When I turned 30, I would start planning my retirement life from time to time in my mind, especially thinking about how to live to the fullest if I die alone.
Getting old is an irreversible and irreversible fact, especially for women. Looking at the face that is no longer young, the body that is swollen and deformed, and the energy that is no longer strong, I may sigh with a guilty conscience that I will still love every wrinkle. , but how to really get along with yourself from the bottom of your heart and not fall into depression is by no means simple.
When chatting with a girlfriend who was over 40 and still single, she said that when she was young, she couldn't imagine what she looked like in her 40s. I didn't feel how old I was in my heart, but it was true that I was easily tired, and my body still sent a message of sobriety.
In the film "Who Do You Think I Am" , Juliette Binoche shows us such a group that is not much noticed but cannot be ignored: 50-year-old, divorced, college teacher Claire.
The whole story starts with her seeing a psychiatrist as the main line. And all the stories are her conversations with a psychiatrist, as well as the psychiatrist's analysis. But the film incorporates layers of twists and turns, even burying an open-ended ending at the end.
She has actually completed the switching of a woman's different roles in life. She has a 20-year marriage, so she used to be a wife; she has two underage sons, so she is a mother again; she is still literature Professor, a job with connotation, cultivation, decent and not heavy work.
Although divorced, the situation is far from tragic. Moreover, she has a slender figure and a good appearance. Although there are clear wrinkles around her eyes, she gives a sense of high knowledge and elegance.
Marriage is a matter of fate. The reasons for divorce are so outdated and tasteless that the husband finally chose a young and beautiful woman to leave home. Who would have expected this to be a pain that she could not heal.
She may be able to compete with rivals in other dimensions, but age is a flaw, and she can't compete with years no matter what, such a single-dimensional comparison is unfair, because even young rivals will grow old one day. It is difficult to guarantee that the ex-husband will not change his mind again.
It's just that the world is so unfair. Women who want to get pregnant and have children will lose their shape and then lose their favor; but men can still find young and beautiful women to fall in love with even if they have a big belly.
Real helplessness
Claire, who was divorced, did not give up and insisted on finding her own small pond in the ocean of love.
So at the beginning of the film, we saw the scene where she was rolling in the bed with a good-looking young man, LUDO, but she was destined to be hurt because of her feelings and longing for love.
After waking up the next day, the man immediately distanced himself from the relationship, he was just a bed partner, why should he be so serious? Then she was blocked.
She didn't give up and set up a fake account on Facebook to contact LUDO, but the other party only accepted friend applications from people she knew.
So she took the curve to save the country, added his friend ALEX first, changed her birth year to 1993, and uploaded a photo of her niece. ALEX is a photographer. He is also young and handsome. The two people who have been in contact with each other even talked about online dating.
Does this episode look like a bargaining chip for an old woman to pretend to be a pretty girl on the Internet to cheat money? But Claire is serious.
She hides under the head of the young woman and talks to the unsuspecting man about the unseen love. She talks about music, photography, life, and of course love.
When you are in love, the whole person glows. Walking with wind, speaking with confidence, and in high spirits, I feel that I have returned to 20 years old.
It's no good to tease the other party, but I backed away when I was going to meet several times, either because of something at home or a boyfriend, and finally said that my boyfriend proposed to marry me, so I had to leave France. ALEX eventually lost his heart and disappeared into the crowd.
After learning that she lost her love, she cried so hard that she was really like a little girl who had lost the person she loved the most. Even if her youngest son complained outside that there was no food at home, she still fell into her own emotions. . She is too concerned with love itself, and too eager to be loved.
It wasn't that she didn't think that maybe the other party would fall in love with her 50-year-old heart, but it was ridiculous that even if she stood in front of the other party, ALEX's eyes wouldn't stay on her for a second.
At that moment, she understood that all the illusions were just the beauty sketched in her mind, and real life was cruel.
After ALEX canceled his account, he disappeared from the crowd, and the man who had sex with Claire at first tricked her into saying that ALEX died for her.
She couldn't help herself suddenly, and at the same time, she paid homage to her love with great sympathy, so she wrote a novel, in which another situation of the story unfolded.
fictional hypothesis
In the second stage of the film, the scene that Claire imagined in her novel is that ALEX falls in love with her in real life.
Everything in the novel is a fictional picture of brain supplementation, so it can be unscrupulous.
She arranged herself to meet him on the train, invited him to come to the house to take pictures of the author of the new book, and fell in love and cohabitation after letting the other party sigh that you are really beautiful in one or two times.
In the novel, he admires her wrinkled face, her erudition and every inch of her skin.
They had a happy life in the novel, but she also knew that paper couldn't hold fire after all. In the intertwining of gongs and chips, she saw the face of an imaginary young woman.
So at the end of the novel, she arranged for ALEX to discover that he was the young woman in his network, and to make the two women become one, but she was hit by a car at the moment when ALEX discovered the truth in the ending.
That's right, even in the novel, she doesn't make herself happy. She just felt like she didn't deserve it.
Emotional women are destined to suffer more than other people needlessly.
Men are always forgetful
The psychiatrist had doubts about the truth of the story, so he visited LUDO and told him that Claire was in psychotherapy and wanted to know the real truth.
Only then did LUDO reveal it. In fact, when ALEX listened to him, he already knew that it was Claire who was pretending, and told ALEX in time that it was a scam. The so-called suicide of ALEX for love was just made up by LUDO to punish Claire. ALEX has already married and had children, and has entered a normal life trajectory. The family is doing well.
The truth is always cruel, and it was shared with Claire when the psychiatrist was leaving after his final session. She doesn't need to blame herself, because no one has died because of her, and she should get out of her failed marriage in the past.
Claire talked about Ibsen's "A Doll's House" and Duras' "The Lover" in class, the independence of female self-consciousness, and she read Duras' Lover:
Between the age of eighteen and twenty-five, my original appearance has long since disappeared
I don't know if everyone is like this, I never asked anyone
As if someone told me that time flies
In the youngest years of my life, the most admirable years
It's a very French film, both in terms of the tone of the picture and the way it was shot.
But the direction of the story is still based on reality, and no miracle happened. In the end, Claire picked up the mobile phone that ALEX had been in contact with and dialed the other party's number, but the phone kept ringing and no one answered...
The film leaves an open ending at the end, but it also implies that in fact, Claire has not come out, and she is still extremely insecure and needs the attention of others.
Here is an issue, if women have no love, how can they make peace with themselves?
What the movie tells us is that if women are obsessed with love, they will be hurt by love and will screw up their lives. No matter how old they are, 50-year-old love is no different from 24-year-old, or even crazier. And I don't agree that Claire needs this ending.
She could have lived more dashingly, more loyal to herself, and more tolerant of herself, but the problem is that in her life, the proportion of love is too heavy, and she is controlled by this volatile and uncontrollable emotion.
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