In Almodovar's "Tie Me, Tie Me", it tells an incredible "I want you to love me" and the dream came true, and Banderas's personal charm is indispensable. In contrast, there are absolutely no such elements in Oasis. The love between a woman with severe cerebral palsy and a man who has been in prison looks a bit different from an attempted rape. The woman's twitching hands and feet and her twisted face are disturbing.
I think this unease stems from a popular notion, not the notion of respecting, loving and protecting the disabled, but the notion that their flaws make them fundamentally different from normal people, even though our moral upbringing makes us (Must) choose to face them with compassion, but compassion, pity, is always implicitly or explicitly associated with superiority, not equality.
Going down the plot, I had the urge to cry with excitement and swear at the same time (this is more powerful...), in retrospect, it should be Director Li Cangdong who made me see the rare word equality. Only equality can be followed by respect.
The director used several scenes to show the fantasy in the woman's mind: she is a normal person, doing what normal couples do with men, flirting, singing her heart, dancing with both... This contrast doesn't make me think Deplore and sigh, but only feel very beautiful, because at the moment of the fantasy, the woman is happy and happy, her fantasy as a way of love replaces the inconvenience of the disabled body, and does not show that she is in our imagination. Feelings like envy and feeling helpless about one's own condition. Men, on the other hand, do not realize how stupid they are in the eyes of others, not like a normal person, nor do they realize whether a woman's disability is "lower class" or worthy of sympathy, let alone how they are different from ordinary couples.
While the tinted glasses of the outside world are flying around (restaurant owners avoid letting them eat in the name of closing time, and the interrogating policeman wonders about the man's choice and asks him "seeing her excites you?"), the glasses-wearing people of all colors, etc. When it is fair, just and compassionate (the brother and sister-in-law paid the neighbor to take care of the disabled sister and often came to visit her, the neighbor couple borrowed her place to have sex and paid no attention to her peeping), this pair of lovers who were scrutinized in front of the glasses were not. To give each other real equality... The
director did not ask questions or sarcasm, but just showed it quietly, using the love of these two people as a mirror to let us see our own narrowness and vulgarity, those self-righteous sympathy.
(The smallest example is the often-mentioned word "thank you", most of which have become a figurative sign of civility and politeness, a language tool, and a few "thank you" have retained the original meaning of these two words, not to mention It is said that there are some warm feelings between people, and the person who is thanked looks like he turns around and forgets, even without even raising his eyes.)
In our neglect and unconsciousness, true love happened. The reason why this is true love is not because it ignores the many conditions of blind date (healthy, stable job, cheerful personality, positive...), but because their world is built naturally, without any existing concept to measure. The first time he saw her, he thought she was beautiful and wanted to fall in love with her. She went from the initial fear of strangeness to the awakening of her sexual consciousness, to accepting him and wanting him, the most natural process. But to the "normal" we are horrified. How many people hide the curiosity of
the interrogating policeman: "Does it excite you to see her?" Tsk, because only in this way can we reintroduce them into the sphere of normal people we are familiar with, and the mark of this normal person is that they can Clarify "what is normal and what is abnormal".
Following this logic, the ending seems tragic in the eyes of normal people like us. The love between the two was interrupted, not to mention being beaten with a stick; how great is it to cut off the nightmare in a lover's dream regardless of one's own situation It's touching, but I still have to re-enter the cage; as a disabled person, the only possible love is ended like this...
But, like the "oasis", it is regarded as a miracle in the desert because of the desolation of human hearts. Jumping out of the fixed eyes and standing on the oasis, watching the petals fluttering, the elephants dancing happily, standing on the other side of the boundaries that we have drawn with our own hands, you can feel that love is continuing, our "normal" appearance and "correct" obstacles This natural world brought pain, but not enough to destroy it completely, and after the storm, tranquility breeds.
Don't smile, though, this ending is their natural repair, not a breather for you. We should, continue to reflect!
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