It is actually a similar story to Blue Valentine's Day and the Revolutionary Road: a couple who originally fell in love became the same bed in the middle-class life, pursuing different things. The man is serious and conscientious to his wife and children, but he has no ambition to settle down every day. Women want poetry and distance. The final outcome is the inevitable separation.
Of course the difference is that the disagreement between husband and wife in The Disappearance stems from their baby who died prematurely. The way the hero moves on is to return to the life that has been day after day before, and continue to let life push him away. The heroine couldn't get out of grief, and finally decided that she must disappear for a while. The words of the heroine’s mother and the heroine hit the key point: perhaps people grieve differently.
My psychiatrist told me that men and women deal with feelings differently, and also told me a similar case: after the loss of a child, the husband can continue soon. Going to work seems like nothing happened, but the wife can't.
If the story of The Disappearance were put by my side, I would immediately suggest that they go to couple therapy. I didn’t mean to break the label of literary love that this movie put on it, but in reality, it’s not a question of love. It’s a typical PTSD (post trauma stress disorder) and how couples coup with it. Psychological problems.
After this point is made clear, let's talk about the movie itself.
I watched Her first and hit Samsung. The reason why I can patiently finish watching Her carefully is because I understand too much the feeling of wanting to disappear for a while, and too understand how annoying it is to be found when I want to disappear.
But overall I don't like Her very much. There are several reasons. First, I think the whole movie is a little hypocritical, and the model worker is also a little hypocritical. She had short haircut (it must be admitted that short hair is beautiful), drew black eye shadows, and went to a certain university to take some dispensable classes. She looked like a rebellious young literary girl. She also ran clubbing with her younger sister, and almost went to bed with a stranger. This kind of self-indulgent healing method is familiar to me. I was like this once. But I think that for a woman who lost a child not long ago (she should be at least 30 years old), I feel a little hard to empathize. The other is her attitude towards Yimei, not giving the other person a chance to talk seriously-maybe she has been disappointed many times so she doesn't want to be entangled anymore, which I understand very well, but the film itself did not explain clearly-and when she is in a good mood Walked into his bar willfully and asked to drive aimlessly somewhere. I didn't feel her feelings for Yimi. On the contrary, in Him, Yimei's feelings for her are expressed more clearly. The other thing I don’t like about Her is that the school where the model worker went to class-Cooper Union-I couldn't be more familiar with. When I was exchanging in New York, I often haunted there. The question of the mid-term architecture exam was the peculiar building of Cooper Union (not a good memory).
I don’t know why the setting of this movie is set in New York. I wonder if it will be better if you change the city?
Let's talk about Him again. I scored four stars because I felt that the plot and character settings were more reasonable. Although Yimei has an ambition to have a mediocre career in reality, he has conflicts with his rich dad and does not want to work for his dad, loves his wife and treats his wife very well, and thinks that he has stepped up at a critical moment, but in fact, after the child’s death, his wife’s heart He didn't understand disappointment and sadness. In the final analysis, Yimei was an ordinary middle-class man with low IQ and low EQ. There are a few details that are very touched: he and his dad went to the port to throw the dead fish back into the sea, saw a young couple trying to run away and chased after desperately, and finally watched in the park. The look in the old lawn.
There are several interesting parallels in the two films. The hostess asked his father, do I look like a different person? Then in Him, the host asked his mother-in-law the same thing. The hostess and younger sister fell to the ground in a scuffle, while the hostess and his friend fell on the floor in the kitchen of the restaurant.
Talk about actors. It is a bit annoying to give too many close-ups to the model worker sister. I feel that the model worker's acting is a bit too hard. Yimei's performance is quite satisfactory and normal. Viola Davis's performance is quite remarkable, but I don't know how it helps to promote the plot. Finally, I have to say that Isabelle Huppert's role is a failure. To portray her too stereotypical-because it is French, she doesn't have to make her look like nothing to do with a glass of red wine in her hand all day.
The photography is great. The blurry feeling of many lenses and the background music seem to melt together. After watching the two films, I found that it was not just different clips, but several of the same scenes were shot separately, with different angles and even slightly different lines. The two lines move forward separately, then meet, then move forward separately, and meet again. When you watch one first and then watch the second, the feeling of knowing what will happen in the next second, but not sure what will actually happen, is really amazing. I think this may be one of the effects the director is trying to pursue.
The soundtrack is very good. I listened to Original Music From And Inspired By: The Disappearance by Eleanor Rigby on Spotify today-probably a work worth five stars. highly recommended.
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