I wrote a film review of "When Happiness Knocks on the Door" before, and I will write another one today, focusing on the pitfalls encountered by ordinary people when they struggle hard.
To understand the meaning and value of this movie, we must first look at a medical common sense question:
Carotid artery hemorrhage, and it is not in the emergency room of a hospital, and cannot be treated by a doctor in time. What is the probability of being rescued?
Basically 0%
Even in the hospital, there is a doctor who treats him in time, and the probability of being rescued is very low.
Many life difficulties are basically the same as "carotid artery puncture and hemorrhage." The probability of treatment is extremely low, and it is basically impossible to save them.
It is irreversible, it can only be prevented and avoided.
But the problem here is that life’s dilemma is not the same as carotid bleeding. Carotid bleeding is sudden, severe, and painful. Most people who are sane understand not to cut their necks unless you want to die. .
But the predicament of life is not. It is moisturizing things silently, boiling frogs in warm water, unknowingly, and even very comfortable and happy. It just happened. After it happened, many people still have fantasies and even delusions. How can I How can I improve my life to develop myself?
As for the hero of the movie, the several life difficulties encountered are exactly the same as those of carotid artery hemorrhage, which are almost irreparable.
The hero turned himself into an inspirational representative, which is cool, but we can only describe it as a medical miracle.
The correct way of thinking about watching this film is not to think that miracles will happen to yourself.
Ordinary people can learn the methods of the male lead, but the dilemma of the male lead should be avoided at the first time.
The first trap: early childbirth.
Note that it is early childbirth, not non-marriage and infertility. Benbo never advocates any form of non-marriage and infertility.
The most obvious dilemma of the male protagonist in the film is that he has a low degree of education, only a high school degree, and at least a bachelor degree or an Ivy League degree is required to work on Wall Street.
But the constraints of academic qualifications on the life of the male protagonist are not the most difficult.
The child is.
The cute little boy in the film is very likable and is the inexhaustible motivation for the hero.
But in reality this is completely different.
Having a baby means only one thing:
Huge debts, and the time available for reading, studying, and work has been greatly reduced.
And it's not just a reduction, it may even be zero.
In other words, after you have a child, the time you spend studying, studying, and working is close to zero.
The savings that you use to save and accumulate future investments and careers may also be close to zero.
After having a child, you can only choose to be stable and maintain the status quo.
It is impossible to develop and add value.
Early childbirth is basically the same as carotid hemorrhage.
So I often receive various submissions, saying that I have a child, and I didn’t understand when I was young, and I was always at the bottom of the workplace. Now I want to develop, I want to get a promotion and raise my salary, what should I do?
Nothing to do.
Unless you are a genius.
Otherwise, without any promotion and career foundation, if you still give birth, you are basically unlikely to have any development in the future.
It is very incorrect to say that politics, because both Chinese and foreign values believe that family and children come first.
But family children are amplifiers.
If you mix well, family children can make you happier and make your career more development.
You are confused, precarious, at the bottom of the workplace, family children will only cut off your possibility of rising.
Even if it is a good person who has given birth and has sex, he will admit to you that the child is a drag on the career.
Unless he lied shamelessly.
The baby is born, you have to love him
The child is not born, and you really want a career, so don't make trouble for yourself.
Early childbirth must be cautious.
If the protagonist in the film does not have a child in his early 20s, he can have a lot of good career choices in his early 20s, and he has a very good starting point for his career. It doesn't need to be more than 30 to live on the streets and fight against the sky.
When I was in my early 20s, I laid a solid foundation for my career.
You can't afford it.
Even the famous stallion cooking teacher on Weibo, he became a billionaire to have the confidence to give birth to a few more. How could he dare to do this when he was just starting an unstable business.
Ordinary diaosi does not have his financial resources, but he highly respects his multi-child values. If this is done, the future wealth of life will always stay in the diaosi stage.
The second trap: education. The male lead's education is too low, just high school.
The prototype of the story is more bumpy. The family background is very poor. Even if you have good grades, you don’t have the money to study. You can only join the army. In the army, you can go to military academy. Even after graduation, you can do odd jobs to accumulate income. It's okay. You can enter the top 500 after graduation. With the ability of a male lead, you will be at least an executive when you reach the age of the film.
But after he was discharged from the army, he had children and couldn't study.
Children are not only extremely destructive to their careers, but also extremely destructive to their studies. In reality, I have also encountered people who can enter first-class graduate and doctoral colleges, but can't make it because of pregnancy.
Chinese people understand the importance of academic qualifications, so I won’t go into details here.
The third trap: Entrepreneurship, franchise entrepreneurship
The male protagonist started selling medical equipment door-to-door. This discerning person looked like a classic franchisee scam.
If you have problems with basic survival, food and clothing, you must remember:
1. Don't try to start a business,
2. Don't believe in joining.
Even if you have some savings and don't worry about survival, I don't recommend joining and starting a business.
This is a 100% legal scam.
Fourth trap: bad partner/family
Many ordinary people at the bottom have an illusion, or illusion:
It is too difficult for me to fight alone. It would be great if someone could understand me, tolerate me, care for me and support me.
This is a typical brain squeezed by the door.
In reality, a poor and humble partner will only be like acting on TV, making trouble, quarreling, and dragging you back.
If you are unable to settle down and have bigger goals, it is better to stay single for the time being.
At least it's better to stay single before making more visible progress.
Most people meet not a bad partner, but a bad family. This is very important. Move out as soon as possible to achieve physical isolation.
The last pitfall: the embarrassment when I first entered the society, I am afraid of life everywhere.
The movie focuses on the scene where the male protagonist can’t eat, can’t find a place to live and take a taxi, can’t pay the fare, and is uncomfortable when the boss borrows 20 dollars.
Young people in reality will not be homeless.
But when I just graduated and went to a big city to work hard, I would still encounter this problem easily.
So we must have a foresight.
Save more money and save in college. There is a savings of 20,000 to 30,000. After graduation, you don’t have to worry too much, and you don’t need to be restrained by your family. You can find a job freely.
3-5 years before graduation, try to save as much as possible, and try not to quit barely. After barely quitting, there is no source of income for life, which will have a great impact on your emotions and mentality, and it is likely to make your next job worse.
That's roughly it.
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