Men are addicted to pornographic films to find pleasure and cannot extricate themselves, while women are addicted to mindless romantic dramas to achieve spiritual climax;
Men only have desires for women with big breasts, fat buttocks, sexy and beautiful women. Women think that only men with knowledge and strong masculinity are real men;
Men want women to obey their own words, women want men to go through fire and water for themselves;
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The behavior between men and women looks so different, but the psychology behind it is the same:
The perspective of love is one-way, unwilling to pay, just want the other party to cooperate with you. Treating intimacy like this may seem easy and safe, but the question is, does it lead to true love and happiness?
In his directorial debut, "Don Juan," Jon Cerf tried to chat with the audience about this issue.
The male protagonist Don Juan (played by Jon Cef) is a porn addict, and he values these things most in his life: "My body, my pad, my ride, my family, my church, my boys, my girl, my porn" .
His life is well-organized, and the following things are fixed: watching porn and jerking off on the Internet, going to bars with buddies and sleeping with various women, exercising, tidying up the room, scolding the street and driving to church on weekends to pray and confess (his sexuality). addiction), a weekend dinner with the family.
Due to his long-term immersion, Don Juan is not only very picky in selecting the content of pornography, but even the process of watching pornography is quite ceremonial: first look at the hot photos of hot girls to "warm up", and then open the film when he feels it. And if you don't get to the key segment, you will never touch your dick. But once the plane leaves the tower, his world is nothing but organs and postures for the next few minutes, until the climax.
Although pornography has given Don Juan great satisfaction, he still hasn't given up the opportunity to be with the beauty Yun Yu in real life.
With his good looks and pick-up skills, Don Juan can always hunt all kinds of stunners in the bar, and then happily bring each other home and start the fire.
However, actual combat always disappoints him.
Whether it's a woman's breasts, buttocks, posture, or degree of cooperation, they are far from pornographic films and cannot satisfy his imagination of women's perfect performance in sex.
Therefore, after each actual combat, he would sneak into the living room and sleep contentedly after watching the DIY solution of the pornographic film.
Until "Heavenly Vegetables" came and he met Barbara (played by Scarlett Johansson), the situation seemed to have turned around.
Regardless of appearance or figure, Barbara is a well-deserved "very girl". Don Juan fell in love with her at first sight, and quickly launched an offensive. The two danced on the dance floor and kissed on the sofa, which went very smoothly.
Unexpectedly, just when the male protagonist wanted to go further, Barbara got in a taxi and drove away, leaving Don Juan in the bar, unable to get what he wanted, and not letting go.
Encountered with such an unconquerable little wild cat, the male protagonist can only "acknowledge". So, he made up his mind to start the road of chasing women.
After a few tricks, the two finally succeeded in holding hands.
But that's not to say the two can start clapping happily for love, because Barbara believes that "meaningful sex is more charming" than having to get to know each other's friends and relatives before going to bed.
In order to spend a good night with the beauty, Don Juan could only hold back his restless heart and give in one by one. After seeing friends, parents, and getting to know each other in depth, Barbara finally wore a sexy wrap dress. At Don Juan's house...
If you think that this is a touching story of a goddess healing the male protagonist's hidden illness, you are wrong.
I finally got together with my "Ten Tiancai", and finally felt the best breasts and buttocks in history, but Barbara's posture and cooperation still couldn't satisfy Don Juan, so again, he opened the pornography .
It wasn't long before she was discovered by the heroine, and Barbara was furious, thinking "this is the most disgusting thing I've ever encountered"!
Don Juan could only find an excuse to prevaricate and promise never to watch porn again, Barbara calmed down her anger.
But Barbara's demands of Don Juan were more than that.
As a young girl who is deeply influenced by Hollywood romantic and mindless love movies, she has a princess dream and love fantasy. Her ideal partner should be educated, motivated, and manly.
She asked Don Juan to go to night school to improve his education, because "that way you will be more attractive";
She was furious when she heard that Don Juan likes to clean, and said: You are a manly man, you should not do housework, it is very unsexy. After we live together, you are not allowed to do the cleaning again.
In order to maintain his relationship with the goddess, Don Juan can only put pornographic films into his mobile phone and watch them on the way to the night school or before the class starts.
But in the end, the paper couldn't contain the fire, and Barbara still found from his computer's browsing records that he viewed pornographic websites 46 times a day, and the two had a big fight.
Barbara asked Don Juan: "Why do you watch porn?"
Don Juan, in turn, asked Barbara, "Why do you watch mad love movies?"
This question makes people smile knowingly. The seemingly unrelated interests of men and women point to the prejudice of today's society:
Porn from a masculine perspective teaches men to objectify women, only love body parts, only a round butt is a good ass, only a big tit is a good breast, only a woman is licking It's really cool to look at your sex intoxicatedly;
Women are also influenced by love movies shot from a feminine perspective, materializing love. It is not enough for men to be cute, interesting and painful. They must be motivated and masculine. And plausibly ask: if you love me, you should do anything for me, otherwise how dare I give myself to you?
In the end, the fuse of the A-film exploded the precarious relationship between the two, and a breakup was inevitable.
At this time, another woman, Esther, appeared in Don Juan's life. She was Don Juan's classmate at night school, and also his mentor and friend.
The older, mature-minded Esther explained the reason why Don Juan was addicted to porn but couldn't get pleasure in real sex: "Your obstacle is that your perspective in sex is only one-sided, if you To orgasm, you must cooperate with the woman."
With her encouragement, Don Juan tried not to watch porn.
A week after successfully quitting porn, Don Juan was excited to find Esther and longed to have sex with her. She drove Don Juan to her house and proposed to take a bath together. When Don Juan soaked in the bathtub, she went to get him a towel, but when she opened the cupboard, she suddenly started crying.
It turned out that her husband and son died in a car accident 14 months ago, and she lost control of her emotions when she opened the cupboard and saw the familiar toiletries.
Don Juan, who came out of the bathroom, was at a loss when he saw Esther crying on the sofa, but Esther did not shy away, telling him his inner pain, Don Juan hugged her tightly... …
He revealed to her his unspeakable sex addiction, and she also revealed his vulnerability to him. They both let go of their selfishness and defenses, and learned to listen to each other's heart and feel each other's feelings. Love is quietly in this two-way communication. As a result of growth, sex becomes more and more beautiful, reaching the height and oneness of spirit and flesh.
"Sex is a two-way communication. Good sex is not just an orgasm, but a two-way love."
Afterwards, Don Juan summed up the sex between the two, which is extremely beautiful, which cannot be surpassed no matter how many porn films you watch.
When describing the relationship between the two, he said: "She likes to look into my eyes, and I look back. She seems to know what I'm thinking, and I know what she's thinking."
This is the legendary "heart-to-heart".
You must also have such an experience. When you really have a deep emotional connection with a person, when you think about him, you will find that he is thinking of you too; when you are full of confidence, the other person will return firmness; When the relationship is hesitant, ta is also wandering... In short, the two hearts at this time are closest to each other. Whether it is happiness or sadness, it is a rare moment in life to snuggle closely with another life, which is extremely precious.
When time goes by, you have walked through big rivers and experienced ups and downs, you will find that all those prosperous surfaces with flowers and brocade and fire cooking oil are not as good as this momentary tenderness. This "two-way love" is the real highlight of life. time.
At the end of the film, the director gave such a subtitle: "Dedicated to men and women who want to love, understand love, and pursue love."
Objectively speaking, this movie is not a wonderful film, but I think it is worth watching. As the director, Jon Joseph wants to discuss with us the ultimate proposition that the more developed the society, the more human beings have to face and solve—— how to love.
The German poet Rilke once said: "Love is very good; for love is difficult. To love with people: this is perhaps the hardest and most important thing given to us, the last experiment and test, the highest work , other work is nothing but preparation for this. So all the young people who are beginning cannot love yet; heart to learn to love."
Of course, "love" is not necessarily "political correctness" for everyone, just like Woody Allen's broken thoughts: "Why do you always lower my animal instincts to the category of psychoanalysis", Whether you like it or not, just follow my body and that's it. This is also a choice.
Finally, a couple of gossip about the movie, I think the most successful place is casting in addition to the theme.
Is there a more suitable actress than Scarlett Johansson to play the stunner? No! have!
In the same way, is there also Julian Moore, the little wolf dog who couldn't be captured by his close sister (aunt) in this year? when! Of course! also! No! have!
At the same time, I invited two goddesses with different styles to star in her large-scale debut work. It seems that Mrs. 囧Se has a good relationship~
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