I won’t talk about the French style’s relaxed, romantic warmth and the various delicacy and excellence of the actors. This film has brought me two deepest influences:
the simple sentence “Family is a machine that destroys emotions” really wakes up a dreamer. ! Well, in the minds of Chinese people, the family is always the most important thing. The family is full of joy and happiness. The family is harmonious and not quarrelling. There are old people and children in a room full of people. When I was young, I had to obey my parents. Especially when there are elderly people at home, you can’t talk back. When the child grows up, parents generally still want to live with the child, especially after marrying the third generation and realizing the dream of N generations living in the same house-but I have been reflecting on the relationship between parents and children. This is a very close but also very contradictory relationship. At different stages of life, this relationship may become intimate or estranged, which seems to be a must-go process (not only the rebellious period will appear short-lived). estrangement), the inevitable factors of heredity + acquired chance because the relationship is sometimes conflicted and sometimes harmonious. Just like myself, when I was young, I took things for granted in my family, but when I grew up, I would deny and doubt it. I couldn’t understand it, but because of this line, I seemed to have an epiphany. The relationship between them is also revealed by the accumulation and change of the daily bits and pieces. There is no sublime and no greatness, but there is dedication and management. There is disapproval, misunderstanding, and denial, but it is more tolerant and selfless.
It is said that home is the last harbor. In fact, home is the place where we truly understand life.
It is still the second effect of the phrase "Family is a machine that destroys emotions": those who can hurt are actually the people closest and dearest. The most unbearable injuries actually come from home. It is precisely because of this that estrangement arises, and the ultimate purpose of estrangement is attention and love. (The eldest son hasn't returned home for a year because of the estrangement with his father. In China, it's just... rebellious, hehe, I actually think it's human nature.)
At the same time, I'm watching Yu Qiuyu's "The Hidden Structure of Great Works", although it's nothing. It is a masterpiece, but the "commonality" mentioned in the book should refer to this kind of perception, which includes the heart of the author and the heart of the reader.
On the first day of the rest of your life, you truly understand your feelings and how to maintain them. No matter what kind of relationship, keep some space, sometimes far and sometimes near, and finally the feelings will really settle down.
In the end, my father's death gave me another epiphany: perhaps I should experience death together with life. The shock of death comes from the foreshadowing of a lot of life before, so that death is the true highest tribute and sublimation to life.
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