It’s been a long time since I came across a movie. My eyes were wet and I wanted to write something, but I was so overwhelmed with ideas that I couldn’t write.
Just 150 years ago, women didn't have their own names;
Not far 100 years ago, they could not go to school;
Even today, in many corners of the world, some of them are tools and commodities without equal legal rights.
These things may sound far away, but in the long history of human beings, our equal access to education and [equal] job opportunities is only a history of nearly 30 years, after our generation was born.
If it is taken for granted, it is probably the greatest naivety.
Often I hear remarks full of stereotypes and even contempt in my work and life:
"It's almost enough for a girl anyway" / "It's better for a boy to work hard in the workplace" / "She will have to go home to get married and have children at a certain time anyway" / "She's a woman, so she's more emotional" (of course also There are a lot of more extreme remarks, so I won't mention it to avoid directivity)
I keep hearing similar discriminatory stories "xx company directly stated that it only recruits boys this year" / "married and no child / married with one child at a rate of not recruiting" / as soon as an interview he asks you when you want to have a child, give birth When you have a baby, ask when you want a second child.
In many cases, I choose to be silent because they are my colleagues or clients, and sometimes I choose to disagree, but it is difficult for me to choose confrontation in one-on-one conversations in the workplace, pointing out that The other party is wrong, make some changes.
There will always be people who say we are too sensitive: the world is already very good, what more bikes do you need?
But being sensitive is a rare good thing. After all, only blacks can get on the bus before they start to mind if they go to the same school; only when women can work, they start to mind equal pay for equal work; only when same sex can openly hold hands and no longer break the law, they start to mind that they want to get married and enjoy the same property/inheritance/adoption rights.
The world progresses step by step, and this small feeling of sensitivity is the subtle discomfort of "something is wrong, but I can't tell" "it seems that everyone is like this, why do I feel wrong". However, in the more than 100 years of civil rights development history, this kind of discomfort is precisely the biggest driving force, and it is the higher demand that a small number of people have put forward to the world. It follows the direction of human struggle for their own rights, and ultimately points to equality and peace. The supreme outline of freedom.
As said in the film, we cannot stop the world from changing, all we can do is make these laws and regulations keep pace with the changing world. And those who say "you're too sensitive" to you are just too old. The world has always been like this, what's wrong with it?
Do you want all the girls to go to the battlefield / all the boys to go home and take the kids?
of course not. Physical characteristics are given, we are born with this gender, this skin color, this sexual orientation. And these characteristics do not have any predisposition, and in the vast majority of functional job requirements in this world, there are no significant group differences. There can be boys who are good at mathematics, and there are also poor ones in mathematics, and there can be girls with high emotional intelligence and low emotional intelligence.
And all sensitive and brave struggles are not for 50% and 50%, but for an equal opportunity. That is to say, when there is a modern Hua Mulan who is willing to fight and defend her family and the country, she doesn't have to disguise herself as a man, and she doesn't have to go to the military camp to find that there are no women's toilets/bathrooms. Of course, male nurses can be treated normally, and there is no need to be told by the patient during injections that you should let the female nurse give me the needles. She is more careful.
The world is supposed to be a playground, so why do you want to set up a high wall and draw the ground as a prison?
I admire these brave and sensitive people from the bottom of my heart, and the people who surround them with unwavering support.
She could have happily served as her professor, defended her vested interests, and told the visitor that the world was like that. But the world is like a giant butterfly. They fought for the right to vote, to get an education, and then they could go to Harvard, be a jury, and defend in court. Every time they flapped their wings, they spread the persistence. A little more, little by little, continues to create today's world. Each of them, in their time, was too sensitive and wanted too much. This kind of bravery is the little wave in personality that happens to be more reluctant, more reckless, louder than the rest of the crowd, and therefore braver. And the people around them, husbands/children/colleagues/clients, choose to stand by their side to strengthen the range of fluctuations, so that this bravery of hitting stones with eggs can continue, and finally, under the efforts of a group of people, water drops.
May you and I be as wise and brave as she is, retaining the sensitivity of the heart and making changes out loud.
No matter how small the force, it can be a change.
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