. I didn't understand the concept of Wallflower at the beginning of the movie. What I saw was Charlie who was just a little timid in high school. He didn't have a friend who could eat together. He wanted to place his hopes on his elder brothers, sisters and old classmates, but none of them accepted such a freshman. But Charlie did not complain, nor did she blame anyone, and still wanted to stand up to protect her sister when she was beaten by her boyfriend. One of the characteristics of Wallflower is this. They habitually accept anything and have no high expectations. Even if others let him down, they will not cherish any complaints. Some people of this kind of tolerance may feel that they have no personality and are just a good old person, but in fact they just don't want to hinder others' lives, and they don't want others to make too many changes that they don't want because of themselves. Some people don't like this kind of tolerance and inclusion, but it's really too difficult to have such a peaceful mind.
This kind of personality also makes Wallflower passive in many cases. Even if the power has rushed to his chest, he cannot make the final decision and take the final step. In this way, I missed the right time and the favorite person. But maybe this is Wallflower's destiny. Since you can't take the initiative to ask, then you are given an optimistic attitude of accepting everything.
The night before Sam left to study at Penn State, Charlie was ready to accept that Sam would forget him and make new friends. At this moment Sam couldn't stand Charlie's passivity, telling him that he had broken up and always loved the wrong person. At this time Charlie actually only said the sentence we accept the love we think we deserve. Many people may think that the boy is too stupid, but I think this sentence fits Wallflower too much.
Someone may ask why the Wall Flower Club is such a life attitude and state that cannot be accepted, and even feels that this is a self-abuse pervert. Sam also wondered why he put everybody's lives ahead of yours. Many people think this is due to low self-esteem, but I think it is not that simple. Wallflowers is happy to feel the feelings of others. They like this way to experience the human feelings in the world. What he cares about doesn't care, what he cares about doesn't care about him. They don't just know to accommodate others and make others happy, they actually get happiness and satisfaction from it. What they long for is not personal, individual happiness. They actually have higher expectations for happiness. They want a three-dimensional, resonant feeling. So they learn to exist quietly and let the happiness of the people around them infiltrate their bodies. Instead of providing joy for yourself, it is better to learn how to observe, feel, and blend into the happiness of millions.
But this kind of passivity, acceptance and concealment will also bring them a lot of troubles. They have to accept things or people they don’t like at the same time, and they don’t know how to say or not, and they don’t know how to refuse. When Elizabeth asked Charlie to go to the dance party, he knew her intentions, but did not say that he had always liked Sam. When he arrived at Elizbeth's house, he still dragged it step by step. Finally had to accept two people as a couple. Although disgusted with her nagging and disrespect of her interests, Charlie's parents persuaded them to break up, but he didn't know how to speak, and finally he couldn't bear to be exposed in a very dramatic situation. This has to be said to be a great tragedy for Wallflower...
But I always think that Wallflowers are not incapable of resisting. They themselves have too much energy. The longer they are suppressed, this energy will continue to ferment, react, and expand. When Charlie slammed that punch at the person who bullied Patric, the energy was released, shocking everyone. I think this kind of energy is the hope of every Wallflower, so don't be pessimistic and inferior because of your passivity, because you are unique!
Friends-a choice
Regarding friends, some people choose to maintain a certain necessary connection or friendship with many people, and some people choose to maintain deep friendship with a few people. For Charlie, his friends were hard-won, and Patric and Sam meant everything to him. In fact, Charlie is not autistic, he is just waiting for the people he really loves. I really like the passage where Charlie met Patric for the first time in the crafting class. When everyone laughed at Patric, only Charlie understood his imitation as a good intention. Maybe Patric didn’t have this intention, but Wallflower’s Perception allows him to receive warmth from this behavior that cannot be judged intentionally. I really admire this. That's why Charlie would take the initiative to approach someone who everyone else is laughing at. On the campus Football Game, all the audience is paying attention to the quarterback and cheerleader on the field. No one noticed a freshman timidly holding drinks and snacks to get close to the "nothing" he cared about. Here Charlie repeated several times, but finally greeted Patric, and I breathed a sigh of relief when I saw this, because Patric not only accepted him but also became his best friend, Charlie did not misunderstand the wrong person.
Many times I am willing to talk to everyone about what I care about, and I want to share my own perceptions and feelings about certain things with them. But after some reminders, I found that I was too obsessed with sharing with myself a lot, and I didn't think much about whether others would listen. So sometimes you may not think too much, it will let you down, make yourself suspicious, and in the end you will find that you are actually thinking too much. If you can have friends who are connected with each other, please cherish them.
When the last three people ran wildly in the tunnel with music again, Charlie kissed Sam, then slowly stood up, letting go of his hands, he saw the world, and shouted We are infinite in his heart! I believe We are infinite! Maybe in different ways, in different places, and with different people, I must shout the phrase We are infinite!
Gay-a kind of tolerance
This topic is mainly to pay tribute to Patric, he is a person with a clear personality, insists on himself, but is caring. Even in the United States, there are many people who do not understand his orientation and laugh at him. But he didn't care about the eyes of others at all, and continued on his own path. In fact, it's not just orientation, I think there are too many things in this era that you can't bear, can't understand, and hate. But if you can be more tolerant, can you live more comfortably? My support for Patric does not mean my orientation. The world is inherently diverse, and I think that diversity is also a trend of world development. Many things do not have absolute good or bad, only your own subjective feelings and evaluations. You can dislike a thing, stay away from it, and avoid contact. But if you can be more tolerant, it will really be much better. It is impossible for humans to avoid subjective judgments, but please give everyone the right to establish their own subjective judgments so that they have the space to think independently.
When Patric and her boyfriend were discovered by their parents, they confided to Charlie at the top of the mountain that he could not control his emotions and kissed Charlie. At this time, if I were him, I would give him a hug and say it's alright. You should give him warmth, not duty.
Mix Tape-a medium
This is a small point, but I like to use this form to communicate everyone's thoughts and emotions. The video also expresses the moods and opinions of different people through Mix Tape. Music often requires people's mood to reconcile. In different situations, your understanding of certain music will be completely different. When I heard the song All out of love in the movie, I realized that I hadn't listened to this song for a long time, and suddenly felt very warm. I still remember that many years ago, I recommended songs in my QQ log and wrote down my understanding of these songs. At that time, I still had enthusiasm to share, but now I am silent. Many years later, there are too many social methods in this era, the Internet, mobile communication, faster and more direct, and sometimes more explicit. But how much is your own feeling? When you send out a status, upload a photo, and share a link, do you just want to show a gesture, embody a position, get some beauty, and show off some existence? How long have you not asked you if you are still pure. Mix Tape, Old songs, Drama, and sometimes I want to return and get a pure way. My friends often say "the heart of pursuing true love under the flashy appearance". I have always been optimistic and believe that even if it is disturbed now, everyone still has a heart for pursuing innoce. Mix tape is a medium, but also a kind of innocence.
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