It's not that she is 158 and weighs 130, has small eyes and nose, or has a few acne on her face, or lives in the basement with a monthly salary of 800, and her parents do not have medical insurance when working on farming.
Dostoevsky, the man I thought was better than Almodovar and Truffau, often wrote about demented, tuberculosis, poor, slutty women, those The ugly and stupid woman is actually liked by men. She is pregnant and gave birth, because as one of the men said, don’t look at her ugly as an idiot, but she is very gentle, and after a long time you will feel that she is actually very beautiful.
And there are some beautiful, proud and noble women in his novels, but they often end up miserably. Therefore, some people say that the writer himself has serious feudal ideas, and to promote women is to abide by women's morals, believe in religion, and be a good mother to a man's good wife and child.
Therefore, poverty, ugliness, aging, and even dumbness are not terrible, the most terrifying is pride.
I think, there are weird.
The female director in the film is over 30 years old, has a successful career, has a car and a house, and it is not ugly to grow up, but because of her grumpy and weird appearance, she earned the nickname of rusks and cold-blooded animals. Defeated dog girl.
It is said that this term comes from a Japanese woman, which means that if a woman has not married herself by the age of 30, she is a dog that has been defeated.
In fact, this is sheer discrimination and serious patriarchal thinking. It's not uncommon to come from a Japanese woman. However, even if you marry yourself at the age of 30 and then divorce, isn't it a dog that is defeated? A woman always finds it difficult for other women to marry or whether a man wants her to be a tool for her to judge her. If that woman has too many suitors, she will be jealous that she is a slut, and no one will pursue and say she is incompetent. It is best to be the same as yourself. I am single and you are single with me. The object of my talk is a civil servant. You are a bank employee. My ring is 3000. You'd better be 2900. I get married on May 1st, and you get married on eleventh.
Everyone is the same. Jealousy is next to the female word, so it is essentially a small woman's psychology.
General, who is your favorite woman?
My wife.
Your most respected woman?
My mother.
What kind of woman do you admire most?
The woman with the most children.
In the above dialogue, the woman who asked the question was Mrs. Stahl, a well-known talented woman during the French Revolution and the author of "Germany", and the man who answered was Napoleon.
Naturally, Napoleon hated this woman because she could not have children.
Another great man Bismarck said famously, woman, you don't tease her, she said you are not a man, you tease her, she said you are not a good man.
Of course, women and villains are difficult to raise, which is also a famous aphorism.
Big men like small women. Because that kind of woman is simple and not tired.
So, as far as I am concerned, the most annoying thing in my life is nothing but being regarded by men as a monster and some literary young woman.
In fact, my so-called weirdness is nothing more than world-familiar, and I like to read because I have nothing to do.
I don’t want to be George Sand, Duras, I just want to be an ordinary woman, look at that baby Anne, the book back then was suicide and abortion, Camus and Bjork, I thought What a brilliant artistic woman she was, she turned out to be just a grumpy girl. Look at her now, how happy she is, a good man, a child, a house, an income, this is the ultimate dream of a woman!
According to the words of my grandmother, an old rural lady who didn't know how to write, whenever she heard about the eccentricity and perverted character of some girl's daughter, she always said contemptuously---
huh, it's the lack of men!
It is simply Freud's popular interpretation.
Yes, to talk about it, it is the lack of men, and the civilized point is the lack of love.
Someone listed the characteristics of the so-called "losing dog". In addition to successful career and strong personality, there is also a fear of marriage.
This is something I cannot agree with.
Men are afraid of marriage, while most women yearn for marriage. Marriage is the chain that women use to tie men, and most women regard marriage as the most important goal in life.
And for those women who are unmarried for life, most of them do not hate the bondage brought about by marriage itself, but have not found a man to heart. I don't believe that there are really women who take a cold attitude toward love like men. Even a woman like Mordegaun and Farage needs a man, but what they need is not the gentle caress that ordinary women need, but the brutal and violent love.
Speaking of the female director-style strong women in the film, in fact, although these women seem to be tough on the surface, they are extremely fragile, sensitive, and very feminine at heart. What they need is a man who is careful and can relax them. This kind of man is not necessarily good or beautiful, but must be able to calm her down. For example, Miranda's Steve in "Sex and the City". By our side, there are many men of this kind who are unassuming and even taciturn, but they are delicate and gentle, with good-natured personalities. Their only weapon to conquer strong women is to treat them as ordinary women. She is the chief who gives orders, but she is afraid of the night and needs the safe shoulders of men. After all, women are still women.
The famous violinist Mutter married the famous conductor Pleven after the death of her husband. Logically speaking, the two musicians should be in harmony anyway. A conductor is better than the ex-husband of a lawyer who does not understand music, but two The musician’s marriage lasted only a short time. Mute still missed the dead man because, as she said, he only loved her as an ordinary woman, not because of her violin.
After all, life is practical, and even artists have to get along with people as ordinary people in their lives. For two people living together, the same aspirations and language communication are certainly important, but more importantly, mutual tolerance and tolerance must be.
So Queen Victoria would knock on her husband's door with the saying that I am your wife, not the Queen of Britain.
So Dostoevsky wanted women to give up arrogance and replace her with gentleness.
Gentleness is a magic weapon that a woman can't give up. Whoever gives up it is giving up his own happiness.
A barbarian girlfriend is nothing but a projection of the growing fear of women from Eastern men. Women can't be fooled by men and make themselves a barbaric girl. No man really likes such a woman.
Gentleness is not simply obedience and abandoning oneself, but a kind and generous temperament.
The most stupid thing a woman does is to pretend to be invulnerable like a man. A woman still has to look like a woman. Self-esteem does not mean being brave.
I once saw a photo of Li Yuchun and Huang Qiusheng. Huang Qiusheng showed respect and praise to the girl who was vilified on the Internet with a lot of unbearable words. He is a big man, a gentleman, and a gentleman. He saw the fragile side of a little girl who worked like a man on the rivers and lakes.
This is the man's bearing.
I think a truly sophisticated and mature man should understand women’s concerns deep down in his heart. No matter how powerful she is to dress herself up, she is still a girl who needs to be loved and cared for, just like Catherine. Hepburn always succumbed to the generosity and tolerance.
Treat her as a person, respect her, understand her fragility, care for her sincerely, and love her.
And women should put away the toughness and arrogance deliberately, and treat each other tolerantly.
If men do not make progress, women will suffer. Then men have to speed up and women should slow down and wait. After all, they still have to admit that neither man nor woman can do without.
At the end of the film, the actor uses his truthfulness and passion. To calm the woman's anger and misunderstanding, this is a secret, the key to solve all problems, truth and love.
The human soul has an instinct of love. Don't hide it or refuse. Don't reject others for fear of being hurt. Wrap yourself in armor. It seems to be safe, but it also lived in vain.
Piaf said, love, or love.
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