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A lot of spoilers, if you haven’t watched the movie, you won’t understand it anyway, *′∀`)′∀`)*′∀`)*′∀`) Talking about the movie, there are many words and pictures and warnings.
Some key summaries:
1. After watching the movie, I sorted out the logic of the relationship between men and women in my mind : First of all, I expected that the conditions of our relationship are that both of us are single, in an empty window, there is no fatal emotional entanglement, and there are no other ambiguous objects. The same is true for the other party. We regard it as the default common sense. Generally speaking, there are only three layers in the relationship hierarchy: ordinary friends - friends of the opposite sex - boyfriend and girlfriend, but here the play shows the relationship hierarchy that existed abroad in the 20th century: Ordinary friends - friends of the opposite sex - lovers - boyfriends and girlfriends.
2. If I were the male protagonist, I should only love Margo!
3. "Praise": It turns out that being so eye-catching in an intimate relationship, being attracted to the other party is a kind of compliment, and it is a kind of compliment to tolerate the shortcomings that many people don't like. It's also a compliment to be able to talk so much crap together.
4. Being honest and comfortable is the most comfortable state in a relationship.
5. "The fate of the second meeting" : It is the age of falling in love, but if it is not a place for friendship or a place that emphasizes making friends, the scope of people's needs will become very messy, even if there is a chance to get a "second meeting" Fate", you can't guess whether the other party has this need.
6. "Existence and Death": Others think I hate their stupidity, but in fact, they can't classify me correctly, their understanding of me is very perfunctory, I have no sense of existence in their hearts, and I am not valued.
7. Reasons why people who don’t have a partner are uncomfortable : they don’t have the patience to push forward a relationship, or their emotional needs are too eager. Without a girlfriend, people especially want to turn their lover into a girlfriend. Without a lover, people I especially want to turn friends of the opposite sex into lovers.
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Movies have always been a good reference object. This post has been brewing for a few days, and the intermittent ones have not yet started to be summarized. Generally, things that make me have the idea of recording, I always hope that I will not forget it so quickly or let it be real. It belongs to me. Through this movie, I learned the concept of the term "summer lover" for the first time, which broadened my horizons on the form of relationships between men and women. At the same time, I also reflected on the number and number of relationships I have gained so far. See The second day after the movie, my mood was fine-tuned. I realized that there are too few people who can exchange stories with me. I have to learn to cherish it, so I reconciled with two friends who had some minor conflicts and estrangements before. It is necessary to carry out a more profound memory and experience.
This is another talkative movie. I like it very much. At the same time, this is also the first time I have watched Rohmer's movie. I used to see people say that Rohmer is recognized by color grading, and I vaguely remember a lot of them that I liked for a long time. The final style of the director formed by him was greatly influenced by him, but at the beginning, I was only attracted by some stills of this movie, attracted by the combination of the actor's face and face, and realized it through the photos. Something that always appeals to me.
The feeling in the process is relaxed, even this kind of ease, after watching it, I can't let go for a long time. On the one hand, it must be attributed to the director's narrative rhythm and the ups and downs of the story itself, but more should be the characters in the play. The temperament and character are particularly soft, especially shameless to directly express that the male protagonist's brain circuit is almost exactly the same as mine. The character and appearance of the female protagonist (Margo) are particularly poignant, and the strong sense of substitution and resonance really lasts for a long time. Haven't felt it for a long time...
In fact, I wrote here, looking at some drafts and excerpts written in my small notebook, I still have not made a decision on how I want to organize some of the points I want to say, please forgive me for this person who is not clear and rambling. ! hahaha~
In general, what I like is the profound and beautiful display of the emotional connection between men and women in this film. It is not the male pleasure of the perfect three boats, but in the process, it focuses on the male protagonist in an atmosphere of pure love. In the process of solving a relationship with a "beautiful and simple" mentality, there are a series of topics such as "Do I love her? Why do I fall in love with her? How much do I love her? Who do I love the most?" Puzzled. I also like that the film presents me with a particularly clear natural progression of gender emotions, which is also mixed with the protagonists' individual characters' profound understanding of themselves and different views on their feelings. Through macro observation, I can see my past Some blind spots and gains of "relationship level" and "friendship purpose" that did not exist have also strengthened some sources of fun and methods of getting along with the opposite sex. So make a note.
In the end, I decided to start the topic according to the theme of the many encounters between the male protagonist and the female protagonist (Margo) in order to sort them out. PS: I don't hate the other two women in the film, I just want to talk about Margo.
The Second Meeting - Time and Emotion & "The Fate of the Second Meeting"
The story starts on July 18th and ends on August 6th. I counted it two or three times with ten fingers, a total of twenty days . The reason why I specifically took out the specific number of days is that I want to express a point of view . The length of time that two people spend together is not closely related to the depth of their relationship . From the perspective of time alone, because the weight of time varies from person to person, I won’t go into details about this general principle, but here are a few Some words that I have never had the chance to talk to my good friends. Our relationship is really small, and it is the responsibility of both of us . I am very worried that it will disappear when I am young, and I feel very insecure. Here I will reflect again. As for my own problem, I take my relationship too single-mindedly . I used to think that I would not develop more relationships with you, and neither of you would have the will to develop it, so I don't have to cultivate this confusion with you. Unclear feelings, so I also became selfish, narrow-minded, and cold. It is really ugly to see a tepid relationship now, and the appearance of my grievance and restraint is really annoying. Not generous at all, not dashing.
Speaking of the movie, Margo is really good, it's all treasures, she takes the initiative when she sees her own dishes, although it needs a little fate, but it's just the common "fate of meeting for the second time", I've never noticed this fate before , Some people just took a few glances in the crowd. If everyone has a good impression of each other, the second chance reunion will indeed become particularly sacred and lucky, because it is indeed a small probability event, plus the reality In the scene of , there is very little space that allows pure mutual attraction, there is no such pure chance encounter. After thinking about it, this "pure space" seems to be related to one's age and needs , such as high school campuses in China, not to mention high school is a university, it is the age of falling in love, but if it is not a place for friendship or a place that emphasizes making friends, people's The range of needs will become very messy, even if there is a chance to get "the fate of the second meeting", you can't guess whether the other party has this need. Self-confidence and generosity when taking the initiative to attack, "please sit", "go and get it" with just the right humor, "is it weird? Do you think I'm like a maid?", and then easily talked about his emotional process and gains, without any worries at all I talked about my previous boyfriends, and then I asked the male protagonist to go out to play together tomorrow. Don't be too proactive, it's neat and neat, and I also found this point. On the premise of having a good impression of each other at the beginning, I talked a few heavy words lightly. The other party will not feel particularly heavy about the topic, and if you say too much heavy words, you will feel inappropriate.
3rd meeting - everyone gets their way in the beginning
I also like to talk to people, especially people I just met or meet for the first time. I am very concerned about the small expressions on their faces. The expressions of affection and insensitivity are completely different, and I will gradually realize that people To attract each other, it always takes several fixed "interviews", through some small tacit understanding, some small consensus, to reveal the goodwill of the other party, you and him always have some similar tone of voice, and at the beginning everyone will " Do what you like" , complete the most basic communication between yourself and the other party, and reach a relationship position where we know each other. For example, in the play, Margo took the male protagonist out to play for the first time, and a few dialogues in the car were expressed in each other's opinions. At the same time, there is tacit understanding and synchronization, and they are all very focused. Common hobbies and common knowledge structures are very important. In the past, I heard people talk about fetters every day, but I was confused about it. Now it is clear that every time I go to one with others The experience of spending a day in places is a bond.
The fourth meeting - summer lover
The male protagonist said some of the reasons why he declined the first two times. If it were me, I should have told the other party about the situation at this point in time, but there is a big logical difference here. Only For my friends and myself, I will sort out the logic of my relationship between men and women: first of all, I expect that the conditions of our relationship are that both of us are single, in an empty window, there is no fatal emotional entanglement, and there is no other ambiguous object, and at the same time ask the other party In the same way, we regard it as the default common sense. Generally speaking, there are only three levels in the relationship hierarchy: ordinary friends - friends of the opposite sex - boyfriend and girlfriend, but here the play shows the relationship hierarchy that existed in foreign countries in the 20th century: ordinary Friends - friends of the opposite sex - lovers - boyfriends and girlfriends.
The extra relationship level especially hits me. The domestic consciousness only treats lovers with bad and contemptuous images such as gun friends/little three/interventionists/affairs, etc., but also for the pure and beautiful lover relationship that everyone in the play acquiesced to. For the first time, I realized that in a social atmosphere like ours that focuses on moral criticism, this relationship has gradually become completely ugly. Foreign ideologies accept the existence of this "short-lived intimacy". Although Margo has a boyfriend but is also looking for a summer lover, it is out of line for herself, but she has no idea of "splitting", she will finally choose to end one of them. And she is rational throughout the whole process, thinking about herself independently, and she is only thinking about her relationship with another person, which is a reasonable plan at the end of the preparation, so it can also be classified into "short-term intimacy".
The Fifth Meeting - Continue to Talk About Lovers & Individuals and Groups
The dialogue here touched me in particular, and it also explained part of the reason why men who obviously have girlfriends are more comfortable in front of women , subconsciously they do not have strong gender distinctions, and subconsciously they are not lacking in women's care The same is true for girls who have boyfriends. The logic of "if you don't have a lover, you can't stand friends of the opposite sex" emphasizes on the other hand, it is the endurance of a relationship, or the urgency of emotional needs. Girlfriend, people especially want to turn their lover into a girlfriend, without a lover, people especially want to turn a friend of the opposite sex into a lover, the focus of emotional needs may be here, the advancement of identity is urgent, otherwise you will feel that you are If you lack it, you will be anxious and depressed. There are also reasons for this layer.
I also stopped and pondered some questions about summer lovers. The people around me are very obsessed with the love life of only one person in their entire life, but I am not sure if they are really firm in this idea, or are they restricted by other things. If both parties are really the right person, it is normal that this idea does not exist. Excluding the concept of "true love", to meet the right person objectively is like buying a lottery ticket. How can you win the jackpot once? On the side, I want to say something is that the way we look at relationships is too "strict", we will be very excited when we get it, and it will be very difficult to accept if we lose it. Probability is related, it is very difficult for us to obtain intimacy, the environment is harsh, and the conditions are cumbersome, so it shows that the damage of betrayal and loss has become greater. Well, this topic is discussed here, and it is not good to say that I am very strong.
The sixth meeting - the habit of vulnerable men (fear of taking the initiative)
The seventh time we met (dressed very well) - the meaning of existence in death & praise
I have always felt that it is difficult to integrate into the crowd, and I prefer to get along with people one-on-one. As the male protagonist said later, after entering the crowd, I will feel that I have no sense of existence, and there will be that kind of feeling of being left out.
Gradually realize that "compliment" turns out to be so eye-catching in intimate relationships, being attracted to the other person is a compliment, tolerating the shortcomings that many people don't like is a compliment, and being accepted and allowing oneself and the other person to open their hearts is also a compliment, It is also a kind of compliment to be able to talk so much nonsense together. Every time the two sides of the compliment get closer physically and mentally, I didn't expect the magic power of compliment to be so unexpected.
The Eighth Meeting - Honest and Comfortable
All these made me realize that honesty is too important in love, and it is also so charming and intoxicating. Isn't such steadfastness and freedom just love?
Ninth meeting - I'll just love Margo!
Some lovers are really not as good as those friends, but as Margot said, she transcends everything, and I think this is the great place of love, love is so powerful, so forgiving, so distressing, so Maybe this is the director's original intention, to let people like me who don't understand love carefully see all this and see exactly which woman they want. There is no ideal love in the world. And living more sad things, and life will always make the excessive beauty less gorgeous, there will be more disappointments, more obstacles prevent me from getting it, beautiful things are always rare for a moment. Possessed, but also let me have it without knowing it. Miss it, then grow old and never return.
what!
Finally finished, I'm so happy~
PS: The order of the meeting has been partially fine-tuned, in order to better summarize the theme~
6/2 short comment:
The feelings I have are so flimsy~
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