"Get your feet off our neck" kept ringing in my ears. After a long time, I can't even feel the weight on the neck, the feet on the neck have been integrated with the neck and become a part of women's life.
The situation of women is very embarrassing, you can't speak, you can't speak for yourself, once you speak, it is easy to be beaten as a feminist dog. You don't speak, and you quietly hang it as a mural on the wall next to you. Others think that you are not beautiful, gentle and sensible enough. Your mural has no connotation, content and inner strength. At this time, the woman was at a loss, not knowing whether to speak. Don't know what kind of Mona Lisa's smile should be kept when the mural.
Two environments, in the workplace and in life. I don't even know that my neck hurts after being trampled on for a long time. Instead, I see this pain as a responsibility, an obligation, and a justification.
I have a colleague, female, in her early 30s, with a child in kindergarten. Recently, I was busy with work and came home very late. It was almost 9 o'clock. My father-in-law was sitting at the door of the house with the child and waiting for her to come back. The invisible pressure forced her to almost collapse. The next day, he came to me and cried, saying why I was sorry for my family and my children. A question after I tried my best to comfort? Why did her husband, cum child dad go? Her child's father works almost every day until he comes home at night, and he has formed a habit all the year round. Even his parents-in-law express their approval and support for their son's overtime work all year round, while his daughter-in-law occasionally works overtime for a few days, but feels resentment. Even my colleague doesn't think there's anything wrong with her husband, but just reflects on why she can't balance her family and work.
I worked in a law firm for a period of time before. Once I got off work on time, I saw many male colleagues in the small box of the paralegal outside, although they had nothing to do, but still did not want to go home. Some even turned on the computer and formed a group to play games. , while the female colleague packed up and went home as if someone was chasing after her. I was young at the time, so I didn’t know why. Later, I found out that the female colleague who was anxious to go home had many after-class tasks, such as picking up the child from school, sending the child to the remedial class, going home to cook, and taking the child home to do homework. And the male colleagues who stayed in the company had no other profound reasons. They didn't want to go home to cook, take their children, or face chicken feathers. What is scary is not this phenomenon, but that everyone sees this phenomenon and feels it is very normal.
Even myself is no exception. Recently, the team has recruited people, and I have grown and matured a lot. The social practice over the years has also left a lot of slap marks on my face. For example, whether to recruit people or try to recruit men, why do I want to? Hiring a man? It's not because men are high-level and capable, but on the contrary, women with the same educational background are far superior to men in all aspects of quality. Men are recruited only because men's satisfaction with family needs is so low that they would rather go out to accompany customers to drink and sing until late at night rather than go home to take care of their newborn son. This is great for the company and for what an organization wants. Not people but labor. Women are different. No matter how enthusiastic, motivated, and responsible they are for their work (which is often the case), they will eventually be overwhelmed by the guilt of being a mother.
The most outrageous thing is that these are the norm. Parents of girls even feel that girls should take care of their families more and take care of their husbands and children. The leaders of the company would even say when they were joking, "It's okay, this project doesn't work out/if the company collapses, you can still go home and be a full-time wife. Your husband is so capable... How are women positioned?" How is it positioned by society? How are you positioned yourself?
I saw a Japanese drama before, I forgot the name, but I remember one detail very clearly. A man in his 40s and 50s was bragging about how happy his family was and how virtuous his wife was in a tavern. Dish, no matter how late you drink, the wife will help him clean up the mess, and the wife of the elderly and children also takes care of it in an orderly manner, which made many men sitting with him envious at that time. But it didn't take long for the man to come to the tavern in despair. His wife had just divorced the man after his daughter's wedding. When divorced, he was very calm and calm, and his wife said, "I have fulfilled all my obligations, taking care of your parents died, and the children have all started a family. Finally, I can have a vacation, so I can live the rest of my life happily, I have already Retired from your marriage." The divorced wife came to the tavern with her puppy in her arms, drank small wine and ate side dishes happily, pampering herself beyond measure. As for the husband, without the care of his wife, he is like a lost dog.
You see, even so, as a woman, you have the self-consciousness of caring for your family, and think that raising children is your natural obligation, and taking care of your family is a responsibility that is integrated into your blood.
A while ago, I was busy with a project, often working overtime, and finally came home for dinner. My father taught me hard, that girls don’t have to work hard in their careers, but they still need to focus more on taking care of children and families.
This intangible value is pervasive, and you can't escape it if you want to.
Like every detail in the movie, is the other party's lawyer a bad guy? Are male judges monsters? No, they feel that the social division of labor for women to stay at home is to support and care for women, and it is a result of their courage to sacrifice their ego to fulfill you. But in fact, dolls can only be played by girls, and robots can only be bought by boys. If a boy speaks softly, he will be labeled as a sissy, and if a girl cuts an inch, it is considered to be outrageous. As said in the movie, our next generation is firmly controlled by our generation to die in an invisible fence. This constant 360-degree slander without dead ends prevents children from breathing the air of free choice. , and pursue the rights of the id. It takes a ton of courage and faith to be brave enough to admit that knowing yourself is a difficult and complex journey and that you are who you are and not who others see you as you should be.
How difficult is it for women in the workplace, not in life, not at home, not in the child's teacher's office, by the bedside of the parents' hospital. At first glance, this kind of difficulty is caused by women, but if you taste it carefully, it is subtly given to you by the society in this era.
Everyone has only a few decades to live, and men and women are equal. In this lifetime, it is really hard to say whether you have truly been yourself.
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