I promise you a lifetime commitment - for you, thousands of times

There is a very popular saying on the Internet: school bullying, there are no bystanders, only the perpetrators.

I have personally seen bullying happen in schools. When I was in junior high school, behind me sat a girl called "School Beauty" by my classmates. She is very beautiful, and there are always a few classmates with non-mainstream hairstyles gathered around her. Every day, they talk about who to go to after school and give her some color. Although I didn't offend them, I was frightened when I saw them.

One day when I first entered the classroom, I saw the school girl arguing with a boy. The school girl picked up the stool with both hands and smashed it on the boy's head. The boy escaped the fatal blow, but his ears were smashed. screams, and blood all over the floor. I didn't hear that the boy was the target of their bullying, just because the boy offended the school girl with one sentence that day, which led to this tragedy. Then the boy changed schools.

However, when school bullying happens around, the bystanders will be greatly shocked, and they will not have time to react, and the bullying will happen. If you had a choice, would you choose to be with your friend when she was bullied? Xiao Lai did it.

When I watched Infinite, Infinite's classmates nicknamed her, mocked her, and isolated her. She still had a friend Xiao Lai by her side to support her, and she would rather face the pain of being bullied with her. However, the infinite is wholeheartedly thrown at the birth of the sun. When school bullying happens, it is a blessing to have a friend standing by my side to protect me.

01 Afraid of being bullied, I finally choose to face bullying with you

In the movie, there is a scene of being bullied in the childhood of Infinite: Infinite has become an isolated existence in the school because of the divorce of his parents. Wu Xian could only find Xiao Lai to go home with her. What she didn't expect was that there were two other girls who laughed at Xia Lai. Xiao Lai followed the two girls silently without saying a word.

For fear of being bullied, he chose to remain silent. I don't think Xiao Lai's approach is wrong. If Xiao Lai chooses to stand with Infinite, he will not only face the loss of other friends, but also face bullying on campus and be isolated and bullied by his classmates. It's not her fault that she is infinitely isolated. What's wrong with Xiao Lai choosing to protect herself?

When I watched "Youth as a Teenager", Chen Nian, played by Zhou Dongyu, was not even a friend of the suicidal person. The girl who was bullied committed suicide by jumping off the building. Chen Nian just couldn't bear to see the girl's bloody face being photographed and spread. She took off her clothes and covered the girl's face, but let herself go down the same path as the girl.

In the eyes of our audience, Chen Nian's approach is full of goodwill and worthy of respect. But for herself, this act of kindness almost ruined her life. Fortunately, Chen Nian's life was saved by Xiaobei; sadly, Xiaobei exchanged his youth for Chen Nian's future.

Are "Infinite" and "Young You" telling us about touching adolescent love? No, what we see is more of the dark side of the campus. For the bully, kindness will only arouse his stronger bullying heart. Because the kindness of others highlights the darkness in the bully's heart, and only more violent bullying can make the kindness vulnerable.

What surprised me was that in "Infinite", Infinite would use violence to deal with bullying by others, throwing her shoes in the faces of the two girls who insulted her as soon as she took off her shoes. What's even more unexpected is that Xiao Lai took the shoes that Infinite threw, and chased after Infinite to apologize: "I need Infinite, even if Infinite doesn't want me, I still need you..."

Xiao Lai used to be afraid, but in the end she chose to stand with Infinite. She chose to be bullied and isolated. As long as Infinite was willing to accept her, she was willing to bear all of it.

The scene where Xiao Lai first appeared in the film was on his way to school, and the infinite evaluation of Xiao Lai was "still so stinky". The experience from Xiaolai being bullied for the first time in elementary school to their junior high school is not reflected in the film, but we can see the changes of Infinite and Xiaolai after being bullied: Infinite has become a person with a smiling face, no matter what It was so painful that I couldn't allow myself to cry; and Xiao Lai became a person with a mask of indifference. He only cried when he was sad for the infinite.

The book "School Bullying" mentions that in primary school bullying, children will also receive self-policing and self-help education, which will directly or indirectly promote the growth of children.

But how distressing the child's change is. They have learned to use a mask to hide their inner pain and try their best to protect themselves. They are still just children!

02 Make a promise for your life - for you, thousands of times

Xiao Lai hurt Infinite because she was afraid of being bullied when she was a child. She was painful and remorseful, and made a lifelong commitment: Even if Infinite doesn't want me, I still need you. However, she put all her thoughts on guarding the infinite, but in the infinite world, there is only the sunrise.

On the same day, Ritsu publicly expressed that he hated the entanglement of Infinite. After Infinite left the classroom, he did not cry, but Xiao Lai burst into tears: "Just give up on Sunrise!" Xiaolai didn't want to see Infinite pain, so he forced Infinite to give up on Hinode: "Give up on him, Otherwise, I'll break up with you!" However, Wu Wuxi smiled and said, "Even if you break up with me, I won't agree."

When Infinite gave up his qualifications to be a human because of Hinode's "I hate you", the abandonment of his mother and the malice of his classmates, he completely became a cat by Hinode's side. The infinite disappearance made Xiao Lai extremely anxious. He searched everywhere, and when he returned to the classroom, he put his hands on his forehead and prayed. However, after the cat Infinite saw Xiao Lai, she only heard Xiao Lai say that Hinode was looking for her too, and Infinite couldn't wait to wait at Hinode's house.

Because of a promise he made when he was a child, Xiao Lai was under the pressure of being isolated and guarded by the infinite side. And infinite, whether it is the motivation to change into a cat or the motivation to change from a cat to a human, has never been related to Xiao Lai. When Hiyoritsu tried his best to help Infinite become a human being, what Infinite said was, "I really want to respond to Hinode's thoughts, not only Hinode, but also Aunt Kaoru, my dad, and my mom. I couldn't respond to them properly!"

I have watched this scene many times, and there is no one who wants to respond infinitely, but there is no Xiao Lai. Has Xiao Lai's mind responded infinitely? Is it because Xiao Lai once abandoned her infinitely once, isn't her protection for many years worth responding? Many people only see Infinite's humility in love, but I see Xiao Lai's humility in friendship.

I have thought about it, is it worth it for Xiao Lai to do this? This is not the first time I have thought about such a question. In The Kite Runner, when Hassan knew that he was raped, Amir did not save him not far away, but Hassan treated Amir as faithfully as always; Guilt, slander Hassan for stealing money and kick him out of the house. Years later, Hassan still expects Amir to reconcile with him.

"For you, thousands of times." This is a childhood promise and a lifetime commitment. The human heart is complex and changeable, but also loyal and stable. Xiao Lai and Hassan treat their friends without considering whether it is worth it or not. No matter whether you have me in your heart or not, I always have you in my heart, and my promise will not change.

03 When faced with school bullying, learn to help yourself without a cat mask

"Infinite" is based on the background of parents' divorce and school bullying, and mainly tells the courtship of adolescent girls. Therefore, the film weakens the terrifying atmosphere of parents' hurt and bullying, and even arranges to always guard Infinite's friend Xiao Lai. A cat mask that can help Infinite become a cat to get closer to the sunrise. The movie is warm and healing, infinity is happiness, the person she likes saved her, and her friends have been with her all the time.

Helping a bullied friend in real life has a high chance of arousing the bully's interest, not only isolating you, but even constantly testing your friendship. Their most common method is to force you to participate in the bullying, and resisting will lead to more violent bullying.

Like the boy in "Moonlight" who grew up with Chiron, the bully forced him to beat Chiron until Chiron fell. Chiron, who has always been submissive, can endure the abuse of the bully, but he can't bear the bullying of his most beloved, and finally picks up the stool and smashes the bully, and he eventually becomes the person he hates the most.

So children can better protect themselves when faced with school bullying? We can take inspiration from Infinite:

• 1. Appropriate "counterattack" is an effective way to protect yourself

In "Moonlight", Chiron kept escaping, and the whole childhood was a docile look, but it only attracted the interest of the bullies, just like the psychology of a cat catching a mouse, no matter where you escaped, it would catch you back and tease you. We will find that children who are bullied are generally thin children, and strong children will give other children a "sense of shock".

Therefore, if the situation of being bullied cannot be avoided, the thin child should first follow the "Thirty-six Strategies to Walk as the Best Strategies", and running away can avoid a lot of harm. Secondly, when you return home, you must do physical exercise and keep fit. When the bully attacks the child, the child can "counterattack", block the attack of others or dodge quickly, and can avoid most of the harm at the physical level.

"Infinite" is a movie after all. If you pick up your shoes and throw them in the face like Infinite, wouldn't you be a new bully? Therefore, it is necessary to avoid violent scenes in real life as much as possible to prevent injury.

• 2. If you have a dream in your heart, your heart will be stronger

For Infinite, Sunrise is her dream, and when she sees Sunrise's smile, Infinite feels that life has meaning; for Chen Nian in "Youth of You", the college entrance examination is her dream, and her enduring and hard work are all for the success of the college entrance examination Then he got out of the misery; and for Chiron in "Moonlight", he lived his life in a hurry until he slammed the stool on the bully's head. Violence against the bully is not commendable, but it is his first step on the road to becoming stronger.

When I have no dreams in my heart, I have no motivation to persevere in the face of bullies. The saddest result is like the girl who committed suicide by jumping off a building, ruining her beautiful life because of the moral fall of others. Protecting friends, protecting family members, taking exams and even loved ones can all become a dream in your heart and a motivation for you to work hard to live.

04 Conclusion

Until the end, Infinite turned back into a human, and told Xiao Lai that Sunrise said thank you to himself, Xiao Lai was even more excited than Infinite, crying with his arms in his arms: "It's great! It's really great!" Xiao Lai said thank you.

Yes, what Infinite should thank most is Xiao Lai, who has been supporting her behind her back for so many years, the little Lai who told Infinite to give up Hinode and was very excited when she knew that Hirise had changed her attitude towards Infinite.

Happiness is always by your side, you just don't find it.

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