Having been in love with you, life is not all loneliness

Compared with the movie scenes of hurrying to take revenge before the memory disappears, or finding the truth of the deceased wife with the slightest fragment of memory, the story of "Love Before the Memory Dies" is much simpler-

An elderly couple who had passed their old age secretly drove out their old RV with their children on their backs, ready to leave everything behind and travel on the road.

on the way. This means that the movie story is full of road movie characteristics, the uncertainty of the journey and the progressive life experience, casual and romantic.

Different from the frustrated, rebellious or "beat" young people as the protagonists, "Love Before Memories" tells the "escape plan" of the old couple, which can be said to be a young attempt for old-age films.

In particular, in the film, the old people use the slow moving speed and light and lively journey pictures to express their multi-dimensional interpretation of the meaning of time at the end of their marriage and even life, and reveal the true meaning of love like a thread.

At first, you think they just thought about the two-person world.

Then, you find out that the old man has Alzheimer 's disease , and amnesia and memory become habitual. It turned out that this was a memory-collecting trip prepared by a wife for her husband.

Then you start worrying about the wife, who shows her pain several times in the film, knowing that she is seriously ill and may die soon. Only then did I realize that this was the last journey of a husband with his wife to accompany him.

In the end, you see a familiar ending, where the wife arranges for her husband to end his life with her. This trip is the end of their lives.

Unlike "Love", which has a similar ending, the character responsible for arranging the death in this film is a terminally ill wife, but her husband, who died with her, is a healthy body in addition to amnesia.

When it comes to the ethical issues of the elderly, "Love" is undoubtedly showing the truth and cruelty at the end of the road of life, while "Love Before Memories Die" is more about "love" in the changing time. Among them, the most revealing, and the most interesting, is "selfish" love.

Love is tasteful, unique, and not accessible to third parties. No matter how old you are, as long as you still have love, you will suddenly feel jealous. The confused old husband can't even remember the names of his children and grandchildren, but he can't forget the names of his rivals; after the wife heard about the cheating incident that her husband himself and himself told him, she was sent to a nursing home in a rage... Strong jealousy, strong love.

However, anyway, those are the past. Today, for a conscious wife, her "exclusive desire" for her husband is manifested in a moment of inseparable concern and distrust of others.

You have only me, and only I can take care of you. In other words, if you live in this world without my care, it is better to die happily with me.

The wife's approach seems willful, but there is a kind of pride that does not seek to be born on the same day but to die on the same day. The end here is not a relief from escaping the pain, but more like a kind of unswerving sticking together - the promise of marriage stems from this.

You know, no matter how many children and grandchildren you have, when people grow old and are about to die, the meaning of home is simply two people.

Everyone is lonely, even the elderly.

When you are old, you don't know what you say casually, and you can make your children's eyes red.

Likewise, when your parents are old, you don't know what it means to them that what you're trying so hard to stop them from doing. Even if you knew, you might still be against it—like the crying children at the funeral at the end of the credits. In a short period of time, the loss of their loved ones has brought them great pain, and they will not feel relieved.

Well, when they get old?

A rare answer, but "time will eventually lead us to find the exit of understanding."

"Love Before Memories Dies" cuts in with memory, and traces back those changing "times":

1. Time is a joke, bringing about a formal reversal.

The husband, who loves Hemingway very much and drops his book bag from time to time, used to be a prestigious language professor. He was once tall, handsome and gentle, and was deeply admired by his wife.

Today, although the old husband is still a handsome old man, the fading memory has made him lose his confidence and elegance. He will pee his pants, stand helplessly in the car and let his wife wipe himself, and suddenly forget the literary content he is good at when he is proud.

On the contrary, the wife who once snuggled up to her husband, old and smart, took over the heavy responsibility of taking care of her husband, taking care of her from morning to night, and her sweetness was enviable.

A trip, a premeditated plan, the leader is the wife. The authority of the husband at a young age falls entirely into the hands of the wife. Stopping the lives of the two at the most suitable time is not only the wife's decision, but also the way to achieve the husband's will.

You take care of me when you are young, and I will arrange for you when you are old. The long life has its own division of labor and understanding, and the ability to resist the tricks of time is the value of marriage.

2. Time is a thief.

When her husband was sober, he once said, "The person who stole you from me also stole him."

This trip is the end trip planned by the wife, and it is also the time trip for the couple to find the lost. Every time an old photo is played, it can attract a lot of people to come and watch it. Presumably, older or younger, they can also find the shadow of their own era from those yellowed photos. From those photos, I can also recall myself and the good times I spent with my lover, family and friends.

The film arranges several dramatic alternative "memory killings" in a timely manner. For example, the husband blurted out the fact that he was cheating, insisted on visiting his wife's first love, and could not remember the name of his grandson but was able to recognize the young and beautiful female student at once.

It can be seen that the old couple who are immersed in their memories still have a vibrant emotional life, with chattering quarrels, dashing adventures on the road, daily romance and warmth, and secrets and crises every moment.

On top of that, the danger and cruelty of the end is overshadowed. Just like the wife who miraculously endured the pain, but once collapsed because of her husband's amnesia, the film seems to tell us that the most terrible thing is not death, not the loss of life.

"Remember me before the memory of love fades away."

The death and kinship involved in "Love Before Memories Die" have something in common with the beautiful and splendid road to the dead in "Dream Pursuit". In the film, what should be scary is expressed as warmer than the sun, and the audience is given sugar-coated shells with clichés and warm traps that are constantly laid. In this respect, it is very similar to the look and feel of "Miracle Boy".

However, we are more willing to fall into the warmth brought by the film than the brutal truth and exaggerated unreality. Even if it is false, you are willing to believe it. Even if it's fake, you still want it.

Life is full of goodbyes. The farewells that young people say to each other are temporary farewells in stages. When the old couple in the film is at the age, the farewell movement is ready to be played at all times. Just like a movie will come to an end, a person's life always has an ending.

I came to the world alone, I fell in love with you, and went with you side by side. In this way, life is not all lonely.

So, when I saw the two coffins side by side from God's perspective, I could feel relieved.

At the same time, I remembered that Donald Sutherland , who played her husband in the film, also played a major director who pursued a "happy funeral" in "The Big Shot". Although the three characters of happiness, longevity and fullness in Chinese joys and funerals are not well known, but he can be buried with the love of his life on the same day, and have a reunion. Happy, but that's all.

Many people will think of Richard Linklater's "Love Is Series" when they see the translation of "Love Before Memories" and how it shows the beauty of time under the capacity of love. I do recall a sentence at the end of another film directed by him, "Boyhood":

"People talk about grabbing this moment, but in fact, it's this moment that grabs us."

Time is always the most indifferent, so it is not necessary to pursue eternity. Before eternity becomes eternity, a moment is eternity. Look at those beautiful moments in life, quarrels, jealousy, and jealousy. When you were young, you may really be "you scum and I'm cheap." Look back after fifty years, no matter what the earth-shattering and trivial things are, they are all love. trace.

The old couple choose to chase those moments of life and loss, choose themselves to make the choice, choose to live in the moment and die in the moment, decisive and romantic. They, who are controlled by time in terms of their length of life, have frozen their still-lived love.

In the final analysis, we still have to learn from the elderly about loving and being loved.