first type is common love, or, in the general public's opinion, it is called mature love. This kind of love focuses on the question of living. When thinking of the word love, the first phrase that comes to mind is: where to work, economic status, education, family conditions, personality, personality, appearance, whether there are bad habits, etc. . The purpose of both parties in this love is very ordinary (in the eyes of some people, it can be said to be very vulgar), that is to find a partner to live a good life (the author's father once said this in the vernacular: my wife can wash and cook for you!) , Or pass on the family line, or after solving family problems, feel at ease with the development of the career. So they value the status of their property, whether they have a house or a car, how much their annual salary is, and even the right kind of business. They must at least have requirements for things like character, character, and talent. Young people always put a lot of trouble on such a scheming view of love, and they tell their elders sternly, "You don't know what love is at all"! As my friend said, "marriage is often just a proof of hypocrisy."
The first kind of love actually externalizes and materializes people. We can't help but ask whether people are materialized existences? Why must we rely on external evaluation criteria to evaluate a person before deciding whether there is love? Thus, the second form of love appeared. This kind of love is essentially first love. As we all know, first love often doesn't care about that many! As long as the bastard sees mung beans right, then go! Youth is like fire, and I can't help feeling emotionally. The more I look at the little girl (lady), the more pleasing to the eye, "Privately set the garden for life." So Huan Zhuge began to stage: scene after scene of vigor, scene after scene of eachother, scene after scene of crying heaven and earth, scene after scene unforgettable. People often say that first love is the most beautiful and purest, but in the end, most of these loves end up with "the birds all go to the forest, and the white land is so clean!"
Daiyu is dead. Idealistic love is like a fragile and sensitive poet, it is easy to be overwhelmed in the rush of real materialism. There are three logical trends of the second kind of love: The first is that the foolish men and women who were so in love at the time finally "woke up", knowing the impossibility of ideals, and thus lost the hope of seeking ideals. The next step is to evolve into The believers and defenders of the first kind of love will say to their younger generation, "Children, feelings are temporary and unreliable! Only these material conditions and external standards are reliable. Mom and Dad are from your age. Come here, do you think Mom and Dad don’t understand?" The
second logical trend is the scene we saw in "Angels Love Beauty" and similar literary films. In a society that is more “free” (French freedom) and less family education (Emily’s father did not interfere with his daughter’s love at all), the believers of the second type of love have become extremely idealistic in order to maintain their idealistic character Delicate, perceptual and petty bourgeoisie, accompanied by a high degree of sexual liberation. We see that Emily is an extremely delicate person-she is just like a little rabbit, sensitively searching, touching and discovering the love she wants in an unpredictable world. This kind of delicacy is not an external standard as in the first view of love, but a kind of intuition of the soul (also often accompanied by eros). Maybe just a certain action or a certain look of the other party is enough to make these delicate girls fascinated and fall in love. This kind of feeling and experience of love focusing on the soul, such as the love in films such as "Paris Wild Rose", "Reading of Life and Death", and "Summer Palace", may all fall into this category. For such love, reason is not important, love itself is important.
Emily got happiness at the end of the movie, but the author still deeply doubts such a love, because such a love is love without content. Love at first sight itself is a lack of life. If two people can quickly reach an agreement on the ideological and spiritual level after falling in love, it would be fine, but such movies show that they quickly reached an agreement on sex. Although in "The Wild Rose of Paris" and "Readings of Life and Death", the male protagonists are still more responsible, but in reality, if this kind of love goes on, I am afraid that most of them will be irresponsible. Because the question that this kind of love must face is: can the love formed by such delicate feelings be maintained once it encounters contradictions in other aspects? (For example, one day when they talked about politics, they suddenly discovered that one was a socialist and the other was a liberal) Why do they always make love so impatiently? Isn't it just to hide the unfamiliarity of the two sides in spirit and thought, and want to hold each other tightly through the body? Yes, the feeling of making love may indeed be "real" because the possessiveness is satisfied. However, experience tells us that the body just cannot hold people. Some people may say, so what, anyway, my love does not have to last forever, I can constantly change people, constantly renew my partner, and I will kick it away when I find that this person is not suitable. Then find new people. Anyway, someone will meet my delicate petty bourgeois requirements. I live my whole life, just play like this all my life.
For this kind of love, even if I can't say that I hate it deeply, at least I will stay away from it. This kind of love has come to the opposite of one's own ideals, more or less from freedom to indulgence. Not to mention anything else, from the perspective of physical health and prevention of AIDS, that kind of love is unacceptable. We really need to think, what is a good love?
Indeed, love may not be justified. A good love must contain the most precious element of first love: obscurity and sincerity, as well as delicate feelings. But a mature person should reflect on love with reason. Regardless of why, love is not worth pursuing. Only after rational reflection can we understand where the responsibility lies. This is also the third logical trend of the second kind of love, that is, to reflect on love in a timely manner through rationality and to build the foundation of love in a down-to-earth manner. I admire those few people who have withstood many trials and finally turned their first love into a true fruit.
I admire the kind of love that is based on the vague and sincere love, but also has common ideals and beliefs, and uses wisdom and courage to break through the difficulties in the practice of life, and finally uses a happy marriage to assume a responsible love. This is the third kind of love. The author likes the kind of generosity and honesty, rather than petty bourgeoisie, like Emily did so many unnecessary "strategies" to design the love of the lover. The author prefers love that is loyal and responsible at the level of sex, rather than love that takes sex as its substance. The essence of love lies in the love and yearning for freedom of both parties, not in possessiveness nor in the delicate thoughts that take a long time to understand.
You might say that love is love, and love should not be a slave to material things, but it should not be a slave to thought either! Love is an end in itself. Therefore, it is correct to keep love away from reality and away from thought. However, I feel that when talking about purpose, I am afraid that freedom should be the purpose, and talent should be the purpose. Petty-bourgeois love is mostly unrealistic. Even if it is realized, I think it does not touch the essence of true love.
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