Their relationship, not so much love, but rather a pathological entanglement, is more appropriate.
Is there love in entanglement, of course there is. Human love is a kind of unpredictable thing. Diane's dependence and low self-esteem, Charlie's adoration and obsession, it is hard for you and I to say that this is not love.
Yes, Tien is inferior. At least after his father was in prison, he has been too accustomed to Charlie’s admiration and admiration for fifteen years. Equal now. Fifteen years, long enough to form a person’s worldview, and when he may lose the pride that has been melted into his blood, the hesitation and fear he has received at this time is also in the first fifteen years. The sum of comfort brought to him by the relationship. How great the love is, how great is the pain of losing at this time. But he is inferior again. He is so inferior that he doesn't dare to really start with Charlie. Can you understand that feeling? A person by his side does not dare to go further with him. He knows his deformity better than anyone else. He is afraid that the other person will eventually discover that he is actually a person who is not worthy of love. He was afraid of losing, he could only lock his loved one by his side with this attitude of being looked up to and admired, unable to go any further, and not allowing the other party to back down. Well, Diane is selfish, but we cannot say that he doesn't love Charlie, or that he depends on Charlie's existence as much as his own life. But he couldn't be an equal lover with Charlie, he couldn't. But when he was faced with the possibility of losing Charlie, he could hurt himself and everyone in the most grotesque way of saying that Charlie kissed himself and was about to commit suicide, just to vent his uneasiness and grievances. He really He is a "spoiled kid". From beginning to end, he loved himself most, and what he cared about was his feelings.
Charlie is undoubtedly obsessed with Diane, and this morbid obsession has put himself in a situation where he can't love him. In the face of Diane, he can hide his love for more than ten years without showing up. The Diane he loves has the look he wants. Diane has a beautiful family background, has a father who loves him, and has the pride he wants. And self-confidence, he can meet the need of Diane to be admired. We don’t know if he really lost the 15-year opera competition, or whether he lived as Diane’s shadow and knew that he would lose, or even himself. I hope I lose. Even when he knew clearly that Diane needed himself selfishly but didn't want to go any further, he chose to forbear and compromise. He was not a victim, he was clearly an accomplice in this deformed relationship. In the face of Tim, he even hurt him, who truly loves himself, time and time again. His love is so selfish that "For the Tian I love, I can hurt others, even if this person is the Tim who loves me." He loves Tian, and he doesn't want to give up Tian. But to a certain extent, he loves himself more. He enjoys the glorious light in his heart. Even if this deformed love has made him lose himself, he can’t even draw a self-portrait, but he still enjoys it. This kind of deformed relationship gives him the inescapable pleasure, just like a drug addict who sinks into the mud again and again. In fact, he is not worthy of being loved.
But does entanglement have real love?
what is love? Love is when you and I are together, you and I are equal and free, we are not anyone's follower, and we are more independent and beautiful because of our union.
Tim is one of the few lights in Charlie's life. It is the skylight that led him to break free from this entanglement. He can finally get a glimpse of the true face of "love". Tim understands Charlie's needs, and Tim also listens to Charlie. The voice even led Charlie to enjoy the beauty of sex. He chose to wait when he knew that Charlie still loved Diane. After knowing that Charlie kissed Diane, he chose to be tolerant. After meeting him, Charlie was finally able to confidently win in the opera competition. With Diane, he can finally embrace love after recognizing Diane's selfishness and dependence. This is the closest to true love in his life, but he missed it. Tim chose to let go when he witnessed Charlie helping Diane hurt everyone but still chose to indulge. How mature and knowing how to give love, and Charlie at that time was not worth it. When the scholars have learned love, but the dead are no longer, we met at the wrong time, maybe this is good luck.
Not all love is good. When one person in a relationship is immature, this is a bad love; when two people in a relationship are immature, the relationship is a disaster. Many people have Tien in their lives. May everyone experience Charlie's rebirth and transformation.
Saying goodbye to Tien, Charlie's eyes were full of tears, but he still said calmly, not so much as reluctance, as if he was waved goodbye to the one who had suffered from gains and losses, dare not love, and didn't know where to go. At this moment, he finally transformed. , Transformed from Tien and Tim into someone who understands what love is.
How much embrace and farewell do we have to be managers in our lives? May we all go through hardships and become people who are truly worthy of love and beloved.
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