I listened to Kang Yong's EQ class a few days ago. There was an episode about how to deal with the relationship between lovers. It was titled "Sacrifice for love, it is easy to sacrifice love". Among them, Kang Yong mentioned a movie "WE", the Chinese name is "Qinguozhilian", I was very interested in it, so I watched it in my spare time~
This film is mainly based on a historical fact, the love story of Edward VIII (Edward) and Mrs. Simpson (Wallis). King Edward VIII of England fell in love with an American woman who had two marriages and was not of a good background, and was willing to give up the throne and realize the long-term stay with Mrs. Simpson~
At first hearing this story, it is very song and tearful, we will feel, "A king is willing to give up the whole country for his beloved woman, how much courage is needed to drum up~", "This kind of coaxing love story can be called It’s a swan song of the ages~" However, this is not the case. After Edward VIII gave up the throne, he became the Duke of Windsor, and later married Mrs. Simpson and lived together in Paris. If the ending of the story is that "the prince and the princess have lived a happy life since then", it is impossible. Realistic human nature is actually very complicated~
After living with Mrs. Simpson, King Edward VIII often felt frustrated that he could not return to the UK and could not realize his life ambitions. He complained to Mrs. Simpson many times. That is, although he gave up the throne, Edward did not have a percentage. Baidi only lives for love, he is still in the world, he still has his own work, ideals and ambitions ~ and all of this is all over when he gives up the throne. So is Edward's love for sacrificing the throne worth it?
Speaking of sacrifice, from the perspective of a woman, I have to talk about Mrs. Simpson. When everyone sighed about Edward's love for giving, who can think of her sacrifice, of course, compared to the throne, it may become insignificant, but for herself, that is all. She is called a prostitute, a slut, and has no free living space. She is always exposed to the media, listening to her husband’s complaints~
So, this reminds me of my own views on love. Love, is this kind of vigor and vigor of "changing a country for a beauty" really good?
In my heart, the love I pursue is mutual respect, understanding and support. There is no sacrifice but only giving. The giving is from the heart and willingly do something for the other party without regret. The process of giving is "harvest".
This movie actually has two lines. The other line is that the modern heroine Wally suffers both cold and hot violence from her husband (a doctor with a higher social status). The husband only wants to have sex, not children, and the heroine is one. Women who gave up their jobs for marriage. The scene where she suffered from domestic violence by her husband once showed the despair and pain of her life state in the play-it makes people feel extremely distressed. Later, I met the security guard of the auction house. He was romantic and considerate. Although she was not so rich, she loved her fully~ Let her experience the long-lost love and happiness. She turned into a shy, gentle and happy little woman. At the same time, she also started working again, the temperament of the whole person was different. Then she got pregnant with the baby as she wished.
Is the doctor husband of domestic violence called love to the hostess? The answer is no, it is a deformed possessiveness-it is terrible.
At the same time, Mrs. Simpson also suffered from her husband’s domestic violence in her first marriage. The scene of being kicked in the bathroom was too terrible. She lost her baby. As a result, she could not be the beloved man-Edward VIII. The tragedy of pregnancy.
From these scenes, I really feel that women who encounter such men who are capable of domestic violence are really too miserable~
So, what is my definition of love? What kind of love do I like?
First of all, loving someone is never possessing her/him. I am your lover, and I am more of myself. People in love usually think of each other as all of them. But the author's concept of love is: the prerequisite for loving your partner is to love yourself, and the prerequisite for pleasing your partner is to please yourself. Freedom and privacy are the rights that each of us pursues. Don’t deprive each other’s freedom or steal each other’s privacy in the name of love. What we have to admit is that partners need to have their own without violating the love norms of both parties. In the social circle, there is a career for it.
A healthy, quality, and meaningful love does not need to be "sacrificed", you do not need to sacrifice your work, your ideals, and your pursuits. If you feel that there is a "sacrifice", you should consider whether there has been a problem in the relationship between the two parties.
Secondly, from the perspective of women, one must find such a man in this life. This man is not necessarily rich, powerful, or handsome~ but he must be a kind person who will treat you well and love you. People. The violence is terrible~ It has been almost 20 hours after watching the drama, and the scene of the husband's violence against his wife still clearly emerges before my eyes. It's really terrible. As a girl, I really understand how fragile a girl's inner world is. I really need a man who treats me well to spoil him. In this way, the rest of my life will be beautiful~ Otherwise, it's really not as good as bachelorism!
Finally, I think it is to learn to be satisfied. God is fair under a large statistical probability. He has bestowed you a vigorous and eternally singular "love", so stop coveting your "throne". From the moment Edward VIII chose "love", he should do well to live with Mrs. Simpson. He lacks material, spiritually, he needs to be guided by the world, and it is difficult to return to the British life. . "Love" must be affordable and let go! This is the correct way to guard "love", and most secular people can't do it. That's why "love" is great.
Today, I asked Chen a question, if you have 1 billion, what would you use it for? His answer was: "Buy a few store properties to collect rent every month, then go to work on weekdays, rest on weekends, a wife, three meals a day."
I was not surprised to see Chen’s answer, because I guessed it a long time ago, otherwise I would not choose Chen~
At this point, I suddenly remembered that in Chinese, we usually use words such as "the sea is dry and the stone is rotten", "life and death", "the liver and the intestines are broken" and so on to describe the so-called "vigorous" "love". But is only the love described by this word called "love"? Is it worthy of praise and praise? It's too scary~
So compared to the vigorous "love" of Wallis and Edward (WE), I prefer the "three meals a day" with you, and this is what I think is the most "vigorous" thing in love.
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