Nora's "Being Not Belonging" in Marriage

Clarabelle 2022-09-25 04:18:17

With regard to 84 Charing Cross Street, when people focus on the cross-border relationship between the female author Helene and the bookstore owner Frank, I have more sympathy for Frank's wife Nora.

She is warm and kind, runs the house all day, and takes care of her husband and two daughters. She was fully aware of Helene's existence and was grateful for the food she sent during a time of scarcity. She knew that despite her husband's efforts to explain it to her, she still could not understand the meaning of those literary works. All she waited for every day was her husband's compliment at dinner: "Very delicious!"

The unfortunate death of her husband was a relief to Nora, who wrote to Helene to invite her to Frank's funeral. She joked that she used to be jealous of Helene because she knew Helen and Frank were the real soulmates.

Nora seems to have been in marriage all her life, but in fact, she has always been outside of marriage. This kind of sadness of "being but not belonging" can't help but make people reflect: They are two good people, why are they inappropriate?

In fact, whether the marriage is suitable or not has no necessary connection with the quality of human nature. A bad couple can be in a state of embarrassment, and a good couple can live together in harmony. Talking about it, it is nothing more than "suitable", "on the right", "smelling like", "synchronization and harmony and consensus".

In fact, the probability of encountering true love in life is extremely low. Most people's so-called true love is just meeting a suitable person, men and women get together to live together, and get along with unity and love without getting tired. If you really want to find that soulmate, you have to be strong inside and ready to be single for a lifetime. It's good to meet, but it doesn't matter if you don't.

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84 Charing Cross Road quotes

  • Frank P. Doel: [reading "He wishes for the Cloths of Heaven" by William Butler Yeats] "Had I the heavens' embroidered cloths, Enwrought with golden and silver light, The blue and the dim and the dark cloths, Of night and light and the half light, I would spread the cloths under your feet: But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams."

  • Helene Hanff: Somebody gave me this book for Christmas. It's "A Great Modern Library" book. Ever seen one of those? It's less attractively bound than the "Proceedings of the New York State Assembly" and it weighs more. It was a given to me by a gent who knows I'm fond of John Donne. The title of this book is: "The Complete Poetry and Selected Prose of John Donne *and* the Complete Poetry of William Blake"? The question mark is mine. Will you please tell me what those two boys have in common except - they were both English and they both wrote.