"Marriage Story" made me a staunch anti-marriage

Ludie 2022-03-16 09:01:02

Noah Baumbach's new movie "Marriage Story" hit Netflix tonight, sad and angry. I don't know where the anger came from, and I wrote a few anti-marriage words on my face, knowing that my Facebook friends would think that there is something wrong with my brain, who the fuck cares.

My anger is mainly aimed at the greedy, cunning, evil, and lying American lawyers. Marriage Story is the Kramer vs. Kramer of the 21st century. In a divorce, only the lawyer wins, and everyone else is losers. It is said that Americans know this truth, but when it comes to divorce, even smart people can lose their heads and spend all their savings and debts to find a lawyer to file a lawsuit, for what? Just for a broken child. So I said on Facebook that there are two things to do to completely avoid this crisis: 1) Only love and live together, never get married. The value and necessity of marriage has been exaggerated for thousands of years, hugely overrated. 2) If you get married in your head, don't have children. Children are one of the causes that cause you to lose your freedom. Our planet lacks everything except people.

The movie is 2 hours and 10 minutes, and every minute grabs your nerves. You watched helplessly as two decent, knowledgeable and educated people, a pair of people who originally loved each other and then cared about each other, tortured each other involuntarily. It's not that they want to rectify each other deliberately, but that they have lost the ability to think calmly when their nerves are high, and they are prone to listen to slander from lawyers when they are mentally fragile. It wasn't until they lost everything that they realized they didn't want that. Crazy, lost, and finally quieted down. Maybe life can start again, but what is lost can never be returned.

The two actors, Adam Driver, and Scarlett Johansson, acted brilliantly, especially Adam, as natural as real. What's interesting is that when the United States introduced him, they pointed out that he was from Mishawaka, Indian, while the mainland introduced him as a Californian. He was indeed born in California, but his mother was our small town of Mishawaka. A native, Adam moved back from California with his mother when he was seven, and Adam didn't leave until he finished Mishawaka High School. So, Adam Driver is a guy from our small town, okay?

Adam Driver is a very strange actor, he caught my attention when he played Patterson, and I hope you all go to see that indie film, which is one of my 100 favorite movies. Adam is very different from other Hollywood actors. Most Hollywood actors have never read a book, and few have graduated from a bachelor's degree. Adam graduated from the Juilliard School of Drama Department. He lives in New York, not Hollywood. To be honest, between Los Angeles and New York, I don't hesitate for a second to choose New York. New York has culture.

Director Noah Baumbach is not unfamiliar to the Americans, and perhaps not many films of him are seen in China. I remember him because his partner is my favorite director/actor, Greta Gerwig! I've previously covered Greta Gerwig's film "Francis Ha," which the two of them wrote together, and it's basically Greta Gerwig's own story. This year, the pair have both done well, with Noah Baumbach directing "Marriage Story" and Greta Gerwig directing "Little Women." Both films are big hits for next year's Oscars.

The end of the year is the season of good movies. Next will be "Little Women"

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Extended Reading

Marriage Story quotes

  • Nora Fanshaw: People don't accept mothers who drink too much wine and yell at their child and call him an asshole. I get it. I do it too. We can accept an imperfect dad. Let's face it, the idea of a good father was only invented like 30 years ago. Before that, fathers were expected to be silent and absent and unreliable and selfish, and can all say we want them to be different. But on some basic level, we accept them. We love them for their fallibilities, but people absolutely don't accept those same failings in mothers. We don't accept it structurally and we don't accept it spiritually. Because the basis of our Judeo-Christian whatever is Mary, Mother of Jesus, and she's perfect. She's a virgin who gives birth, unwaveringly supports her child and holds his dead body when he's gone. And the dad isn't there. He didn't even do the fucking. God is in heaven. God is the father and God didn't show up. So, you have to be perfect, and Charlie can be a fuck up and it doesn't matter. You will always be held to a different, higher standard. And it's fucked up, but that's the way it is.

  • Bert Spitz: You know what this is like? This is like that joke about the woman at the hairdresser, she's going to Rome. You know this?

    Charlie: I don't.

    Bert Spitz: This woman is at her hairdresser, and she says, "I'm going to Rome on Holiday." And he says, "Oh, really? What airline are you taking?" She says, "Alitalia." He says, "Alitalia? Are you crazy? That's the worst - that's terrible. Don't take that. Where you gonna stay?" She says, "I'm gonna stay at the Hassler." "The Hassler? What, are you kidding? They're renovating the Hassler. You'll hear hammering all night long. You won't sleep. What are you gonna see?" She says, "I think I'm gonna try to go the Vatican." "The Vatican? You'll be standing in line all day long. You'll never get to see anything."

    Charlie: I'm sorry, Bert, am I paying for this joke?