My thoughts and thoughts on this video
First, if you have a child, you can’t just adopt an orphan. If the child in the film is a real child, in such a big family, his heart is very sensitive and fragile. A careless move can easily lead to grievances and estrangement. Depression, at worst, will also produce revenge, because you can't trust and care for unfamiliar children, and you will be treated differently to some extent, and even a wrong sentence will have an impact on children who are dependent on others. From the phone call between the wife and the nun, it can be heard that she minds saying "dirty" things to the adopted daughter, but she does not mention that she has done "dirty" things. Although the adopted daughter herself is mentally ill and manic, the difference in the treatment of the adopted mother is obvious;
Second, children who meet the conditions for adoption must undergo a physical examination. Before the couple adopts the orphanage, the orphanage has the obligation to perform physical examinations on each child, including dental examinations and psychological counseling, because each child has a different experience of being an orphan. It may be very tragic, there are psychological shadows, and some may be abandoned by the biological parents due to congenital defects. This should not be done by the adoptive parents, but should be completed before the adoption, but in the film, the orphanage did not do it. , but the adoptive parents felt that it didn't matter, and once again missed the possibility of discovering the truth;
Third, the trust and understanding between husband and wife is the central idea of the film. The wife used to drink alcohol, and the husband cheated, but why did the wife drink alcohol and the husband cheated. These two narratives explain the cause and effect. In fact, there are many in the film. The second chance can prevent or discover this tragedy, but because the couple has many problems, they choose not to understand or believe it. It can be seen in the film that this is an encounter carefully designed by the adopted daughter, but the father saw it after he came up first. The girl has a different look, which shows that the father has been empty for a long time. In such a seemingly harmonious but crumbling relationship, the adoptive daughter's caring gave her husband a lot of relief, and she has always defended her from this point of view; in fact, I It has long been suspected that the miscarriage of the wife's third child is related to alcoholism. The wife is likely to be mentally abnormal. The husband's cheating and favoritism are behaviors that avoid his wife again and again. Regarding this, the adopted daughter peeked at her mother's diary. There are explanations, and the problem of the male protagonist is also revealed a little when the husband and wife quarrel.
Fourth, respect the opinions and suggestions of family members. The adoption conditions in foreign countries in the film are different from those in China. They can adopt orphans if they have children, but they ignore the feelings of their own children. The son's unfriendliness is also the reason for the rapid intensification of the conflict;
Fifth, we should get to know each other in time or have a spiritual communication. The film only tells us that the couple knew that the adopted daughter was an orphan from Russia, who was adopted by an American couple and brought to the United States, and then the American couple died in the fire, and the adopted daughter returned. The orphanage didn't care about the girl's inner world. I remember when the wife told the adopted daughter what the white rose meant, the wife opened her inner world and got the feedback she wanted, but the wife never communicated with the adopted daughter's inner world, even if Even if we are in a relationship, we need to understand each other, not to mention adopting a daughter. Even if we buy a second-hand mobile phone, we will know the situation of the mobile phone from the original owner, not to mention adopting a daughter. You can see the tear that the adopted daughter left in front of the white rose. Out, mania is only a manifestation of some aspects, other mental activities are all adopted by the adopted daughter, maybe she is thinking of the misfortune she encountered in her childhood, maybe she really thinks her mother is a good mother, maybe she is pretending, but If you don't try to communicate, you will never have a chance to stimulate her inner soft side;
Sixth, the adults themselves did not set an example very well. If it weren’t for the fact that the couple’s private life was so inattentive, the adopted daughter would not have developed a subtle psychology so quickly. From the parents’ point of view, the impact of this matter on the child is Obviously, the news often says that a 9-year-old child goes out to molest women because of watching porn. Do you think the child really doesn't know that? From the perspective of an adult adopted daughter and mental illness, this is a catalyst for seducing the adoptive father's feelings.
Seventh, you shouldn't pin your own problems on others. The wife has been very sad after the miscarriage. In order to fill the pain in her heart, she voluntarily went to the orphanage to adopt a girl as a substitute for the third child. The word substitute itself is It is unfair to both who does not respect himself and the person being replaced. Since she has had a miscarriage, she should take better care of her existing child instead of pinning her thoughts on unrelated people. Promise to love her as she loves aborted children, then when the adopted daughter picks off the flowers that symbolize aborted children and gives them to her in the name of love, she should not lose her mind, she can be lost or even angry, but she should not lose her mind, because at this time Her definition of an adopted daughter is the same as that of a flower. She can blame, but not blame. She should not use the pressure of love on the object she chooses to love. She should digest this emotion by herself;
Eighth, it is not recommended to adopt such an old child. Such an old child is easy to have psychological problems. If it is an orphan, what happened when I was a child has caused a shadow, and I am embarrassed to say that I am wronged in getting along, even if it is a real child. It will cause the same result, so if you want to adopt a child who doesn't remember anything, it is not recommended because it is so old.
In fact, everyone can't be perfect, and everything is not always as expected. If something like this happens, it can only be called misfortune. If you are lucky enough to survive, you will learn such a lesson in your future life. Movies, but there are real cases in real life, have to be vigilant
View more about Orphan reviews
