There are no fancy memories, reverse sequences, reversals, etc., it is a positive sequence that is steadily advancing. You know which direction it will develop, but you don't know what will happen and how it will end. How can couples who love each other get married and have children come to the point where they can't make friends? With this question in mind, the director told us a very common divorce case.
Husbands and wives do not have deep hatred. Whoever makes a big mistake is a normal person, a complex individual mixed with right and wrong. However, after the lawyer intervenes and exposes his life to the eyes of the judge and jury, everyone's shortcomings will be magnified. , splashing dirty water on each other, and even becoming a heinous villain. After going to court, I can still communicate normally. I think it is already very restrained. The climax is quarreling in the new house, accusing and cursing each other, feeling wronged, paying too much for the family, and the other party being inconsiderate of them, which should not be too common in reality.
In fact, there is a point that I think may be overlooked by everyone. The economic basis determines the superstructure, which is also applicable in family relations. Whoever has a good career, thinks that he has the right to speak, and I have the final say in major family decisions; If you meet a strong person who is actually weak, there is bound to be a quarrel.
In reality, it is common that the man is in an economically dominant position and requires women to obey. What is the man in charge of the outside and the woman in the house? I listen to me in major matters, and she listens to small things. It is all assigned by the man who is in the dominant position. I have asked the woman. opinion? not at all. In the past, when men were strong and women were weak, women who lost their husbands felt that the sky was about to fall. The tears they cried had two meanings: love and reluctance for their husbands, and worries and fears about their unknown destiny.
But the situation has changed now, which may be related to the awakening of women and feminism. Women will feel that even if I am not as strong as you, my voice should be heard and respected, even if it may not be thoughtful and reasonable without you, I should have the right to make decisions. Maybe this is what women want.
To expand, not only couples, but our common relationship models, such as parents, friends, and colleagues, are actually like this. The stronger party's voice will be heard, and things will go in the direction he wants. When others are executing, there will be more or less resentment. This is determined by the weaker party. After all, no one is a tool person through and through.
Everyone's personality, preferences, and specialties are different, so just find your own position. Some people may think that it is good to be a strong side, and to direct others to do things, but are you sure you can withstand doubts and pressures? Do you have the means to get rid of those restless factors? The strong side and the weak side, there is no good or bad, only suitable or unsuitable.
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