This is an old movie, released in 1989. When I was about to finish it in about ten minutes, I said casually, "They (the hero and heroine) will definitely be together in the end." A friend who lived in the same house had also seen this movie before, and she said, "They will end up together in the end." Not together." Immediately followed, he added, "Oops, am I a spoiler, I'm such a bad sister."
Hearing this, I felt some loss in my heart, but I said, "It doesn't matter if they are together or not, it's a movie anyway."
1 There are many strange marriages in this world
I'm not sure if this is love or marriage. In addition to the main line of Hari Sally's story, the film also intersperses 5 short stories in the form of interviews, each of which tells how they met and why they got married.
The first couple, a man fell in love with a woman at first sight in a restaurant, and got married two weeks later. The second pair, who fell in love in high school, met again after 34 years, as if they had never changed. The third couple, the man met his future wife while attending a funeral after three divorces. They knew each other for a month and got married. Thirty or forty years have passed in between. The fourth pair, the first time a man goes to a woman and introduces himself to the other party, the woman understands everything in her heart. The fifth couple, the accent sounds like Japanese, and someone matched them for them. The man secretly went to the next village to see what this woman looked like, and if it was good, he would marry her. They got married and had a stable relationship for 55 years.
Here, there is love at first sight and the words of a matchmaker, there are three lives determined by one glance, and there are marriages that have broken down many times before they find their belonging. There is ignorant and youthful love for teenagers, and there is love that never tires and starts with friends.
Harry and Sally's love started as a friend. They got married after three months together, but they have known each other for twelve years and three months.
2 The anger of men and women
At the beginning of the story I neither liked Harry nor Sally. Harry isn't handsome, and Sally isn't pretty either. Harry was not hygienic and spit grape skins into the car window. The way Harry speaks is annoying, always imposing his personal opinion with "that's what you think".
It wasn't until Harry said "I've never dated a non-sexual woman, I'm growing up" that I didn't get into it. I know there are differences in sexuality between men and women, but what if you think a step further? If the intercourse between the sexes takes away the sex, what is left? The film also wants to answer this question.
Harry didn't understand the difference in attitudes between men and women at first. Harry believes that Sally's breakup is not a good enough sexual experience, and there is no pure friendship between a man and a woman. Harry could sleep with a girl he didn't like when he was just divorced and depressed, while Sally could only get out of it day by day, holding hands, kissing, hugging, and rolling the sheets only when she was organized.
Women love before sex, men love before sex. A woman will have sex with him only if she thinks this person is good, and a man who wants to have sex with a woman will think that this person is good in everything.
Harry was a normal man, but he also had a strong curiosity. He was lucky enough to meet Sally, and not every girl can tolerate a straight guy who candid all his true thoughts, even if some of them are offensive. Sally is very open and accommodating, but there are days when it can't be covered.
Harry ran into his ex-wife, and the anger of betrayal burned in his heart and rushed out of his throat. He shoots wildly at the couple (all friends) who are happily arranging their new home. In the beginning, you are arrogant, but in the end, it is not so quarrelsome that the relationship breaks down. Sally persuaded him to "split the time and the place to get angry", but he didn't expect Harry to tell Sally together, and finally annoyed Sally.
- Harry: "If you don't have feelings for Joe, why don't you hang out with someone else?"
- Sally: "I'm dating!"
- Harry: "Dating? Have you ever slept with anyone since you broke up with Joe?"
- Sally: "Does it matter?"
- Sally: "Does it prove that I don't have feelings for Joe by having sex with someone else? You have to go back to New Jersey because you're sleeping with everyone in New York, and I don't see how that makes you forget about Helen."
- Sally: "Besides, I only have sex when I have love, unlike you, like you want to vent."
Then, Harry looked at Sally, his face no longer flushed.
- Harry: "Are you finished?"
- Sally: "Hmm."
- Harry: "Can I say something?"
- Sally: "Yes."
- Harry hugged Sally and said, "I'm sorry. I'm sorry."
At that moment, I guess they will end up together. "Noisy for a long time" is another kind of happiness in love. Behind it is not tolerance and anger, but tolerance and understanding, which is different.
3 unreasonable women
Harry broke down because of his ex-wife Helen, and Sally also broke down because of his ex-boyfriend. It's just that Harry's collapse was anger, and Sally's collapse was crying.
Sally called Harry late at night and asked Harry to come over with him. Harry dropped "I'll be right there" and appeared at her door. Harry has Sally in his heart.
Sally was pumping a tissue and throwing it over and over and crying. This kind of willfulness just showed that she was very relaxed. Sally can show all his emotions in front of Harry, just like Harry can say everything in Sally.
She blamed herself, she denied herself, she cried that her youth was delayed by scumbags, so she had this classic line, "It's not that he doesn't want to get married, he just doesn't want to marry you."
She is not reconciled. Harry asked her if she would make up if her ex came back, and she said categorically "no". What she cared about was that he didn't marry her. He did not marry her who had been with him for five years, but married a woman he had just met. She thought she was the last person, but she didn't want to be just a passerby. She was not reconciled, so many years could not compare to the fact that they had just met.
Women like to exaggerate when they're angry, but I like that they don't play the cards according to common sense. Women do not speak logic, it is when women are the most lovely.
- Sally: I drove him away, and I'm almost 40 years old.
- Harry: When?
- Sally: Someday.
- Harry: Eight years later?
Women will be careful to determine again and again whether the other party is lonely or in love. When she and Harry got along well, they would make a pact with each other that if they were single at the end of next year, they would be together. But she'd also be disappointed, telling Harry on New Year's Eve that they were supposed to be together, "I can't do this anymore, I'm not your consolation prize."
When a woman gives her sincerity, she expects you to be sincere too. At a friend's wedding, Harry said "I didn't go to have sex with you, you looked at me with tears in your eyes, 'Don't go home, hold me, Harry'", Sally got angry and gave Harry a note Slap. The relationship was frozen, and Sally ignored Harry again.
If you want a woman to hate you, just say "I don't love you, I just pity you". That's not what Harry meant in the movie, but Sally didn't give Harry a chance to explain it either.
It stayed that way. On New Year's Eve, Sally went to the Party, and Harry wandered the streets alone. If you have someone in your heart, when you see someone hugging you, you wish you could hug them too. And you also know that it's because you love her, not because you're lonely.
One good thing about Harry is that he's thick-skinned (willing to take the initiative), but not shy. He was in the last few minutes, running all the way to find Sally. In this clip, I like Harry's initiative and Sally's candor and tolerance.
- Sally: "I'm sorry Harry, I know it's New Year's Eve and I know you feel lonely, but you can't just show up and say you love me and expect everything to be ok, that's not okay!"
- Harry: "So what do you want?"
- Sally: "I don't know, but it's not like that."
- Harry: "How about that?
- Harry: "I love you, it's 71 degrees outside and you have a cold; I love that you take half an hour to order sandwiches (order refers to meals); I love that you frown at me looking silly; I love being with you all day together, you can smell on your clothes; I also love that you are the last person you want to talk to before bed every night. It's not because I'm alone or it's New Year's Eve, I'm here because, if you realize you're going to Spend the rest of your life with someone, and you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
- Sally: "Look, that's what you are, Harry, you talk like that so I can't hate you, I hate you, Harry, I really hate you, I hate you."
Oh yes, women are also duplicitous. Everyone understands that when Sally says "I hate you" it is "I love you".
Epilogue
Fortunately, they were together in the end. Fortunately, my friend remembered it wrongly. Otherwise, I don't know how to write this review. If they hadn't ended up together, I probably wouldn't have liked the story. It's a preference of mine that doesn't make sense, I like good stories happening.
I'd be very disappointed if they didn't end up together. Because it makes me wonder, are all feelings accidental? As long as the author wishes, can it be changed with or without being together?
Fortunately, this is a good work, the writer writes the beginning, and the characters choose their own destiny.
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