I've never been married, don't scare me

Demarco 2021-10-13 13:06:42

This is a modern fable about marriage. Regarding marriage, the appearance in this story is still the eternal siege and tomb dilemma, passion to daily life, fantasy to disillusionment, love to indifference to resentment to killing each other. Public opinion guided by the new media has put the cloak of modernity on this story, but for viewers who have been immersed in American culture for a long time, the unconscious and easily manipulated nature of public groups has long been nothing new.

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There is nothing new under the sun, but this movie is so fascinating that these ordinary themes are blended in a special way, and it is colorful and exciting. The story successfully created a pair of abnormal couples Nick and Amy, the enviable match made in heaven. As cultural workers with successful careers, both of them are clever, smart, knowledgeable, and tasteful people. Such a highly congruent marriage happened to be shattered under the management of two wise men, until the wife directed a frightening missing scene. In addition, another novelty of the story is the introduction of a third party force. Similar to the famous Simpson Wife Murder case, the media and the public, as spectators and self-assured arbiter, promoted the flames while raising their flags, and their intervention brought marriage to life. Withdraw from the private sphere and put it on the bench of public opinion. The mixing of private emotions and public moral judgments builds depth in the conceptual level of the story, and also allows simple and old-fashioned story settings to intersect with new complexity.

The method of storytelling is equally important, and may be even more important for this film. Such a movie, which is about 150 minutes in length, is not procrastinated at all, and the whole process is full of surprises and fun. Thanks to Gillian Flynn's original work and script, and David Fincher's strategizing, this two-and-a-half-hour roller coaster traverses dangerous situations, which is sometimes puzzled, sometimes smiled, and sometimes stunned. Just by gently flicking the puppet line of the plot, the suspense can be pushed to the extreme without the suspenseful soundtrack and the mysterious atmosphere rendering, which shows the depth of the director's skill.

The structure of the whole story is very delicate. If you do a boring anatomy, the narrative is divided into two clues horizontally, with Nick and Amy as the central characters in parallel. Vertically, it is divided into two paragraphs based on time series, centered on Amy’s revelation. The first paragraph can be regarded as the suspense of the incident, and the latter can be regarded as the resolution of the incident. =).

The narratives in the two paragraphs before and after are actually different. In the suspense chapter, Nick’s life and detection progress after Amy’s disappearance is a bright line that develops in chronological order, and with the dark line of talk in Amy’s diary, we can A glimpse of the married life of the two from a retrospective perspective. On the bright side, the scene of the crime is full of doubts and clues. Nick’s life has surfaced-extramarital affairs, eating soft food, and seemingly innocent, he is wrapped in lies; secretly, Amy’s ghostly narrative will marry The misfortunes of later life corresponded to the clues that emerged one by one, indifference, domestic violence, blood and tears. The two main lines of Nick and Amy are like the AB side of the tape, one bright and one dark, one flashback, one reality and the other imaginary, forming a mirror-like marriage maze.

When Amy's diary was found and all the clues surfaced and pointed to one place, Nick, who had long been chased by neighbors and media reporters, had already pointed at him. While the movie clearly shows Nick's confusion, it uses the female police officer's mouth to make the audience from the perspective of God realize that things are not so simple. Compared with detective fiction-style reasoning, this story suddenly reveals all of Amy’s tactics. At this time, he has changed his face to avoid people’s eyes, only to see the betrayal of his husband be punished. This is indeed a well-designed scam. So far tore through the fog, the heroine Amy finally stepped onto the stage from behind the scenes, letting the story continue in an unknown direction.

The first half of the story is a static mystery, and many clues are gradually gathered. Compared with the second half of the story, an open feature with infinite possibilities is suddenly added, and the fate of the hero and the heroine has become the biggest mystery. The respective situations of the heroes and heroines go hand in hand as the two narrative lines. The battered Nick began to try to fight back, seeking the help of a senior defense lawyer, looking for the "victims" of his wife, and finally betting his fate on the TV interview. Amy's life in seclusion also suffered a major blow. She was wronged by her cleverness. Her very high criminal mind was planted in the hands of two old mandarin duck thieves, and she had no choice but to turn to the rich children who had infatuated with her. At this time, Nick’s "Confessions" broadcast on TV became an opportunity to reverse the fortunes of the two.

From the moment Amy stared intently at the man who loved and hated on the other end of the screen, the ending was already written. So the rich second generation became another victim of Amy, and Amy once again appeared in front of Nick, who was just released on bail. At this point, the two clues finally come together, and the dead marriage is resurrected again in a distorted form that meets our expectations but does not meet our ideals.

"What the hell is she thinking?" The beginning and the end of the film converge, forming an inescapable circle. The lives of the two people went from separation to reunion, separated again, each made waves, and finally reunited again. The idea and structure of the whole story are exquisite, three-dimensional and not scattered, and the relationship between content and levels has a narrative beauty.

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But the end does not mean the end. For the public, this national sensation of disappearance is undoubtedly just a happy past in the United States. The highly anticipated American sweetheart escaped, the perverted kidnappers were guilty of death, the cheating husband re-behaved, and a marriage that was about to collapse was saved again. The public and the media will neither believe nor try to imagine that they are just pawns at the mercy of others, nor will they reflect on their own arbitrariness. The cognitive dissonance mechanism will make them more firmly believe that the husband is wrong, but we forgive. It's just him.

Very few people: Nick, Nick’s sister, lawyer, female police officer, Amy’s ex-boyfriend, and of course Amy himself. They know the facts, but they can’t or don’t want to restore the truth. Nick may be the most painful one of them. Under the threat of Amy, he finally decided to maintain this marriage with this woman who once wanted to put her to death but tried to kill her in order to get back to him. ,Raising children.

So we were puzzled and angry, justice was not done, Bitch was still the Bitch, and even more frightening, Bitch told Nick: This is marriage. When I heard these words, I couldn’t help being stunned. If I was not far from the door, I would run away, and then went directly to the nearest DVD store to order a DVD and put it to relatives when I returned home: Look, this is what I am single. reason.

But I didn't leave after all. Who would believe the words of a devil? But we still think about what this is all about, removing the element of madness, why two people who have such a tacit understanding will come to this point, after all, the fit between them is something I have been looking for, even if a celebrity I said that seeking truth in virtual works must be a brain problem.

Nick was clapped by his wife from beginning to end. In other words, he seemed to be the representative of most married men. The difference was degree. Like many men, they were romantic and intimate at the beginning of their acquaintance. After marriage, they were indifferent and indifferent. Under the polishing of real life, their passion was gone, and they even began to seek extramarital comfort.

Amy is much more dazzling than Nick. Like Nick, he is also a small accomplished cultural worker, but at the same time he is the prototype of the best-selling national children's book series "The Great Amy" created by his parents. Sparkling label: Harvard talented student, smart, funny, beautiful, and otherworldly. After meeting Nick, who is personable and talkative, Amy enters into marriage for his attraction.

Two smart people with similar background knowledge structure, in buzzwords, have the same frequency band and wavelength (frequency band and wavelength are equivalent expressions, because frequency multiplied by wavelength equals the speed of light ==). In a marriage relationship, there must always be a leader and a controller, and smart people have to compete with each other. Obviously, Nick lost. The loss of control and the unsatisfactory reality makes him become the person he has promised not to become faster.

Amy is the victim and the perpetrator. She is extremely clever, so clever that she disdains the old adage that "I would rather believe that there are ghosts in the world than men have a mouth". She asked Nick if she would coax her with sweet words like others, and Nick expressed sincerely that she would not. There is reason to believe that the person in love is indeed true at this time (people who hesitate on this question are lonely and extinct. ). So she thinks Nick will always keep his promise, keep the marriage fresh, and keep playing the treasure hunt. As for the breakdown of the marriage, she hadn't thought about it. After all, they were all smart people and soul mates. Common support is not in her dictionary. What she wants is a perfect marriage that is full of fun and never fades.

So when the problem arises, when her marriage begins to fall like a layman’s marriage, all the problems turn to Nick. This man is the culprit, who betrayed the marriage, betrayed the promise, and even returned Covet your own money. This is the murder of the soul, so it must be punished, such as the death penalty.

And when Nick disguised his confession on TV, the crazy woman Amy believed him again like a little girl. Of course she didn't believe it, but she just wanted it, even if it was pretending, at least it looked like a perfect marriage. For this, she did not hesitate to kill others, used her own mind to create another scam, and then returned to this man who resented and feared her, and threatened him to continue the marriage.

The defense lawyer was right, "You two are the craziest people I have ever met." In addition to Amy, the other crazy person is Nick. Even if he was dying to be tortured, even if he knew the most familiar stranger in his life again, he still chose to stay and be controlled. I guess it's not just because of Amy's intimidation, what is ruined, what is separation between father and son, these are not problems, he can play the cards in his hand, take the opportunity to reverse, the least help is just to die. When two people come together freely in love, there must be something in their bones that attracts each other. These things include danger and anxiety. For Nick, in addition to his still intact family, and a little reflection on his mistakes, I am afraid there is still the same crazy factor in the blood that needs to be suppressed by another of the same kind.

The rest of their lives may still be what is reluctantly called marriage, a derivative of when novelists racked their brains to push the contradiction to the limit. But this is not our daily concept of marriage. Apart from living together, even if there are occasional disagreements and unsatisfactory expectations, it is always a process of moving forward together and working hard to understand each other. Allow me to drop my book bag again. According to a study by the University of Toronto this year (published in "Experimental Social Psychology"), compared to couples who continue to grow and overcome problems, those "souls who feel a perfect fit with each other" "Partners" are more likely to break up. After all, different people always have differences, and the unhappiness caused by these differences is more deadly for these people-which means that they are no longer perfect. To quote the experimenter’s summary: This (partnership/marriage) is a journey. If you feel better about the present, you will do better in the future.

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Speaking of a bunch of nonsense that has been spit out countless times in popular songs from the beginning of the Book of Songs to the current popular songs, it seems that I can barely feel that marriage is not so terrible and that Amy is undoubtedly a madman. The last words are left to the most unbearable people in this farce-the police and the FBI (the public and the media have been complained by sociologists enough). Her lies, especially for the rich second-generation Barney who took his life to pick up girls naked on the bed (not paying attention to the name in the film), there are always various loopholes in this unnecessarily kidnapping (it has nothing to do with the audience's God perspective). Except for the female police officer who protected her life, other policemen and even the FBI have also given up their professionalism and closed the case in a hurry. Do you have any prejudice against the FBI, the screenwriter...

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Gone Girl quotes

  • Amy Dunne: The girl with the giant cum-on-me tits.

  • Amy Dunne: I've killed for you. Who else can say that?