As soon as people come to the world, they touch and experience themselves, others preach and teach by example, and gradually form their own worldview and life outlook. They are the practice and correction of these views when they are adolescents. Others and themselves can forgive these words and deeds, because this is called "Not yet qualitative", but adults-that is, "qualitative"-make changes afterwards, such as modifying their views of themselves, others, and the world, and they will be under tremendous pressure, not to mention subverting themselves. Conceptually, homosexuality is just an extreme example of this change.
This kind of change is often said that people do not fully understand themselves, nor do they fully understand others. In the movie, Mia thought she was not gay, she thought she would not take off the wedding ring, she thought her fiancé was as in no hurry to have children as she was, Frida had not completely emerged from the shadow of breaking up with her fiance after she found out she was gay , I found out that my feelings for Mia were deeper than those of his girlfriend Elin. She thought that cheating was a very bad thing before. Elisabeth thought that her husband Lasse did not discriminate against his daughter as being gay. Tim thought it was not right for her to get married without having a child right away. Normal...all these
This change is so turbulent. After the initial shock, even adults can cope with weakness, because this change often means the denial of part of the past life, part of their own denial, part of the denial of others, and moreover, Faced with other people’s eyes, especially relatives and friends, your life and work will be affected in the future, you may lose your favorite friends and family, ordinary people may also look at you with colored eyes, fear is a matter of course Yes, but because of fear and avoiding facts, or passive resistance, or denial of irrational attitude, it can’t solve the problem fundamentally. For example, in the movie Lasse does not admit that his daughter is gay, Tim pretends that he did not see his fiancée. Elisabeth angrily accused her daughter of being with Mia. At first, Frida hid from her girlfriend that she fell in love with other women. Mia was afraid of others’ eyes, and hoped that her current life could continue, and she also hoped to be secretly with Frida... …All kinds of evasion and denial are useless. Now that the change has been achieved, it is impossible to go back to the past life. Reluctantly doing it is just hurting others and self. Mia really wants to marry Tim and have a happy child after discovering that she is gay. happiness? Can Frida get along after betraying Elin?
Since there is nowhere to escape, I have to face it calmly, just like Frida had been engaged for 5 months, but in the end she broke off the engagement with her girlfriend Elin. Now Mia is facing the same situation as Frida, how to choose? Of course this is not easy, it requires love, courage and sacrifice.
Feelings are fundamental. If you don’t have feelings, you can’t talk about everything. Love, family, friendship, only deep enough to withstand the changes of time and personnel, Lasse loves his daughter, Elisabeth also loves his daughter, this kind of affection does not depend on whether the daughter is a daughter or not. It was homosexuality that faded and became shallow. At first, it might not be understandable. In the end, the two parents still stood by their daughters.
Then it is to bravely accept the facts and admit that the world is changing. Our understanding of ourselves and others is the same shallow. One day we will have new discoveries. Although it saddened his children, Lasse could only admit that he and his ex-wife’s friend had a love. Even at the age of 60, the two had to get married. Frida realized that his love for Mia was stronger than that for his current girlfriend Elin. Mia did. In love with the stepmother's daughter.
After accepting the facts, it was a necessary sacrifice. The old life was unsustainable, so she had to throw away her baggage and go to battle. Frida lost Elin, and her mother blamed her. Not only did Mia lose her husband, her work and social circles also collapsed, just like her. She said that she has nothing, she has nothing to fear, she can follow her wish with all her strength and release her soul. Frida has done this once before, and now it is Mia's turn to do it.
In the end, the ending of the movie is beautiful. After both Mia and Frida have made great efforts and sacrifices, the lovers eventually become married. However, as far as I am concerned, what about not being together? At least a few people have released their souls, reshaped their lives, and reversed their lives. This is enough.
PS:
Frida’s eyes are always smiling and naughty, the blue pupils are really charming
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