feelings and tacit understanding will continue to pass through the baptism of time, gradually precipitate, and accumulate deeper and deeper, and no one can replace them.
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