The same is Wu Yanzu, if you let you choose the person you like from these two:
Wu Yanzu A: Height 1.83m
Wu Yanzu B: Height 1.35m
Who would you choose?
If, on the basis of height, add these items:
Daniel Wu A: 1.8m tall, liar, unprincipled, no lower limit, selfish and arrogant, often cheating.
Wu Yanzu B: Height 1.35m, respect and be kind to every friend, strong, funny, humorous, loyal and good at communication.
So, how would you choose?
Well, I guess, you might say that this assumption is too absolute, and it is impossible for a normal person to be so extreme.
Then, this "The Cutest Height Difference" turns the hypothesis into a possible reality.
Do you think the director is just telling a love story?
Not only that, I think the director also wants to remind us, outside of love, what kind of life should we choose?
What else do we need after we have love?
part 1—【sunshine】
The heroine Diane is a beautiful lawyer.
The male protagonist Alexander is a successful architect. Yes, that's the Wu Yanzu B.
The story is very simple. Diane was upset by refusing her ex-husband’s entanglement during dinner in the restaurant. She accidentally dropped her mobile phone. After returning home, she received a call from a mysterious stranger saying that she had found her mobile phone. , I want to borrow the phone and invite Diane to dinner.
If it were you, what would you do? 80% would think that the other party is a liar.
But here the male protagonist handled it very cleverly. Diane didn't dislike it, but he was looking forward to it.
Diane dressed up and glamorous, arrived at the appointed place, and found that the person waiting was a 1.35m Wu Yanzu (Well, the hostess hasn’t taken the table and left yet)
The male protagonist Alexander saw the doubts of the heroine, and instead introduced himself generously, naturally and humorously + a 1.8m woman who came to say hello by accident made the heroine relax a lot.
Alexander invited Diane to go parachuting. Of course, the first date ended with Alexander's success in impressing Diane.
Does the beginning of a relationship begin with appearance?
Maybe it is, maybe it is not.
Diane and Alexander ate in the same restaurant, indicating that they have similar tastes, habits, and even potential intersections.
Diane rejected her ex-husband's entanglement, showing that she is an independent and strong woman who has the right and ability to decide her own life.
Alexander picked up the heroine’s mobile phone. He didn’t feel inferior or abandoning himself due to the height difference between the two sides. Instead, he carefully packed the phone and took the initiative to contact Diane to ask her to eat (this should be the hero’s sense of language).
His speech and manners in the coffee shop are relaxed, natural, and humorous. He even expertly embraces and greets a 1.8m female friend. The height of 1.35m is nothing more than normal.
So you see, in addition to appearance, there are more important things-a normal social circle, rich hobbies, and a little sense of humor.
It seemed that Diane would like Alexander, which was normal.
After all, not everyone has the courage to go parachuting with a stranger who has just met, Diane is not a compliant person in his bones.
Two details are added here:
1. After Diane and Alexander dated for the first time, they were self-conscious and silly smiles when they had dinner with their colleagues...
2. Suggestions for Alexander to choose his career during dinner with his son.
The director absolutely loves the role of Alexander. Not only is he outstanding in eloquence, but he also knows how to deal with intimacy issues.
So it also explained that from Alexander's point of view, he didn't care that she was a divorced woman, and he didn't pay too much attention to her past life. What he brought to Diane was a different kind of adventurous life.
part 2—【I have a crash on you】
It's like people who have tasted durian can hardly forget its taste.
Diane began to want to contact Alexander proactively.
Here I want to talk about a communication problem: initiative.
Is it true that whoever takes the initiative to contact the other party is at a disadvantage? In fact, it is not. The person who took the initiative first just reacted instinctively.
Well, the male protagonist who works hard here, plus 10 likes.
Well, nothing is impossible in Alexander's dictionary. So I took the hostess to the secret bar on the pier to have a feast of cruise chefs.
Here is another detail:
The male lead uttered a sentence that is not a truth: everyone likes it, which means no one likes it .
Why do we like this person? Is he okay? Because he treats you well?
I think that we like someone because we want to find the answer we want in each other. Why is it only you that I listen to it so nicely? Why am I particularly interested in what you do?
Indispensable in love, the heartbeat is because I accidentally guessed your riddle, maybe it’s just telling a joke and making a face
As long as you smile, it is a good date. Now, is there such a thing as initiative in your mind?
part 3—【sweet love】
The advantage of being in love is that you suddenly feel that you have magical power, which is different from your own energy, but for this love, you want to be better, resist external interference, and make better life plans.
So Diane started to fight back. Even her ex-husband could see that she was different from her before. A woman in love, maybe this is normal. If she wants to be calm, objective and rational, sister must stick to her own philosophy, that is, to be with the person she likes. Together.
Here is a detail:
Alexander plays table tennis with his son.
Except that the special effects are a bit lacking, but the overall feeling is very interesting, like that. And I found that Alexander particularly likes puns and self-deprecating.
The male protagonist and the female protagonist are passionate about dating, and only showed that disco party.
Alexander began to want to participate in Diane's life. This man who said that he could not dance was also willing to hold his neck up and dance with Diane.
As the song said: My love has nothing to do with money, but it has strong beliefs.
part 4—【wake up】
Everyone is looking forward to love, but few people can predict what will happen after having love.
Will we stay together until we reach the end? Will we quarrel? Will there be a third party? Who will die accidentally first?
The reason for the separation is not important, because it is basically impossible to change, and the way of separation is very important, because most people will quarrel and turn their faces, rely on the ring, and refuse to end when they could have said goodbye peacefully.
The love and marriage between Alexander and his ex-wife is not explained in the movie. Based on his son's evaluation of the male protagonist, one or two can be learned. The male protagonist and ex-wife get along very well, so the stupid son of the landlord’s family grows so well and has no problems.
Those who selectively ignored them before falling in love are now a gap in the perfect white porcelain.
After love, you always have to face life, what is more important?
Diane hesitated, what was she thinking about?
1. At this moment, she just wants to enjoy love and doesn't want to make a decision.
2. The other half who is too idealistic, she subconsciously does not want to admit her imperfection in reality,
3. She cares more about the perception of "normal people who need her" rather than the emotions of "people she needs".
What about Alexander? Distracted at work, paying attention to the elegant and beautiful dancing girl, why does he like Diane?
Was it attracted by Diane's independence and beauty, or was it subconsciously unwilling to give up the idea of being a normal person and living a normal life?
Add a detail here:
When the male lead was walking with a tall female friend, he was knocked down by a passing pedestrian.
The male protagonist really has a lot of tall female friends, because the more you lack, the more you want?
I don’t know if the director wants to imply that the male protagonist in the film is actually a male chauvinist who refuses to admit defeat.
I think the director does not actually want to make a perfect love story. The prince and the princess are too unrealistic.
In life, maybe no one is perfect. Most people don’t want to be found imperfect, but sooner or later they will be discovered or discovered by themselves...
After waking up from the dream, the male protagonist and the female protagonist gradually discovered their own projections.
When you are single, you may not care too much about how you look in the eyes of others, but when you have someone you like, or someone you want to like, you will care more about what the other person thinks.
If you see yourself in the eyes of the other person and what you think you are, if you are not at the same level, you will catch up quickly at the beginning, and you want to make up for it in other ways and pay more.
Diane, who was always surprised, began to want to take the initiative to give Alexander a gift, a 10-year-old boy's sweater.
Alexander’s reaction was very interesting. He said a few key words: gifts are creative, they will like them more day by day, they are not used to receiving gifts, and they have not been received for a long time.
Obviously he didn't like this gift, but this was the first time he received Diane's gift, and it was also a gift a long time later, so he liked it.
Alexander is a person who is always good at giving, sons, friends, women in relationships, and even Diane, who was new to each other just before.
He is a man with a strong heart.
Does love need to be recognized by a third person? Friends, family.
From a friend’s point of view, I think those may be just forms. What we really need is not to be recognized by a third person, and I don’t want to be with the third person, but when I was introduced to the third person, I knew you were there. Our relationship unconditionally agrees with me and affirms my existence.
But from another perspective, the third person is the parents. When it comes to the original family, it is a little more complicated, but the most important thing is a subtext: How serious are you for me? Do you want to consider me as a marriage partner and introduce me to your parents?
Diane's mother's reaction was hard to say. She said: Although he is small, he is a great architect, he is very good, and he is not easy.
She treated Alexander as an outsider, full of politeness and restraint. She even assumed that Alexander was Diane's client by default, which explained Alexander's liking for Diane.
For most people, people who are too good or too far behind themselves, such people will worship silently, or the last sentence: I feel miserable for you, too pitiful.
Few people are willing to be the people around them because they know they can't bear it.
Regardless of patriarchal or feminist rights, you will like Internet celebrities and celebrities, but what is the probability that you will choose to be with them and get married? And here, that's what it means.
After dinner, the conversation between Diane and Alexander is worth thinking about.
Is the party who pays more really paying? Is the one who is loved really being loved?
It seems that love is what you want, but it also seems that love is a battle for demand.
Add 2 details:
1. After Diane told her mother that she wanted to marry Alexander, her mother drove in a reverse direction.
Therefore, Diane was serious about this relationship without any doubt, even considering the discomfort of her family, she still expressed it.
2. The conversation between Diane's mother and her husband after knowing that Diane intended to add to Alexander.
Philip is the second husband of Diane's mother and a hearing impaired. This arrangement may be too far-fetched, but his sentence: I am living with the disabled, which wakes up Diane's mother.
part 5—【break up】
Why did we choose to break up?
personality clashes? Parental intervention? Empathy, don't fall in love? These may all be appearances.
Perhaps the most direct reason is that the two people in the relationship have exhausted everything and can no longer persist, so we choose the simplest and easiest way-escape.
Alexander and Diane were walking by the sea. Diane happened to meet the clerk who sold boy clothes. The clerk was also with his 11-year-old son.
Alexander glanced at Diane and understood the whole thing. This very precious first gift was actually bought by his lover from a children’s clothing store, and it was “misunderstood” that it was for Diane’s son. .
So what did Diane think about the whole thing? A few words of Diane: angry, painful, unable to do it.
Combined, it means: because I love you, I care about your bad projection in the eyes of others, and others think you are bad, so I feel the same, I am very painful, and I can't bear the contradiction of my own love.
When Diane was still hesitating, trying to clear her mind, Alexander gave her the answer.
He said: Love is your own face
There are many reasons why we choose a person. The most important thing is that we have found ourselves in the other person—the past, present, and who we want to be in the future.
Diane felt distressed, in large part because she couldn't calmly face herself, face her true thoughts, and the truly important things.
What about Alexander? Although he tried his best to give the best care and conditions to the people around him, it was difficult for him to face himself. He was fed up with himself who was only 1.35m tall and a large group of 1.8m friends around him.
part 6—【reunion】
In this movie, I personally feel that it is the last paragraph that is slightly lacking in processing. Why did Diane suddenly decide to go to Alexander to confess?
If all the credit is attributed to Diane's mother, it would be a little lack of acceptance.
But this is not a movie dedicated to the psychology of love or intimacy. It is more of a light comedy of love, so it is understandable to regard the end of this movie as a romantic complex unique to the French.
Like the last paragraph, Diane overcame external interference, followed his inner thoughts, parachuted to Alexander, and confessed sincerely and with a sense of strength.
If Diane is economically, emotionally independent, and has a strong inner heart, she is still annoyed every day, unwilling to leave the wrong people, or even conservative and vigilant in the face of strangers, she will not meet Alexander, nor can she attract Alexander.
If Alexander is inferior, fearful, picky, demanding, and not considerate because of his body, he will not go to that restaurant and meet Diane, nor will he succeed in persuading Diane to go skydiving with him, let alone let him Diane has always been attracted to him and wants to work together for life.
So is it possible to say this: When we are independent enough to live our own life and adjust ourselves well, then can we meet love?
There are more, just answer and update in life~
I hope we can all become better selves and meet our own happy life~
19.07.23
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