'Some people are alive, he is dead; some people are dead, he is still alive. 'In the fast-paced life and high pressure at work, many people are just like what this poem says: Although they are alive, their hearts are withered, and they live awkwardly. Every morning the alarm clock rings, and I get up several times with delays; I ran to the subway station while eating breakfast, many times I didn’t eat breakfast at all; I spent eight hours full of resentment in the company, no time and energy to cook by myself, just casual Order a takeaway to fill up your stomach; sleep in the quilt at night while watching TV while swiping your phone, and do not do anything until you go to bed at 12 o'clock. Although I want to quit my job every day, I just think about it. Dreams, happiness, passion, impulse...These things are getting more and more distant from oneself, and the term "Buddha" has swept half of the circle of friends at some point. We are less and less curiosity, less and less motivated. If life is a journey, most people are small boats that follow nature (following the flow), and some are trains with clear goals and diligence. The movie "Dad Dartley with white beard and hair in "102 Years Old" is undoubtedly a helicopter.
Dartley is 102 years old, but he is totally unconvinced. He looks very gentleman in an exquisite linen suit. He is playing around and has great energy. He also wants to beat the 116-year-old Wang Chongbei to set the Guinness record for longevity. From his vigorous posture, keen mind and full sense of humor, he will ignore his age unconsciously. His mentality and behavior are no different from those of a young man in his early twenties. Such an old man is likable. Whether he is riding a tricycle or taking a walk in the park, he can always make strangers laugh. The risk of the boss scolding will also run to Dartley's house.
Dartley’s 75-year-old son, Babu, is a completely opposite character. Dartley is thin, Bab is fat; Datley is carefree, Bab is cautious; Datley is optimistic and positive, and Bab is nervous and conservative. Babu put the label "Remember to turn off the faucet" under the towel in the bathroom. He couldn't sleep without holding a Kashmiri blanket. The lifestyle and life philosophy of the two were completely different. Together, they were destined to touch sparks.
In fact, besides being a little bit obsessive-compulsive, Babu has nothing wrong with us. At 75 years old, it’s normal to be dull. It’s normal to go to a doctor if you’re sick, and it’s normal to stay at home and not want to change your lifestyle. Compared with most elderly people, Babu is cute, at least he doesn’t nag. There is no desire to control and will not force children to live according to their own wishes. He is a good man: to support his father; to spend all his savings for his son to study in the United States; he is ethical; he does not rely on the old to sell him. It is very happy to have such a father, and there are not too many shortcomings to have such a son. But Dartley was not satisfied. He threatened to send Babu to a nursing home, forcing Babu to change himself step by step. Babu's initial reaction was unbelievable and thunderous, but as time passed, it seemed impossible. The task was completed, and Babu began to slowly transform.
What is the meaning of life? The first thought that many people have in their minds is very simple, that is, to be alive. If we have abundant material conditions and a stable and safe social environment on this basis, that would be even better. In order to achieve this goal, we must study hard, work hard, make mistakes that are not feasible, and exhaust ourselves. Half a lifetime of effort. After satisfying this foundation, a further need is emotion. At this time, a warm family, a harmonious relationship between the sexes, and parent-child communication with children around the knee have become another goal of our efforts. Unfortunately, the human heart cannot be calculated by mathematical formulas. , The thing about feelings is not fruitful if we work hard. While covering our wounded hearts, we increase the bargaining chip to invest in it. In a human society,'human' and'emotion' are the dependence and sustenance of individuals, and they are hardly immune. For a long time, the understanding of life has been passed down from the intergenerational relationship and from the mainstream consciousness. Even if we do not admit it or resist, we still inevitably pass on some ideas and more or less follow a certain established track. Moving forward, how other people live and work, we learn how to live and work.
In reality, how many people can stick to their childhood dreams? In your life, remember your favorite book when you were young and your favorite toy to play with? For the sake of our sense of security, we abandoned our uniqueness, plunged into the flow of people, and became blurred. One was the "Beat Generation", another was "Kill Matt", and the other was a "Buddhist youth". No one has ever seriously asked themselves: Who am I?
Babu stood in front of the plane in the park with a childlike look on his face. There are some truly precious things that cannot be plundered by time. At that moment, he thought of his childhood, of Brother White, and of fairy tales and joy. On that day, he recalled childhood, youth and middle age. The spring, summer and autumn of his life passed before his eyes alternately. Memory is a treasure house. Only by holding the treasures in his hands and dusting them can he see again. Shining pearly light. When he returned home, he finally made up his mind to cut the Kashmiri blanket that he regarded as a treasure with scissors. This cut was his dependence and his timidity. Only when you really face your own heart can you pull out the source of fear. Without the familiar blanket, I thought I would be insomnia, but I didn't expect to fall asleep even lying on the sofa. Babu's fetish healed itself.
Many things that seem to be difficult are actually not that difficult to do. The hard part is the first step to open your heart, and this step is the most difficult step. In life, many times we will shrink for various reasons: I wonder if the next owner will be better? If it’s not good, you won’t be able to come back after resigning. It’s better to be a mixed student and give up a chance to quit in entanglement; I like her for a long time, and I have shown it several times in secret, but her reaction is a little weak. She is Didn't you have no feelings for me? What if she just refuses to confess? After hesitation, the edited WeChat was deleted again; in my heart, I clearly didn’t want to go back to my home business unit and repelled the life of seeing my head at a glance, but I hadn’t achieved any results after wandering for many years. I urged over and over again on the phone, feeling ashamed and ashamed. Although reluctant, we still bought a train ticket to go home... We always compromise to life actively or passively, and we call it'mature'. 'As we grow older, our wisdom and ability do not necessarily increase, but our cowardice accumulates. We just changed a way to make ourselves more comfortable and let ourselves accept this fact.
The ancients said that “sorrow is no greater than heart death.” The saddest thing in the world is stubbornness. It is no longer interested in unknown knowledge, and just guarding the little ink in his head. It is to the surroundings. His things are insensitive, no longer have the desire to explore beauty, and shut a heart with loneliness. Life is actually very short. The longest-lived person in the world, Mr. Wang Chongbei, has only lived 116 years old. Most of us will not live to this age. This short period of hundreds of years, if it can’t be used To feel the beauty and wonder of the world, not to embrace love and warmth, to open up the connection between the soul and the universe, wouldn't it be a shame?
If a person cannot really know himself, then he will always become his prisoner.
Babu leads a regular and peaceful life year after year, but he never smiles on his face. He has made himself a robot without knowing it. Dartley knew this truth, so he lived arbitrarily. He knew too much about the hidden meaning of life. The last gift he left to his son was to open the door of his heart and let him find himself.
This movie touched me a lot. A frame of frame was filled with a sunflower-like positive spirit. The post-ninety generation around him began to call himself middle-aged. The old Indian grandfather is still breaking through and embracing his life in his seventies and eighties. Having a young heart is more important than having a youthful skin. Terry looked younger and more energetic than his son, Babu, and the twilightness grew up first in his mind. Maybe when we encounter problems, we should be less self-deprecating, less shrinking, more childish, and more humorous.
As long as it changes, it is never too late. The way Babu wrote a love letter to his deceased wife made me laugh out loud; when Dartley took out the report to tell Babu the truth, my eyes were a little sore. The best love is to make the other person a better self. Dartley took pains to finally let Babu enter a new life. He became more open-minded, no longer entangled in the little things in life; he became wiser, learned to look at problems from another angle; he became more confident, no longer begging for love that he could not get. Health care, property, children... He finally broke free from the shackles that were tied to him. The most important wealth in life is to have a brave heart and free thoughts. Babu was born again at the age of 75.
Dartley said to Babu:'As long as you live, don't die. 'This sentence is obviously not just a literal meaning, as long as you live, don't die, live well, not only the body must be healthy, but the soul must not be dead. To live is worth living for the best. I think this is probably the meaning of life.
Dartley said, after I died, at the moment my heart stopped beating, you whistled loudly. Babu blew his whistle. The sea is connected to the distant sky, and the earth seems to be connected to the universe. Dartley's soul may have really become a star. He taught his son the last lesson with his remaining life, and also taught us the last lesson, don’t live to live, don’t live in a muddle, lifeless life, everyone deserves the best life. May we be in the body and soul and live in the spring breeze forever.
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