It is said that life is a practice, but we who are "good and lazy" still don't want to "enjoy" that wave of journey. Just like when we watch "Journey to the West", we always hope that Monkey King can carry Tang Seng on his back and turn a somersault to the west, saving you from the ninety-nine and eighty-one difficulties.
But what about reality? No, because the Buddha would not let it!
Because Tang Seng only experienced these hardships before he could deeply understand the Buddhism and have the capital to obtain the truth. Otherwise, the scriptures he fetched are just empty and have no real value.
The same is true of our lives. Only by experiencing every moment of life can you feel the meaning of life and know how to enjoy the truly precious things.
Do not believe? You can take a look at the movie "Remote for Life", a realistic interpretation of "how bad is your ideal life"!
When you work overtime, do you long for time to jump to the moment when the work has been completed?
When you are uncomfortable, do you want time to quickly reach your health?
When you are nagged by your family, do you want this time to pass quickly and jump directly to a quiet moment?
Annoying traffic jams, boss squeeze, and all kinds of unpleasant trivial things are life we don't want to live. In "Remote for Life", the male protagonist Mike completely skips these annoying lives through a remote control, and goes directly to "a healthy day", "a day of promotion", "a day with a PARTY"... ...
But when those ideal lives really came, Mike's mood was so bad that he couldn't speak.
Yu Hua said that the ups and downs are the taste of food, and the joys and sorrows are the taste of life.
"So, every moment of life is worth enjoying." This is the biggest insight that "Remote for Life" gave me.
01 Accompanying family is common sense, but it is rightfully ignored by the public
The biggest regret in Mike's "ideal life" is that he chose the former between work and family.
It seems to be a normal thing to work hard and earn money so that the family can lead a good life. As Mike rightly complained to his wife: "I'm not going to drink or gamble or pick up girls. I work hard so that my family can live a better life than I dreamed of since I was a child."
This "as it should" makes me think this man is not wrong, but Mike’s wife’s words woke me up, and she asked her husband: "After you work so hard and become a big man in the company, you really think you still have Time is left to us? Or will everything get even more out of control?"
Mike's answer was: "When I become a boss, millionaire, or big man, the first thing I need to do is to invite a bunch of fools like me to serve. Then you, me and the kids can do whatever they want."
It sounds reasonable, but it is naive.
The greater the responsibility, the greater the loss of freedom.
The fact is true.
More than a decade later, Mike used the remote control to look back. When he missed the last scene with his father, he spit on himself: "You are so pathetic." Even though he had become the CEO of the company at that time, he gained both fame and fortune.
Because he saw himself working madly, he scolded his father who invited him home for dinner and ignored his son who came to ask professional questions.
In the end, before he died, Mike risked his life to say to his son: family first .
He doesn't want his favorite person to go back to his old path, miss the intimate time with his wife, miss the fun of growing up with his children, and miss the warmth with his father. Mike missed too much because of work, and the heavy regret, through the screen, deeply shocked me.
I have always been a work-centric woman. When the voice of "women want independence" in this society became stronger and stronger, I gradually became addicted to work. Unconsciously, for the so-called economic independence, I gradually reduced my concern for family.
Fortunately, "Remote for Life" taught me in time to regain the importance of family: if the balance between career and family cannot be completely balanced, I am willing to lean it towards family.
Money and status are indeed what many people yearn for and desperately pursue, and I am the same. I have firmly believed that work, this seemingly reasonable choice, is right. But thinking about it now, this is nothing compared to family.
Someone might say that it is because you have money that makes you think so. With money, the importance of family will be emphasized. With family, without money, the importance of material will be emphasized. People have limited energy, and they tend to lose sight of one another, and are always unsatisfied.
In response, Mike’s wife gave an inspiring answer: " You better not let the most important person down. "
Admittedly, we cannot do everything. But we can communicate with the most important people and ask them what they need most, instead of pretending that they want to enrich their superior material life.
There are so many things waiting for us in this practice of life. Even if we can't do everything perfectly, we can do the most important part.
02 The remote control of drama is a re-enactment of people's heart: automatic mode undoubtedly makes people miss too much beauty
In the movie, the two most interesting functions of the magic remote control are the fast forward and automatic modes, which means that it will repeat the previous operation when Mike encounters a similar situation again according to the previous usage record-to fast forward. The model skips life that Mike doesn’t want to face.
For example, when Mike’s family and work conflict, the remote control will automatically help him choose the latter and jump to the day when he is promoted;
Every time Mike quarreled with his wife, his life would be fast forwarded to the day of reconciliation;
And in those days that were jumped over, there was still a Mike living in automatic mode. However, that Mike is numb, always ignoring the people and things around him.
Does this look like a true portrayal of our habitual behavior in real life?
We avoid and ignore the lives around us that bother us, and ignore them again and again, so that we form a habit instead of trying to face those lives, looking for changes, and enjoying the traces of beauty that may be brought about by them.
We are tired of quarreling with family members, habitually choose the cold war, and miss the opportunity to resolve conflicts and strengthen relationships with them;
We hate boring dinner parties, start the "people in the heart" mode, eat silently, but ignore good opportunities to communicate with others;
In seemingly different situations, we are given the same "dodge" command again and again by our brain, repeating behavior without knowing it.
Fast forward is the best way to solve the problem we don't want to face. On the other hand, it is also the result of "we always postpone our dreams to the future".
Although this is the innocence and helplessness of adults, it is also a joke of adults. Because the facts of the future are often not as good as hoped. We have become the judges of our lives. Once we set the label of unhappiness on the present situation, we refuse to try to transform the present into good.
The technological products of drama are only the manifestation of people's hearts.
It is useless to escape and fast forward.
03Fast-forward life is a waste, every moment of life is valuable
No matter how life is not enough to enjoy, the life you want to jump over is actually very exciting.
After all, things are two-sided, and emotions are no exception. Where can happiness come from worry-free.
There is a sentence on the barrage that catches people's attention: What you have experienced now is a past that you will not be able to reach in the future.
A bit convoluted, but bearable. Every moment of life will no longer exist, and every moment is worth experiencing, experiencing, and cherishing.
When watching this movie, I always have an immersive sense of substitution. Whether it is scenes that are so busy that I lose my life, or the pursuit of results, love to take shortcuts, and value money, Mike, I see my shadow. The moment Mike passed away regrettably, I seemed to have spent my life with him in an "ideal" way.
I was as painful, regretful, and unwilling as Mike. I didn't cherish my family, nor did I cherish every inch of my time.
Fortunately, the screenwriter was kind and turned all this into a dream, giving Mike a chance to live anew.
what about me? Fortunately, I still have the current life to cherish.
Delaying enjoyment is absurd, and the moment is the meaning of life.
Life itself has no meaning. It is just a process of life's survival. If we skip the process pick and choose, what kind of life will we talk about?
Enjoy every moment, unexpected surprises will come
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