We can't grow old

Lionel 2022-03-18 09:01:03

For many big directors, Bergman is a god-like existence:

On February 9, 1960, Kubrick was deeply moved by the mood and atmosphere of Bergman's films, the subtlety of the performance, and the trueness of the characters. The greatest filmmaker of our time":

A visit to Bergman or its former home on the island of Faroe is like a pilgrimage:

Bergman's "Marriage Life" (1973) is as plain as water, but every step of the way is startling: avant-garde, bold, reserved, hot, every little thing of ordinary people has the height and depth of philosophy.

A small gathering of two couples enjoying themselves:

Maybe it's too much pain, maybe it's a drinking mantra: "Strindberg once said, what could be scarier than a couple who hate each other?"

Instant storm:

A husband and wife are arguing, a husband and wife are turbulent, every line, every expression, each other's disgust and hopeless tenderness, are dazzling and breathtaking: great screenwriters, great directors, great actors!

I watched it several times and offered my knees again and again. How could it be so natural and so good?

One family shock sparks another family storm...

I'm your wife, fangirl, fan, but not your slave, I'm an independent, capitalized person first, then a woman:

The unbearably disgusting, tedious, and unforgettable sympathy of long-term marriages is more precise in Bergman's lens than a sociologist's paper:

Everything about marriage: the selfishness and despicability of human nature, and the simplicity and kindness of human nature are entangled and integrated.

"Marriage Life" is greatly influenced by Strindberg's "The Argument of the Madman". As a giant standing on the shoulders of giants, Bergman not only has a profound insight into the sadness of marriage and the weakness of women, but also has a deep insight into the preciousness of emotion and the weakness of women. The greatness of women is also praised.

In my lifetime, I don't believe that anyone can surpass Bergman in the subject of marriage.

The awards season hit "Marriage Story" (2019) pays tribute to "Marriage Life", full of regret and glory.

Both films begin with interviews, and the heroine of "Marriage Life" is very satisfied with her marriage:

"Marriage Story" couples perfectly praise each other: why do you love Nicole?

What about you, Nicole, why do you love Charlie?

Charlie and Nicole are talented, reasonable, and love work, children, and family. How could they go to court for divorce?

Just because you live in two places to develop your own business?

Sacrificing yourself for your spouse, children, and being a good wife and mother is disgusting.

As an excellent actor like Nicole, if she wastes her talent, she may lose her career and love as a result.

A man like Charlie could hire a nanny if all he needed was a nanny, so why should he have to be Nicole?

Both parties are very ambitious, and the foundation of marriage is mutual appreciation, mutual encouragement, and mutual achievement.

Charlie's troupe is thriving and is about to debut on Broadway, but Nicole's presence is rapidly declining.

Forget Broadway, I'm going to LA to break new ground, and I'll regret not flying to the top:

It was impossible for Charlie to give up the troupe that he poured his heart into and finally saw hope, but he not only laughed at Nicole's bad play, but also asked Nicole to transfer the high salary to the troupe.

In "Marriage Life", the husband had an affair, in "Marriage Story" Charlie cheated on the stage supervisor of his own troupe, and the lawyer yelled: Damn it!

In order to compete for the custody of the child, Charlie, who was already in a tight troupe, spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to hire a lawyer. Nicole's mother mortgaged the property to pay the lawyer's fee.

He once gave her a piece of candy, and she gave him two!

Without him, she would not be where she is today!

Hehe, she sacrificed ten years for him!

What was once willing to pay for love has now become the weight of each other's preoccupation!

In order to prove the unreliability of the other party, the privacy of life and the details and omissions of life that only family members know are all shaken:

Charlie steals!

Cut, hacking into someone else's computer and finding someone to steal is a felony under California law!

Nicole drank and had trouble going down the stairs when she was drunk with the kids!

Charlie is irresponsible. When he picks up his son, he guarantees that a professional will install the car's child seat. In fact, there is no one at all!

Some viewers and their predecessors saw this passage, hugged and cried, as if seeing their own unbearable past...

How ridiculous and cruel, for the crystallization of love, the former lovers had to do everything possible to hurt each other.

It can't be like this, it shouldn't be like this, Charlie and Nicole agreed to sit down calmly and have a heart-to-heart talk, and try to keep their son unaffected.

Talking and talking, the landslides and the earth cracks:

So vicious, no, that's not what I really want to express, am I crazy, how can I curse the mother of the child like this?

Charlie fell to his knees, on the verge of collapse: "I'm sorry."

The evaluators observed how parents and children were getting along, and their reports directly influenced the judge's decision on custody.

Charlie was nervous and accidentally cut his arm while demonstrating a little trick to the assessor:

Afraid of the child's worry, pretending to be tired and lying on the ground to cover the injury, being a father, being a divorced father, changing from a director to an actor, it's too difficult for me:

The detail is brilliant, and Adam Driver does a great job.

Compared with masterpieces like "Marriage Life", "Marriage Story" still has a big gap, mainly because the setting of the main conflict is too deliberate. For Charlie, a director and troupe leader with high emotional intelligence and IQ, understanding , It makes sense to encourage his wife to pursue her own career.

However, some of the details of the film are well-crafted and tear-jerking, prompting people to reflect on their own lives, and it is worth recommending.

After Frances Ha (2012), Noah Baumbach once again showed the prowess of detailing, and in time, there will be better works.

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Extended Reading
  • Curtis 2021-10-20 19:02:58

    While they were arguing, I was crying. In the end he read the merits of her writing, and cried all around in the cinema. But my horror film sequence headed by "Road to Revolution" is not going to be included, because it can retain its original tenderness after being riddled with defects. @BIFF

  • Curtis 2022-03-26 09:01:03

    Another influential film produced by Netflix after "Rome". If you compare it with the sensational Hollywood movie "The Cramers" 42 years ago, it will have a lot of socio-cultural significance. Both are about the female party in the family relationship who filed for a divorce for personal independence. The old film rewrites the responsibility of the man and the relationship between father and son, while the new film challenges the current marriage law with the plot of "both lose and lose". The performances are wonderful.

Marriage Story quotes

  • Charlie: You want to present yourself as a victim because it's a good legal strategy. Fine, but you and i both know you chose this life ! You wanted it until you didn't. You used me so you could get out of LA.

    Nicole: I didn't use you.

    Charlie: You did, and then you blamed me for it ! You always made me aware of what i was doing wrong, how i was falling short !

  • Jay Marotta: Nora, i like how you refer to Charlie's theater as a ramshackle downtown dump when you're arguing custody, but when you want more money, he's a big, rich, genius Broadway director. You can't have it both ways.