Do women deserve to be loved?

This film is not just about childhood shadows. The implication is that women and children have difficulty controlling themselves in their socially established roles (daughter, wife, mother). When we were young, we were made decisions. Of course, there are many decisions that are beneficial to our growth. The mother of the heroine is actually under social pressure, hoping that her daughter will show respect and understanding of death, so that others will feel that her daughter is very disciplined. She didn't know that this was against the child's mental health, and if it were me, I would be very afraid. But I am so easily picked up by adults and "forced" me to do things that I fear.

I'm not talking about fighting for women's status and rights here. We have it all, no matter who you are. Respect, decency, tolerance, kindness are the seeds of our soul. You and I are born to be loved without fighting for any material or spiritual approval.

Tell the story again~

Because when she was a little girl, the heroine herself believed that she could not have the power/right to choose, because the mother asked or forced it. And she couldn't break free at all. After marriage, she couldn't get rid of her husband's violence. Just like when I was young, I couldn't break free from my mother's coercion. She put a shackle on herself at that time. In the marriage, the person who has more power than her is her husband. She subconsciously thought that she had to obey him completely, no matter if she was beaten or scolded, she could only obey. Because that's how she was treated as a child. She couldn't find any other way to treat herself. Only surrender. Her childhood experience told her that, no matter how reluctant she was, she tried so hard to break free from her mother's hands that her small body couldn't do it. She is not as powerful as adults, not as majestic as adults. There is no escape from the abuse of rights. So she considers herself weak and incompetent. If she resists, she will only be suppressed.

I don't know why, but recently I feel as if I can touch the heart of the protagonist. Do some psychoanalysis often :)))

On the other hand, if you look at yourself and your friends and colleagues around you, you will find some shadows of the heroine of this show. But I still say don't hate your parents or husband/wife, they don't want to hurt you, they just don't know it's doing you a lot of damage (please think about this again). Not knowing does not mean that the injury has not affected us. I know it is contradictory to say this. Please bear with me. We must face up to this kind of injury, and put the healing of this kind of injury as a priority in busy events! We have the right to express all kinds of emotions, anger, sadness, grief, and anger, and grief again, for this kind of injury. . . Yes, it's going to go through several rounds, maybe more. If you're single, you're lucky, it's ok to vent on the doll at home or in your room! To tell you the truth, I did it too, it was suggested to me by a previous psychiatrist. Vent can be the body of the language, no matter how cool it is, remember not to hurt yourself and the people around you. We have all kinds of emotions, don't hate them, try to get along with them. Finally, after each vent, please embrace yourself and embrace the self who bravely faces yourself. Think of you who was born before you saw it, a small and fragile baby. You don't need to do anything or be anyone to gain love and approval. You look at yourself and can't help but say "What a cute baby!" You can't help but want to kiss her/him. Yes! You don't need to prove yourself worthy of being loved in every way, every little baby is naturally loved by people! Without exception! If the farmer and the king's daughter were born, would the farmer love the king's daughter more than his own? Of course not, his daughter has already occupied his entire line of sight, his entire heart. But is there a comparison between the weight and size of the love of a king and a peasant? Can love be measured by money and wealth? You will say that even if you were the same as a child, you will be different when you grow up. The princess is the princess, and the poor are the poor. Yes, it is different in external material and identity. But this difference does not mean that their life values ​​are different, and it does not mean that they do not receive the same amount of love.

Finally, I want to say that we have a lot of misunderstandings about loving and being loved. Love is not the first measure of whether that person deserves to be loved or not, but because love is there long before everyone is born, in eternity. Before we can "express" ourselves, love accepts us long before we exist in the world.