Chatting with a friend at noon, the friend asked: Why do women have to get married. Even if I don't love this man so much, even if I don't need to rely on a man financially, even if there is no pressure from my parents. Why do women still want to get married one after another? They feel that being unable to get married is the most terrifying thing. After 35, they will feel that the depreciation is terrible.
This is a very good proposition. A 40-year-old wealthy and stylish single man is called Diamond Wang Laowu, and a 40-year-old rich and stylish woman is called a leftover girl. In fact, the word “unmarried” after 30 starts to accompany you. Society has never been friendly to women, and women are even more unfriendly to themselves and their peers. Marriage is tasteless and tasteless. If there is no last resort (such as domestic violence, such as cheating by a husband), the title of a certain wife is already the most valuable. With this golden signboard, you can avoid either sympathy or sideways glances, and face-to-face or behind-the-scenes pointing Poke to make yourself feel at ease and secure.
Back to the TV show itself. The introduction said that there were three women, but in fact there were five women. These five women were all excellent women in my eyes. They have different personalities, but they all sparkle, while their partners are mostly a capital hehe.
1. Madeleine
The role of Madeleine is the first to appear, establishing her important position in the play. Everyone in the show has a close connection with her.
Her personality is very open and close, people who like it like it very much, and people who don't like it may hate it a bit. I actually belong to the latter.
She is too subjective and has a bit of paranoia with clear love and hate, so that the relationship with her eldest daughter was tense, and she was once an enemy with the mother of her daughter's classmate (in fact, the conflict had nothing to do with her, and the other party wanted to repair it with her from the beginning), she asked It is too natural for my best friend to help for free, and the relationship with my ex-husband has always been tense after years of divorce. How should I put it, it is those people in life whose boundaries are particularly unclear and emotional.
But these shortcomings are also advantages. She is ardent, she looks for things forward, treats people with sincerity, and does everything she can to people and things, she can cut a knife for her friends. Her current husband loves her very much, but can't ignite her enthusiasm. She is full of guilt about cheating. After ending the relationship, she didn't make any excuses for herself, but she couldn't find the reason.
Her strengths are like fire, and her weaknesses are burning.
2. Celeste
The perfect woman in the eyes of others. Beautiful, intelligent, elegant. Before marriage, she had a successful career and strong business ability. After marriage, she was as virtuous and decent as a family. The young and handsome husband loved her for 10 years as his first love.
But it was she who silently endured domestic violence and repeatedly convinced herself that her marriage was normal and beautiful. When the psychologist pointed out that she did not need counseling to save the marriage but should escape from the marriage, she also wanted to hide it.
That scene between Nicole Kidman and the consultant was really good. The firmness of the other party, she went from surprise to avoidance, to trying to fight back, to fear, to admitting, it was a process of self-recognition.
Why didn't she leave? At first I even thought she was on the SM side and she enjoyed the process. It wasn't. It's just that she is deceiving herself. For the sake of the child and the survival of the marriage, she rationalizes the process by fighting back, persuading her husband to join psychological counseling, or weakening the problem and deceiving herself. A modern middle-class woman with a higher education is still like this, so in fact, we really can't express our incomprehension to so many women who stay in marriage due to domestic violence.
In the end, her decision to leave was to discover that her young son was the culprit behind the school's Baling girls. How ironic, the factor of violence does not come from DNA (the child born by the husband's rape outside does not have a bad habit of violence), but because of the influence of the original family, even if you think you are keeping the child secret.
When she found this out, she stopped deceiving herself and refused to have unnecessary peace talks with her husband. A perfect marriage is just an illusion. Only when you are independent can you give your children a healthy environment before it's too late. She found the victim and confessed that her child was the perpetrator. At this point, she regained her confidence, and she believed that she had the ability to make mistakes right.
3. Jane
An outsider with an illegitimate child. Living class and marital status are not as good as other mothers in this community.
Her luck seems to be that she met Madeleine from the start and quickly became best friends. Madeleine stood by her son's side when she was isolated when she was wronged. And using her influence helped her build relationships in this society.
But looking back, this woman had her charisma.
She is strong, but not blind. She firmly believes in protecting her son, but still takes him to a psychiatrist to rule out the terrible possibility. She can bear the pressure to the edge, but she has always been a firm and warm mother. She made the choice to give birth to a child who was raped. Even if many people (including me) do not understand, she will never pass on the unfortunate anger to the child. She can take responsibility for her own choices and resist the misfortune of fate.
4. Renata
In the beginning, it was a black-and-white character.
A strong woman, a middle-aged woman, a woman who is anxious and manic, no one can persuade her. Use the resources at hand to embarrass Madeleine. The things people around her did to flatter her were naturally counted on her head.
However, when she finds that she is weak in the form of enemy and self, she will lower her body and ask the other party to make the greatest compromise in order to let her daughter have a good birthday. When she has doubts about her judgment, she can quickly reflect on herself. Knowing that she was indeed wrong, she took the initiative to apologize.
A "big woman", she is neat, decisive, and able to face her own mistakes in a high position, without shirking the blame, without excuses, yes or no, her career success is not accidental, and she is definitely a mother and a friend. !
5. Bonnie
This is my ideal type. I want to label her perfect. Although there is not much ink on her in the play.
It's a pity that "sexy" is the only label given to her by people around her. In the play, the men all lusted after her, the women slandered her for being coquettish behind her back, and her only female friends seemed to be her husband and the daughter of her ex-wife. But did she really do anything out of the ordinary, or deliberately seduce anyone? After watching the whole play, no. It's obviously "I have a lot of style", but it is misinterpreted by lewd eyes.
She is calm and restrained, healthy and artistic, empathetic, and open-minded. She and her stepdaughter have become close friends. She persuades her husband to live peacefully with his ex-wife and his current ex-wife, and she strives to be a balancer. Her perfection made her husband's ex-wife Madeleine and us in front of the screen following Madeleine's point of view "pretend". We always stem from the darkness in our hearts, and feel that everything that is better than ourselves is false.
At the end, she was the last to come to the scene. Facing the conflict in front of her, she could turn around and leave secretly, but she chose to rush forward and push hard to end everything. She is not pretending to be a perfect character, she is really doing what she thinks is right according to her heart.
The 5 women have different appearances and personalities. They stand above the ground and are upright and firm. Even if we weave a lie together, I don't want to emphasize the identity of mothers, but even as women, they all shine just as brightly.
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