Sigmund Freud said as early as 1908: "Most marriages end in spiritual disappointment and physical deprivation." Marriage is a process of new creation from scratch. , it creates a brand new personality relationship, but this process does not necessarily occur naturally at the moment of the wedding, and a full and deep marriage relationship will not even be established until the day when the two grow old together.
Few people understand the nature of the satisfaction they can hope for in their married life, knowing that they are not cherishing an extravagant hope that marriage cannot provide at all? They do not understand that marriage is a microcosm of life after all, and a marriage that is too easy and too comfortable is impossible.
What really irritates people is often the bitterness and helplessness of marriage. The film urchin Woody Allen's 1992 film "Husbands and Wives" deals with the most traditional middle-class middle-aged men and women. Marriage stories. Fragile marriages are the theme of the film, when Jack and Sarah, a couple of 15 years, suddenly announced their split, sending a huge shock to their best friends Gaby and Judy. As Jack and Sarah struggle to start their search for a new partner, a hidden discord between Gaby and Judy explodes. When Jack and Sarah went back and forth to find each other but got back together, Judy divorced and married Gaby after letting her real love run away. In the meticulous portrayal of the four middle-aged bitter and happy men and women of two couples, we see Woody Allen's usual cynic helplessness and ridicule: "My wife and I only have one orgasm at the same time - when the judge approves our divorce. It’s time.”
Men and women are different, and the two sides compete in a lineup. In this conflict of marriage and separation, there is no winner or loser at the end. The attitudes and behavior patterns of both men and women on marriage issues revealed in the film are quite interesting. In the traditional theory of gender construction, men are identified as strong, while women are vulnerable, and men occupy an absolute dominant position in marriage relationships, but this view should have been crushed a long time ago - in the face of marriage crisis, Women are strong, men are vulnerable.
All research in modern society shows that women are less satisfied with their married life than men. Women's disappointment in marriage is more serious than that of men. It is also marriage, but for women, because she often pays more, its meaning is much deeper than that for men. Therefore, when faced with the breakdown of marriage, it is logical to sympathize with women and blame men. Women often occupy the commanding heights of moral public opinion, while men are in a dilemma. Imperceptibly, in fact, the dominance of marriage has already been secretly changed.
Usually men are most eager to get married at two ages, one is twenty-five and the other is forty-five. Both of them have a good material foundation for marriage, but from the perspective of psychological driving force, they are very different: the former is because of ignorance and curiosity about marriage, while the latter is because of tired and compromised marriage-when men step into Years, the world gradually became clearer, and the boyish willfulness of the man gradually degenerated into reluctantly bowing his head and disarming the marriage, any dissatisfaction, poverty and tossing eventually turned into an honest husband. In the off-line satirical drama "Husbands and Wives", the behavioral mode of the husbands in dealing with the marital crisis can be carefully considered as a typical male behavioral template.
Faced with the same boring and unbearable married life, men are either forbearing or reckless. Gaby is the former, Jack is the latter, and the two typical paths of men are shown before us. And the two wives in the film are definitely not weak, they advance or retreat, and both husbands eventually surrender to the will of the wives.
Gaby, a professor of literature, is cowardly and shy. He has neither the courage to deviate from his marriage nor the courage to open up a new life. Even if his heart is gone, he still clings to the marriage that is like a candle in the wind. In the face of his wife's unreasonable demands for sex, and the blatant kisses from his students, he stammered, and he was doomed to fail in the end. Years of stable life had long since worn out his courage to change. While there are countless quips to keep our literature professors balanced, the role of the outcast remains unchanged. Judy was called by her ex-husband as a "passive aggressive type", and it is the most terrifying woman who is not arrogant and aggressive. She often says "I don't know", and "in the end she will achieve what she wants" - she married. Giving the third man she liked and kicking her husband away was nothing new to her.
Jack is a chooser of another path. His character is more brave and impulsive. He burst out of courage and jumped out of the cage, hoping to find a beautiful woman again, thinking that he can independently search for happiness. He begins to associate with a lively fitness teacher who is very different from his ex-wife. But within a few days of the fresh and happy days, he was horrified to discover that his new girlfriend was talking superficially about the constellation and the zodiac to his Kochi friends at his social dinner. The change was not just about changing a partner in bed, he began to withdraw, began to miss the graceful grace of Sarah as a wife as a social symbol, and he completely lost confidence in his new life.
And despite her anger at her ex-husband quickly starting a new relationship, Sarah began to stumble and try to date two men, slowly learning to adjust to her new independent life. And when Jack rushed into her house recklessly, Sarah's first reaction was to get him out. But in the end, she still forgave her husband. After all, what Sarah pursued was a stable married life. The inertia of life that has been adapted for many years has made them reunite again. Jack, who had wandered around in the outside world, said without the slightest temper: "I'm glad I stayed at home."
Middle-aged men are obviously weaker than women in courage. They have no confidence in the beginning of a new life, either clinging to their stubbornness or going out for a walk and then obediently returning to their accustomed partner. Women, on the other hand, are much stronger, either mercilessly throwing away old men or trying to start a new life. From "Husbands and Wives", we can see that the husbands are at a loss, the wives are at a loss, and the cowardice, conservativeness and vulnerability of middle-class men are revealed one by one. The husbands in "Husbands and Wives" , it is Woody Allen's consistent attitude of helplessness and compassion towards male cynicism.
Fortunately, although Woody Allen in his life chatted all the way, he was not so sour to his bones. During the filming of this film, he divorced his wife because he had a relationship with his adopted daughter, and then he just married the adopted daughter without stopping, which shocked the world. The following does not have the slightest ambiguity to avoid social morality. I don't know which one is the real Woody Allen between the fussy husband in the movie and the man of unparalleled courage in reality?
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