The 10-minute famous quarrel scene is too real. Surprisingly, the screenwriter writes such lines because he knows more about life.
One: Nicole believes that Charlie did not abide by the contract and did not take care of her feelings and moved to Los Angeles. But Charlie thought that this was not a contract, just a casual expression of hers, just like buying a cabinet, it was insignificant. There are too many moments in marriage that are like this, and the perception of the weight of the same thing is completely different. One party believes that the other party is in serious breach of contract, but the other party does not regard it as a contract. It is not even a verbal promise, just some kind of "said."
Second, when the woman began to narrate, she was not so aggressive. For example, Nicole said that "the lawyers of both of us have demonized us" rather than simply accusing one of them. But Charlie's response was "Nora went too far." It is not possible to discuss the matter and use the same standard to treat the two parties in the dispute, and only stare at the damage to their own interests.
3. When talking about the child's feelings, the man always believes that the child did not choose to continue to live in New York according to his own wishes. There are two problems here. The first is that the man cannot face the choices made by his children, which are largely related to his own behavior. The second is that even if it is related to his own behavior, as long as he has a reasonable reason, he can not bear it. responsibility. Since I don't have to bear the responsibility, but there must be someone who is responsible for this kind of damage to his own interests, then the woman must bear the charge of abetting. This is actually convicting the party in the quarrel. There are more qualitative words for the woman behind. 4. For a long period of time, Charlie has been judging Nicole from her own point of view. If Nicole left him, she would not be happy because she didn’t want to have her own voice, she just complained about not having her own voice and judged her. Sloppy, judged her acting regressive, judged her identity as a victim and so on. This is not even evaluation, but judgment. Judgment means that he subconsciously believes that he has the right to characterize the other party as a judge or superior status. Nicole did not attack back in the same way. Her language focused on expressing her feelings in marriage. Whether it is "feeling marriage is hell", "I completely changed a person", "I feel sick when I sleep with you", they are all feelings from the perspective of self, rather than attacking what kind of person the other person is. It wasn't until the end that it broke out as "Everyone said you are a selfish person". Note that this is still not to characterize the other party from your own perspective, but a sudden realization. It turns out that other people's evaluation of you is reasonable. It turns out that I am only now. Realize this. 5. The part of Charlie's derailment is really a famous scene in a famous scene. The first is to put the blame on the woman again, "It's not that you should be sad that I fuck her, what you should be sad is that I am very happy with her." Because you make me unhappy, I naturally have the right to cheat. At the same time, the person who needs to reflect is you. You make me unhappy and cause me to cheat. In fact, I don't really want to cheat, it's all you forced. The second is that I became famous when I was young, and in order to marry you, I have given up the opportunity to sleep more girls. This is already the best gift to you. It is so unreasonable that you would be angry because I only slept with one person. Charlie’s sense of self-sacrifice, and "all you lose is a leg,"What she lost is love" is a heavyweight narcissism of the century. Sixth, the last blow of the wall, Nicole said: I can’t believe I want to know you forever. I still express it from my own perspective, including right Self-disgust and self-blame. And Charlie's response is "You are fucking insane". It is still "YOU" throughout, qualitative and judging.
After a long series of curses, it was still Nicole who showed intolerance and tenderness to appease Charlie, who was emotionally broken. And Charlie's sorry sentence was the only untrue in these ten minutes. Because "I'm sorry" means that if it weren't for polite apology, he began to have a basic reflection. But in real life, as Nicole said: Your selfishness has been completely internalized, and you can't even feel your selfishness. Perhaps this place, Charlie said: "Don't force me!" It is more in line with the character's narcissism and selfishness. Even if he is aware of the ugliness of his long list of curses, it is the woman who needs to bear the responsibility, because if it were not for the woman's step by step, he could have continued to be the gentleman and gentleman. Throughout these ten minutes and even the core of the film, in the final analysis, under the existing rights structure, women's awakening and men's unconsciousness and inadaptability to women's awakening, as well as the irreconcilable conflicts brought about by the two. Charlie has repeatedly emphasized that the past life in New York is the right life and the life worth continuing. In fact, it is not only about the question of where Henry lives, but also remembering the power relationship that he once had an absolute advantage. Coming to Los Angeles means the reversal of all power relations and the loss of a strong position. Many people sympathized with Charlie because they saw him lose step by step and get into trouble, but they didn't see that it was because he was the one who had the most that he would lose later. On the other hand, Nicole has nothing, even his own name (everyone remembers who the director is, but they don't remember the actress's name). And Nicole, who had nothing, was still giving in the end, ordering Charlie, pacifying Charlie when he cursed himself to die, and tying Charlie's shoes. Charlie just sang a song in front of his colleagues, a beautiful song.
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