The central idea of this film is very simple, two words: Love
Why are we always discussing/thinking/looking for love? I think, in large part because love is the most unusual part of ordinary people's lives. You don't need to land on the moon, you don't need to ride the battlefield, you don't need to do great things, you don't need to travel the world - just two people, even the most ordinary two people, can reap great joy and satisfaction. Its low cost and high returns make it the winning lottery ticket we've spent our entire lives looking for.
But what is love?
Scientists say seriously, in fact, love does not happen in the heart, but in the brain. Well, a string of chemical reactions involving words like "serotonin" and "endorphin". The love response is very similar to that of many stimulants - but, as even the most rigid scientists must admit, similar, but not the same - it also requires "a little bit of magic." Magic is really a magical word, like scrambled eggs with tomatoes - the ingredients are tomatoes and eggs, but the finished product is much more than that. I think there must be a similar "magic" going on when the tomatoes and eggs are in the wok.
Regarding magic, the moment when love occurs, the theory I agree with is Dr. Parker's exposition in "The Road Less Traveled": "Falling in love is the internal demand and external stimulation of human beings. The typical physical and psychological response of the human being...is the conquest of human reason by human genes." In short, our inner sexuality is awakened by certain characteristics of a person. This awakening is so powerful that it can temporarily blind people's rational thinking.
I really want to thank this magic, I don't know how many marriages/divorces have been achieved. In the film, a groom is described in a hurry before getting married, because he doesn't know the surname of the woman who is about to become his wife, can't blame him, they have only known each other for two and a half hours - I think if he is sober, he also comes to participate in himself. At the wedding, he will definitely slap the groom (that is, himself) twice: "Dude, wake up! Run! Run!"
Most literary and artistic works focus on describing the process of falling in love, including the interviews in this film, which are mostly about how people start to meet and fall in love. Indeed, the beginning is always the most beautiful. The stars are bright and the moon is crooked. The birds are singing and insects are singing. In fact, the stars and the moon are hanging in the sky all day. The department is paying attention to the impact of noise on residents. Love makes all the mediocre extraordinary, makes all the defects lovely. As for after that? After that, the prince and princess lived happily ever after - oh, sorry, that's Disney - and then the stars were the same stars, and the moon was the same moon, and the forestry department and the divorce court had to deal with all that. case.
The judge and couple who handled the divorce case said that the reason why the divorce rate is so high and the divorce process is so unbearable is because people get married too quickly without careful thought; and the modern society is very impetuous, and people do not have the patience to run in with each other. Tolerate each other. I think it's also important that a lot of people mistake falling in love for what love is all about.
I think the magic of falling in love is important to the beginning of a relationship. Everyone has their own safety zone, but falling in love allows you to open your own defenses and welcome the other person's entry. But it is also very dangerous. Because at the beginning, you don't know the other party, and it is easy to project your own fantasy onto the other party. He/she is actually a container you ideally placed, and it is an illusion of self-love. So many people say that he/she has changed, and he/she was not like this before - sometimes not because the other person has changed, but because you never knew him. Just like charlyne's first love, she felt that she loved him very much, he was dark and mysterious, with a deep shadow in his eyes, only to find out later that it was just because he was taking drugs.
Falling in love is definitely not the whole of love, it's not even the main part. The film features a couple who married very young, now gray-haired, telling their story: When the wives gave birth to their second child, the situation was very dangerous. That's when she heard the sound of military boots in the hallway, and she knew her husband had come back from the army, so she knew everything would be fine. The husband ran into the ward, saw that the mother and child were safe, and passed out - he finally used up the last of his strength. This couple's love is as beautiful as any other, but it's the understanding and support that has sustained them through the years.
Understanding and support sounds mundane, even boring, and far from romance, but it is precisely the hardest part, because it is free from the help of "endorphins". In my opinion, love that has not experienced each other's running-in and is separated from a deep understanding, tolerance and support of each other cannot be called true love. So some people ask, is true love only once in a lifetime? I don't know, but I'm sure not too many times. Because it takes a lot of energy and mind to fall in love once. And those who have experienced true love will definitely be more mature, confident and wiser than before. This is the wealth of a lifetime. Just like the man who went to Alaska to hunt a bear in the film, when he fell into the water and hung on the line, it was the face of his ex-wife that appeared vaguely that gave him the strength to survive. Luckily, the world is far more magical than we know—like life, like true love.
There is an interesting little detail in the film. Charlyne said to Michael, I hated you in the beginning. This scene really made me laugh. I'm very similar to Charlyne. Both are people with overly protective mechanisms. In this case, Charlyne doesn't actually hate Michael. On the contrary, she has a very good opinion of him, but this goodwill set off an inner alarm. The device, subconsciously began to order Charlyne to reject Michael. Love means the collapse of the self-defense line, which requires a lot of courage. So I believe that some people do not have the ability to obtain true love. They either only focus on themselves, or their inner protection mechanism is too complete and impeccable.
Last but not least is the strong ending. In the animation, Charlyne drove Michael on a motorcycle and galloped down the road, and the police car chased and shot them. The motorcycle was shot and exploded, and Charlyne said to the police, "life is too short to be wondering what if! Sometimes you just gotta live and see what happens, even if you get hurt!" The policeman left in tears, leaving a gorgeous back in the sunset.
In this way, Charlyne turned off her protective mechanism, just like all origami needs to break away from the initial hardness to give birth to infinite changes.
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