lost past

A girl who was kidnapped for 13 years returns to her family and society, what is the first question?

The kidnapper is still at large, and obviously it seems the most important thing to catch the kidnapper; but what if you can't catch it all the time?

Safety and not being kidnapped again are of the highest importance.

Second? Thirteen years have passed. At the age of 13, it is almost the first and second days of the first year of the new year. After returning to the society, it is already 26 years old. Let’s not talk about adapting to the society. Families are beyond recognition. Emotionally, they are basically isolated, and they have to re-establish contact with their relatives - let it be, although I have been lost for thirteen years, I have been together for so long after that. At first, I thought that my parents had cheated on their own, so why would I just have sex with their respective partners, why would there be a marriage that exists in name only. But think about it, if they are each with their partner, will the little girl have a chance to continue to be with them afterward? The so-called family does not exist anymore. So parents are willing to give up their love to continue to maintain the family, and even they themselves are happy in this relationship, although it hurts their love; but this should be a particularly good thing for girls.

What about former friends and little boyfriends? This really depends on luck. The other party has formed a family and has experienced different lives. Whether they can continue to be friends depends on the trajectory of their life. However, due to guilt, they can still grasp the intersection for a long time. If you blindly indulge in In the past, then the relationship will only remain in the past.

Then there is the escape from the kidnapper. In 13 years, how could one-on-one relationship be out of love, Stockholm is part of it. By the end the girl said she didn't want to hurt him; that was really true. 13 years wasted like this? It's not that the glasses are closed and opened. Even if everything is caused by this kidnapper, this relationship is full of pain, but even the worst relationship has its warmth and gifts - when a girl struggles alone, no one else can give it. He helped and loved, and only this kidnapper gave him a little bit of what he wanted that no one else could give him. How difficult it is to cut off this connection, not to mention the fear of escape that the other side pressed into the girl's mind.

In comparison, it is easier to adapt to the society. At 26 years old, he is still young. There are so many people who care about him and help him, and he can always find his own position slowly.

The above is from the girl's point of view. When I watched it with my friends, he said something that impressed me deeply: The girl's family and friends are also hurt and victims, but no one cares - yes, I really didn't think about it. past this point. So luckily, they still have such a long future ahead of them.

The pain of the past has spread from the past to the present, and even affects the future - but people's environment has changed, profoundly changed, and we will slowly heal in the new life and slowly embrace the new selves.