1. Cool Girl
's culture is slightly different between the East and the West, but in general, men like a kind of creature called "cool girl". In addition to the basic hardware of the face, the Peugeot and the hot body, the Cool girl is such a creature. They can wear team uniforms with boys to watch football games, stuff pizza burgers in their mouths, but never worry about not wearing small clothes. They are smart, funny and humorous, with a bright smile on their faces. They will not be jealous because their boyfriend talks and laughs with other girls, and they fully understand that men miss their scheduled dates because of their buddies' gatherings. Cool girl won't nag, she knows when to be silent, and give her boyfriend his own space. She will not make unreasonable demands, and will not interfere with the other party.
The male version corresponding to Cool girl is a rare breed called "Prince Charming", which is mostly seen in various chick movies and Korean dramas. Of course, in addition to the most basic equipment such as tall and tall, wealthy, smiling, white teeth, each of which reflects a gentle light, Prince Charming also has to observe the small heroines all year round like a 24-hour convenience store. In his mind, other women's legs are longer than you, chests are bigger than you, faces are bigger than you are, and they are all regarded as dung. He remembered every trivial holiday and anniversary outside of Mars, the heroine would just see a fish pond, a real estate, a small park or something, the hero would say domineeringly, "This piece of xx, I will contract for you (buy/ Named)! "What is Prince Charming? Do you think it is enough to give away a brand-name bag? There will also be matching wallets inside. Do you think a wallet is enough? You have to put in various platinum VIP cards and enough cash!
Regardless of whether Cool Girl and Prince Charming really exist, at least many of us know how to perform mimicry and adapt to the law of the jungle. Just like Amy. The smart Amy first saw Nick and knew that he liked "Cool girl", so like many other smart girls, she decided to enter the "cool girl" mode.
2. Good love makes each other better people.
This is a sentence I have always believed in before. But after watching "gone girl", I can't help thinking, what if this better person is not yourself? What if you are just acting as a better person to meet the expectations of the other party?
Just like at the beginning of the relationship between Amy and Nick, they both played the roles that each other wanted. Although they themselves have got a lot of satisfaction and happiness from acting, deep down, they always know that it is not themselves. So when there were cracks in the masks, and when the true colors under the masks first appeared, there was a problem with their marriage.
This is the essence of this book and this movie. When there is a gap between reality and expectation, where will marriage stand?
Unemployed due to the financial crisis, the tired Nick no longer has the intention of cooperating with Amy's expectations, and because of Nick's decadence, Amy has decided to reveal his true character. The real she disgusted Nick. This is where Amy is really angry. He loves the "cool girl" she played, not her. This is a huge damage to her self-esteem.
Her revenge is very interesting. At first she decided to frame him for murder, but in the middle, her mind changed. She found that she had inspired the Nick who met at the first time-no, even better-which made her feel excited and made her feel that there is hope for the marriage between them to continue, as long as both people return to the original Role-playing. Even Nick himself said after finishing that touching interview, "She brought out the best in me."
3. Unconditional love
Unconditional love, is this a wish that is too extravagant? Even Amy's own parents can't give her. For them, she is the prototype of Amazing Amy, the incomplete product that all failures need to make Amazing Amy complete. If we let our parents down, do they still love us? The degree of love is still the same? Did you even love the part where we failed?
Unconditional love. This is what Amy and all women like Amy expect from their other half. It is also something we thought we could get from the family. But what kind of existence is it? Is it because of love that you love all your shortcomings and all the dark sides together? Or is it because you love your strengths, so you can accommodate your tolerable shortcomings? If it is the latter, then if one day finds a flaw that is so huge that it cannot be tolerated, is love still there?
Amy did not get unconditional love from her parents, so she hopes to get it from the family she has formed. In the book, she wrote, shouldn't marriage be loving each other unconditionally? When she didn't get it, she decided to punish him.
4. The bottom line
ending of marriage is really sad. This is more sad than all life and death. It seems that the way to continue a marriage is that you have to put on a mask and perform.
But marriages in the world are in various forms, right?
Nick's sister didn't understand why he could still live with such a terrible woman. She would not understand.
I remember once chatting with a friend and talking about the bottom line of marriage. I thought about it, there is no universal bottom line, the bottom line of marriage is the bottom line of each other. When you pay for a marriage, you pay for each other's bottom line.
From this point of view, Nick and Amy are really a match made in heaven.
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