I saw some film critics analyze that the male protagonist's violence comes from his "steal straight man's self-esteem", because he regards self-esteem as more important than his relatives. I disagree with this analysis. Self-esteem should not be used as a derogatory term, nor should we attribute violence to a person's self-esteem.
People who are prone to domestic violence generally have traumatic childhoods. For example, in childhood, he was often in panic and could not get the comfort and protection of the adults around him. Such childhood shadows will cause him to feel extremely insecure when he grows up. This kind of extreme insecurity is generally only manifested in intimate relationships (because ta does not pay real emotions in ordinary interpersonal relationships. And such people are very good at pretending). And extreme insecurities in intimate relationships need to be satisfied through a strong desire for control. So only when she feels she has complete control over those she cares about will she feel that she is in a safe relationship. And once this control is out of control, he will lose his sense of security, so he needs to use all means to find this sense of security and bring everything back within his control. This desire for control at all costs is the direct cause of most domestic violence.
Look back at the father of the hero of the movie. He doesn't appear much, but you can still see his orders to his wife (and the hero's mother) and his alienation from the hero. When the male protagonist took his son to his grandfather's house for dinner, the male protagonist's father was grumpy at the dining table. Then he threw all the male lead's luggage out. It can be seen that the male protagonist grew up in his childhood with a father who was short-tempered, volatile, and very likely to have domestic violence.
In addition, I would like to explain more. In the eyes of colleagues, people who are docile and never make mistakes are not contradictory to those who have violent tendencies in intimate relationships. When the source of this violence is understood, that is, the desire to control to compensate for the extreme lack of security, such a "dual personality" can be well explained. Due to their extreme lack of security and usually indifference and selfishness in their hearts, such people will not easily connect more with strangers, let alone show their true self. So they usually have a lot of protective shells/camouflages on them, and they appear docile and polite on the surface, so that people in daily life can't hurt them. On the contrary, these people may also have the possibility of pleasing personalities in daily social interactions.
Finally, of course not all domestic abusers are the same type of person. I only analyze this type of behavior that is less observable but perhaps more dangerous. Welcome to leave a message to increase all kinds of violent people to show vigilance.
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