The United States was turbulent. Among the many angry condemnations, a woman made a rational and concerned voice.
She is the former first lady of the United States, an "ordinary girl" from a slum, Michelle Obama.
On June 9th, she delivered a speech at YouTube, reminding young people not to confront each other because of sadness and frustration, but to remain open and hopeful.
Only by transforming the powerful force of anger into focus on doing things can history be truly changed.
Michelle's words are a good medicine for everyone who is lost.
Including us who are at a loss in school, work, life and love.
And her own way of riding the wind and waves from the bottom black to the first lady is enough to support these energetic views.
As she said, " Inspiration itself is superficial, and you have to support it with hard work. "
According to Gallup (Gallup) polls, in 2018 and 2019, Michelle Obama continued to top the list of the most admired women in the United States.
Far ahead of Trump's wife, Oprah, and Hillary.
Countless people have called for her to run for President of the United States in 2020, but she said, I don’t like politics.
She wrote her life experience as her autobiography "Become", lectured on a national tour, chatted with young people, and explored who we are? Who do we want to be?
This journey was also made into the documentary "Becoming: Michelle Obama's Autobiography" (Becoming), which was launched on Netflix last month.
Today, combining Michelle's autobiography and documentary, Lace wants to take a look at the life wisdom of this legendary woman with everyone.
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You have to let yourself be heard
Michelle was born in a workers' home in Chicago in 1964. A year before she was born, black leader Martin Luther King just published "I Have a Dream." That famous speech did not change Michelle's childhood and adolescence.
When they were young, they moved, and wherever they went, white families were scared away. Even housing prices have been looked down upon: the blacks are here, and the lot is going to depreciate. Sell it now.
The unfriendly living environment did not make her depressed. The talented and competitive Michelle was admitted to a good high school. She has excellent grades and the university wants to apply to Princeton, but the counselor said: "You are not expected to go to Princeton."
This sentence is not a small blow to Michelle, but also a huge motivation. No background, no recommendation from alumni, she succeeded purely by hard work.
Being discriminated against since childhood did not make Michelle cynical. She believes that everything can be changed.
Now, instead of criticizing the system and criticizing society and universities for injustice, she is more willing to spend her time talking with young people. In the documentary, an African-American girl asked her how to overcome the plight of being "ignored" by disadvantaged groups? Michelle said, "The feeling of being ignored comes from the heart. We can't just wait for the world to see that we give us justice... You have to find a way in yourself to not be ignored, to be heard, and to make yourself sound."
Others will drive you away because of your poverty, skin color and social class, saying that you don't belong here and you are not worthy. But, why listen to them?
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Women’s happiness comes from themselves
Princeton has a bachelor's degree and a Harvard master's degree. After graduation, he entered a top law firm. He had an assistant at the age of 25... Michelle's elite white-collar life might have been so steadily and steadily. The appearance of an intern changed her trajectory. Barack Obama.
Like her, he graduated from Harvard Law School and likes to gnaw literature and philosophy books. He will do low-paying community work for his ideals and mission, and think about how to solve income inequality. Michelle was fascinated, "I know he was a tsunami."
But she also cherish their own self-esteem, "If I do not work hard, I will be swallowed up." " If I want equal dialogue in the face of this stubborn man, we must cheer, I have to place yourself in a confident and He is equal place. "
They date and get married. And this seemingly glamorous, model couple who holds everything is no different from the problems faced by thousands of ordinary people: the balance between family and work, the relationship between children and husband and wife, communication and cooperation...
Michelle became pregnant for the first time and had a miscarriage within a few weeks. I had two daughters through artificial insemination, but the birth of the children made everything more difficult. Michelle not only has to give up her career ideals, but also face her husband who is so busy on the road to politics.
He often comes home late, and she wants to bring two children by herself. Emotional breakdown.
Michelle took Obama for marriage counseling, hoping that he would make changes. Unexpectedly, the consultant said that Michele himself needs to be changed. "The most important thing I learned is that my happiness does not depend on him. I used to blame him for giving priority to himself. We all have children, but he is in the gym. I don’t understand how you have time. Go to fitness. So I should choose not to complain about him going to fitness, but go directly to fitness."
Michelle understands that even in marriage and love, women's happiness still comes from her. There is no need to be afraid to show your vulnerability. This experience of her has given strength to many women. At the new bookmark sale, a reader burst into tears: "I am a mother experiencing postpartum depression. It is an honor for me to read your story, so thank you. ,God bless you".
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Only you can define yourself
Later, it was the current affairs news that we knew well. In 2008, after a long and difficult campaign, Obama became the first black president in American history, and Michelle became the first black first lady.
As the hostess of the White House, Michelle has her own ideas. She opened a vegetable garden in the White House, planted fresh fruits and vegetables, donated to charities, and supplied the White House kitchen. She did not let the service staff make the beds for the daughters, but let them do it themselves, because one day "we will leave the White House"...
Regardless of whether he is in a political highland or a civilian apartment, Michel is very clear about his identity and vision. A wife, a mother, must find a more correct way to run the family, to educate the children, to reap inner balance and happiness. Like an ordinary person, she was nervous and restrained by the security work that followed her, and she was frightened by her behavior as a political figure.
On the day Obama left office, Michelle, who left the White House, walked through the crowd, and cried for 30 minutes after the door of Air Force One was closed. The pressure of 8 years was released in one breath.
Michelle has many identities and auras: blacks, women, graduates of prestigious schools, elite lawyers, wives, mothers, first ladies... Every identity means a bunch of labels and stereotypes. However, she is more accustomed to defining herself first, and establishing her own life principles by intuition and experience.
For example, “fashion” brings happiness to many women, but also brings inferiority and self-doubt. Michel regards "fashion" as a woman's weapon, "a tool for your success or a weapon for hurting you" .
For example, some young people asked how to avoid becoming a number defined by grades and performance. Michelle said: " We pay too much attention to data rather than stories, only when you don’t think of yourself as a number. You have to ask yourself, who am I? What do I care about? What makes me happy? Want to see The power in your own story, and admit that you have this power."
For another example, after leaving the White House, many people asked her how it felt to "return to normal life". She said, "It's not going back, it's entering a new track." The old days can no longer go back, and now we need to start again, create a new life, and find what I want to do and care about.
When everything in the world is defined by my own ideas, rather than the eyes of the world, the standard of happiness becomes simple: whether I have progressed, whether I have new discoveries, whether I can achieve myself better.
The autobiography "Become" is a book, I recommend every female friend to read it, I believe it will let you clear the fog and see the light. The documentary "Become" is relatively simple, mostly interviews about Michelle's tour. But through the video, you can more intuitively feel the kindness, enthusiasm and unlimited energy of Michelle.
She can make any interviews and speeches like homely stuff. Watching the camera follow her back on different occasions, I really hope that I can be as strong and determined as her. Becoming is the present tense, a journey without end.
Finally, I will end this article with Michelle’s words: “Becoming” does not mean that you must reach a certain position or achieve a certain goal; on the contrary, I think “becoming” should be a state of progress, a kind of The way of evolution, a way of constantly striving for a more perfect self, has no end. I became a mother, but while giving for the children, I could learn a lot from them; I became a wife, but I still know how to love one person and live hand in hand with another person. In adapting, sometimes encounter setbacks. Judging by some standards, I have become a powerful woman, but there are still many times when I feel insecure and ignored. "Becoming" is a long process and needs to be realized step by step. "Becoming" requires both patience and hard work, both of which are equally important. "Becoming" means never giving up the idea of continuing to grow.
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