Sometimes, it's not that there is nothing in the world, it's that you don't believe in something
"Mr. Church" is a movie that will warm you up whether you like it or not, and the story seems too beautiful to be true, but it's enjoyable. Whether it's the actor's appearance, personality charm, or the video's shooting vision and the emotional transmission of the story, they are all eye-catching and heart-warming.
Although for such a warm film, it is enough to be warmed up after watching it, and it is indeed unreasonable and uninteresting to blindly investigate the distance between it and reality. However, if a purely emotional film like this is too far from reality, it will make the audience lack a possibility of grafting when they resonate. It is indeed difficult for some people to pay for it.
But to say that the story of Mr. Church is not true is not entirely true. Because if you look closely, you will find that there are many unbelievable beautiful things, but they lack an explanation. For example, how can there be such a beautiful person as Mr. Church? A lot of sadness is just softened by love.
For example, two funerals. A lot of hardships have been roughly passed over.
For example, the torture of illness, the difficulty of single mothers, financial pressure and so on.
In the film, the explanations of these pieces are rough and vague, giving people a kind of overhead beauty. However, this is probably intentional or involuntary by the author when he narrates, because surrounded by love and warmth, those so-called "reality" will become irrelevant.
What's more, this is a memoir-style story with a narration. Since it is a memory, there is a reasonable subjective choice. When the beauty occupies the mind, the pain of reality is easily taken away. In addition, if the sadness is too intense, the warmth will lose its purity. The author's main purpose is to calmly and gently tell the rough past and embrace all the past with a heart warmed by Mr. Church's love.
Finally, if none of the above is enough to convince you of Mr. Church's existence, then I'll tell you what makes the above nonsense true: this movie, based on a true story.
Therefore, in the huge world, boldly believe in all kinds of beauty, although you will not encounter it, you can also be warmed up.
Home is made up of only love
There is very little explanation of Mr. Church in the film. He is like a mystery. Regarding his past and his inner world, there is no full explanation and description, only some points are interspersed in the details before and after. It is for this reason that many viewers are attracted to such an enigmatic man, who was originally hired as a cook for 6 months, but was able to assume the responsibility of the head of the family without asking for anything in return when little Charlie's mother was ill. The responsibility of becoming a mother and daughter, who have no relationship with each other, but can be promoted from a stranger to a family member, questioning the existence of such a person.
However, as Calvino said: every thing is the result of another, and everything is compatible with other things. This Mr. Church incarnates the good and the beautiful is a result of his past, and his encounter with mother and daughter Charlie is a wonderful fit.
From the film, we can probably know that Mr. Church had a broken family in the past. He was not favored by his father, and he was not a good husband. Although the presentation is not specific, we can also guess that the family is right As far as he is concerned, it is probably not an irreversible regret, but a lingering haze. This first half of his life, which lacked family warmth, became his unspoken scar, but he did not lose his ability to love because of this. On the contrary, he may have a deeper and more generous understanding of love, but it was not inspired.
After meeting Charlie's mother and daughter, he was inspired and showed his ability of love very well, accompanied Charlie's mother through the difficult and painful years, conquered little Charlie with hearty food, and guided Charlie to contact literature. , and infected Charlie and her later children with love. Of course, he also received a reward in the reactionary force of love, which healed him to a certain extent and made up for his lack of home. As he said in his last words, Charlie's mother and daughter gave him a sense of security and a sense of home.
In this way, a chef with an unbearable past, a single mother with cancer and a daughter who is still in elementary school, has no relationship between husband and wife, and has no blood ties, but has made a beautiful story about home. In addition to the warmth, people can't help but think about the concept of home and the composition of home, and the author's answer is obviously very clear, that is: love. A commonplace, clichéd answer that takes a lifetime to feel, learn, and understand.
Love is an egg, and sometimes when it breaks, it just welcomes a chick with a broken shell
Love is powerful and beautiful, but it is not easy to control. It is not an innate ability, it is a practice. The relationship between Mr. Church and Charlie in the film is not gradual. From the beginning, Charlie's unhappy resistance due to a stranger's intrusion, to Mr. Church's patience and tameness, and then the two gradually developed into one. When an interdependent kinship was born, Mr. Church's anger at Charlie's attempts to inquire about his personal life was turbulent, but eventually reconciled.
Charlie sees this Mr. Church, whom she only knows for one side, as a family she can rely on, even though she gets angry answers when trying to understand Mr. Church's private life, despite her bad thoughts when she sees him in the bar , but Mr. Church is still Mr. Church in her mind.
This kind of heart is curious, and there will be no questioning attitude. Probably, she is based on the emotional trust of both parties. As long as the thickness of love can carry the dimension of trust, then even if there are bumps, it can be resolved. , finally as ever. Sometimes, the two people who are loved and connected are like eggs in each other's hands. If they are held too tightly, they will be crushed, and if they are held too loosely, they will fall off easily. It always needs just the right amount of strength to hold it. But there are always times when you accidentally break it. However, as long as the egg is hatched enough, when you break it, it happens to be the broken shell of a small chick. From then on, it is no longer an egg, it is just running away. Free chicks who all go home on time.
Just like the last dispute between Church and Charlie over privacy issues, it was also the most serious one. Charlie even ran away from home and suffered an accident, but Mr. Church immediately appeared in the hospital as a family member. The emotional confirmation of both sides, the two sides smiled slightly and looked at each other with complex and firm eyes, all unpleasantness disappeared, Mr. Church seemed to say, I don't want you to know everything about me, I'm hiding something from you, but you have always been me Charlie as her own.
Charlie seemed to have taken a lesson, and since then she will no longer ask Mr. Church's privacy. Even if he knew that he went to the bar late at night to return home drunk, she kept silent, just like Church never asked her about her sudden pregnancy. , the relationship between the two parties will not be affected in the slightest. Presumably she had received confirmation from Mr. Church of her weight in his heart, and the security it gave her made her realize that there were things she didn't need to know. Trust is not based on knowing all about a person, but on the thickness of the feelings that arise from a certain understanding.
Tacit understanding does not come from knowing every aspect of you
Mr. Church is particularly thought-provoking in the control of love. He maintains a certain distance and strictly maintains his own space and privacy for his relatives and friends that he does not want them to know. The bar owner didn't know that his pianist was also a chef and cooked a good meal, and Charlie didn't know that his Mr. Church was a popular pianist in the bar and only vaguely knew about his past. But both of these relationships have held up well, and despite some hiccups in the middle, they're still indestructible. Everyone has a part they don't want to be understood in the face of different people, and feelings don't have to be deeply understood to produce a silent tacit understanding.
The communication between people, like those planets in the universe, keep a distance from each other, and then look for a relatively stable relationship state under this distance. This distance can be very close, but it can never be equal to 0.
There is no winner or loser in the battle of money and love
Charlie grew up with the love of her mother and Mr. Church, so she also learned how to love and how to use love to deal with life's ups and downs. She can handle two funerals with equanimity, struggling to get up in grief, she said, some people will talk to you about dead people, some people will talk to you about anything but dead people, some people will make you want to cry, some people will talk to you about the dead People will comfort you, and some people don't need to say anything to you, you understand. And the one who needs no words is the one who can make her struggle to get up.
She can treat a wrong love plainly, she said a wrong night, but gave her the best gift - her daughter Izzy. She can always face all kinds of problems starting from love, maybe, so she can always find the good side.
However, the poppy in the film is the exact opposite, a stark contrast to Charlie. Poppy lacked the care of his family since he was a child, and gradually formed a character of loving himself and establishing a sense of security by himself.
For her family, she even wished it didn't exist, and even more reluctant to mention it. When she attended Charlie's mother's funeral, she even said why it wasn't her mother who died. After her success in the upper class, she reminisced with Charlie, and when Charlie mentioned that her parents were released from prison, poppy also changed the subject and did not want to talk about it. Family is an incurable wound for her, but she has also tried to love, to build a home, but failed. She told Charlie that she had children, but she would never want to have any more in her life. When Charlie asked her if she was happy, she replied that she had everything she wanted, without mentioning the word happiness at all.
The story film about poppy is only presented through a few concise dialogues, at the same speed as water, without excessive topic turning, not giving people too much time to think, but giving people a deep understanding. Behind Poppy's indifferent expression is not pretending to be strong, but the need to be strong after helplessness. She uses self-reliance and wealth to create her own sense of security. As she said, she has everything she wants, but happiness, it seems that she doesn't even want to think about concepts.
Poppy pissed off Charlie for calling Mr Church a chef, but to her, the relationship between Mr Church and Charlie's family is probably incredible. Poppy's encounter seems to be a kind of doom, how can someone who has never been loved expect her to have a good ability to love? Probably, like Church, she also needs to wait for an opportunity to meet love, to love, and to be loved.
However, before that, she first encountered a pure friendship. When she met Charlie, she probably thought that Charlie would gladly accept her help and pave the way, but this long-lost friend just wanted to meet her, That's all. Charlie told her that she had a job, had an income, and was happy to be able to raise her children on her own, even though it was a waitress job.
Poppy's surprised expression was full of shock and emotion. Shocked, because how many people try to climb up the relationship, and her Charlie is living a life as a waiter. I am moved, because I have gained a friendship that is pure and useless.
Rich money may allow you to live the life you want, but love can make you willing to be in a certain state. The life you want may not necessarily be a happy life, and being content with a certain state must be content.
What does good love look like? sweet without expiration date
Family affection and friendship are mentioned in the film, and love is of course not absent. Although friendship and love seem to be only for the purpose of paving the way for growth, they also seem to have doubts about distinguishing between emotion and rich content. Regarding Charlie's love, the failed emotional film only uses the word "wrong" to summarize, while the beauty of first love with Owen is interspersed before and after.
Their relationship began when they were ten years old, ended at the beginning of their love affair, and finally separated after graduation. They recalled a chance encounter, and their story seems to be able to continue. Although it can be said that they have never been together, they have given each other beautiful memories that will never be forgotten. It seems that it is precisely because they are not together that this relationship has not been destroyed by trivialities, and it is even more flawless.
What does good love look like? Maybe it can always bring you a sweet feeling no matter how long it has passed.
There are pits in life, but there must also be exits
This film tells the warm story of a group of unfortunate people. Everyone in it has experienced different experiences, and at the same time, they are constantly being warmed and healed. Just like there will always be some pits on the road of life, but every pit must have an exit, as long as you look up, if you don’t believe it, then please hold on for a while when you want to give up, the opportunity will be late, but you must not. No appointment. For example, Larson in the film, because of a mistake, seems to have fallen into a black hole in his whole life. He bought poison to go home and committed suicide, but on the way home, he met Charlie who was knocked down while pregnant, and he rescued Charlie. And the child, also saved himself, not only survived, but also met happiness.
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