a man has encountered an accident and escaped, he suddenly feels that he is dead before. From then on, he completely cut off the past, came to another city, and started another A period of life.
When people found him many years later, they found that he was doing a similar job, married a similar wife, and lived a similar life.
The new beginning is still the old life.
The article ridiculed: In fact, there is no difference between the two periods of life.
This is really a resounding slap in the face.
It makes people who are keen to evade responsibility, complain about the environment, and blame others have to face an iron fact: people who do not change and their hearts remain unchanged, wherever they are, they will reap a similar life.
Do you think that if you fall in love with someone else, you won’t be in pain? No.
Do you think that if you live in another place, you won’t worry about it? No.
Do you think that all the people and things that confuse you will disappear, all the painful memories, all the things that make you trapped, all the corrections... will everything go smoothly? No.
I have seen many people who are trapped in love, crying, mad, unhappy: "If I start again, I will not fall in love with you..." But in
fact, there is a high probability that if you meet, you will still love, will still suffer. This hate will never end.
The movie "Eternal Sunshine of the Beautiful Heart" turns this assumption into a specific plot, telling you the answer "If you forget me in his new year, I also forget you, will we be strangers".
Like you and me, the heroes and heroines in the movie, from the initial enthusiasm and happiness, slowly walked to pain and fatigue.
Later, the woman decided to forget the man.
She went to the "Forgetfulness Clinic" and asked Dr. Howard to help her erase all memories of him.
When the man stood in front of her again, she had no idea who he was.
"What books are you looking for? Sir!"
She looked at him, polite and rusty, like a stranger.
Moreover, she has fallen in love again.
The most destructive thing for a person is not to be hated or hurt, but to be completely forgotten.
He was astounded and chilled. Later, he also went to the "Forgetfulness Clinic" to delete all memories about her.
The operation was of course very successful.
All memories fell into the wilderness, disappearing frame by frame in his mind.
When he opened his eyes, he had become a new person-someone who had never been fierce with her, and had never been tortured with her.
However, on that morning, he strangely didn't go to work, but instead got on the train to Montague.
Then he met her again.
And, re-attract, re-love.
You see, no matter where you escape to, the end of the world, the corners of the world, outside of memory, and other people, if we meet, we can still accurately identify: you are the person related to me.
This is a robbery, you can't hide it.
Friends who believe in fate say: Everything is destined, everything is doomed, and everything is due to chance.
Of course, I am not a Buddhist, nor do I believe in fatalism.
I just feel that in the relationship between people, what kind of person you are, what kind of partner you will meet, this has nothing to do with fate, but with inner needs.
If you desire intense life experience, you will choose a man of corresponding temperament.
If you crave security, you will favor men who are like fathers.
There is also a sad episode in the movie.
The female assistant in the clinic suddenly kissed Dr. Howard in the middle of the night and said in tears: "I love you, I have fallen in love with you for a long time!"
He kissed her.
This situation is being met by Howard's wife.
The wife looked at the female assistant sadly: "You can have him, and you already have it..."
It turned out that the doctor and the assistant had also fallen in love before. The girl was in distress and came to the clinic to clear her memory and format her love for the doctor.
Later, she stayed and became the doctor's assistant, and became a couple with the male assistant.
Everything seems to have changed, and her life seems to start anew. But unexpectedly, she still fell in love with the doctor quietly.
Everyone has an internal relationship model.
This pattern will unconsciously repeat the same plot when you get along with others.
A few years ago, many film and television dramas about time travel appeared in China. A QQ friend who was in a distressed period once complained: I really want to travel through time.
I asked him: What do you do when you go back?
He said: Fix some things... In the
face of bad feelings, we instinctively desire to erase the memory, or desire to start again, to return to the starting point of the event, to restore some bad plots and avoid some trauma.
I answered him: It's useless, it's better to face it!
In the movie "Butterfly Effect", the male protagonist has the ability to go back to the past.
Naturally, he returned to his childhood time and time again, trying to make everything perfect, so that all regrets would never happen again. However, no matter how he fixes it, the result is always worse.
Zhang Ailing said: We will never go back.
Psychologists say: We don’t need to go back.
We can neither change the past nor repair the childhood trauma.
All arrangements are the best arrangements.
One day you will understand that the heart is shattered again and again for the sake of opening up better.
If the mind is closed, it will be in the darkness of unawareness and cannot feel the information. When you lower your head, open your eyes, and look for answers in the spiritual world, the first beam of light shines in.
The more light comes in, the happier and more compassionate you will be. The whole world is peaceful and clear, the sky is like rain, and the ground is full of brilliance.
The past cannot be traced. Time is irreversible. Accept all regrets, face all the wounds, and put an equal volume of love into the wounds, you are still a complete adult.
The deceased will stay. The future is where the living go.
Face it bravely and move forward firmly. Even if the heart is completely broken, but flying in the wind of awareness and equanimity, you will hear its voice—all the way to escape is a dead end; only the journey of awareness is the way back. Let's go, with the problem, with the trouble, and explore the whole journey of oneself. Please believe that you will meet yourself and love.
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