I spent 2 hours today, and I scanned "Nanette 2018" twice in a row.
I have never been grateful that I have spent the past 30 years as a member of a special group so smoothly and safely. I don’t even remember how long it has been since the last time I felt like a special group. In other words, I have even been in peace. Forget that there is such a special group collectively called by people, and that there are many people in this group who are not fortunate for me. They are experiencing screaming in silence in purgatory, experiencing violence in coldness and indifference, and in virtual love. Give up oneself while protecting.
I came out very early on my own. My parents could not say that it was support, but they expressed understanding. But this kind of understanding actually has two meanings. The first is that the child is still young, and she does not understand love and impulse, life and responsibility, and perhaps she will change in the future; second, a married man and a woman naturally understand the benefits of this heterosexual marriage. It is also possible that they can't figure out the cons and cons themselves. Since they can't figure it out, then they can't define and give suggestions. Simply put it as you want, and you are happy. Regardless of the meaning, the trust and support they gave me gave me a signal when I was very young that my sexual orientation was not a problem, it was as simple as a cat loves a mouse. So since this journey, I have never concealed the same-sex topic, whether it is on campus or in the work environment, if someone asks, I am used to answering "yes" with a non-proactive or avoiding attitude, just like answering 1+1= 2 same affirmation. My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years now.
But I'm not here to sprinkle sugar, I just talked about the results first, and the conditions behind all the results are crucial. My birth background and Hannah are very different, but I don't want to be Hannah. I don’t think it’s all because of my hard work or my luck, but because of the collection of many real objective factors. The big background is that I was born in a first-tier city in China under the rule of law in the 21st century. This is the prerequisite for me to come out without pressure. In the 21st century, with the efforts of countless predecessors, the bill was adjusted, the rejection of homophobic activities was sung, and the Internet spread like a magnifying glass to quickly gather this group. The so-called truth holds the majority. In the hands of people, now this group cannot be described as a minority under certain circumstances. I mentioned that the focus of first-tier cities is not the classification system, nor the level of public security. I believe that even under the roots of the imperial city, there is also the sea of Fahai. What I really want to talk about is the pace of life of social residents. In this city full of brick-and-mortar people, whether you are in a foreign company, state-owned company, or private company, the people around you are driven by the busy life, even if someone asks you if you are. Homosexuality, what drives this problem is nothing but gossip after dinner, a curiosity, a sense of accomplishment to prove that we have guessed it right, etc. Who of us has the leisure to care about other people’s lives? It’s just other people’s lives. .
The rest is your own hard work and luck, see if you have the luck to meet an enlightened parent, see if you have the luck to meet the girl who loves you and the girl you love. I really understood the story Hannah wanted to tell when I worked hard.
Thinking back to these years of hard work, I have a few obsessions deeply ingrained in my heart. 1) I need to live a good life, and I must have a very happy life, so that I can prove that the lives of the two girls are good and shut up people who are not optimistic about this relationship. But I never realized that this is also a problem left by society to be solved, why the union of the relationship between men and women does not need to prove so hard; 2) I need to make a lot of money, so that the girlfriend’s parents will feel at ease that we are The combination is solid and reliable. In the final analysis, I am the same as Hannah. I feel ashamed and feel that a girl and I have given up something, and then I need to try my best to make up for something in exchange. But I have nothing to complain about or feel angry about these obsessions. Before I watched Hannah's farewell performance, I might say to give the world some more time, but now I want to say to give ourselves some more time, and give ourselves some more time. We are spreading, influencing, changing, universalizing, and empowering. I am sorry for the friends who are still in a bad growth environment, and I am sorry for those who have been desperate, sad, and angry. I have no position to persuade you to persevere, and no position to suggest that you be yourself. But I still want to encourage my friends who are on the verge of giving up and protect myself before the real liberation. There is such a large army, and there are many people like Hannah who are working hard for liberation.
Finally, let Hannah's power come to an end.
⭐️"Do you know why Van Gogh drew a sunflower? Not because Van Gogh experienced pain, but because he has a brother who loves him wholeheartedly. In addition to all the torture he has experienced, he still has love and the world Link. This is the story we need. Thank you.
Do you know why we have the sunflowers? It's not because Vincent van Gogh suffered. It's because Vincent van Gogh had a brother who loved him. Through all the pain, he had a tether, a connection to the world. And that... is the focus of the story we need. Connection. Thank you. ”
"I don’t intend to connect you with laughter or anger. I just want to tell my story so that the public can hear it. Because, whether you believe it or not, my story is your story. I don’t have the energy to beautify me. My story is gone, and I don’t want to use anger to define my story. I just hope that you can stand with me and understand my story.
I don't want to unite you with laughter or anger. I just needed my story heard, my story felt and understood by individuals with minds of their own. Because, like it or not, your story… is my story. And my story … Is your story. I just don't have the strength to take care of my story anymore. I don't want my story defined by anger. All I can ask is just please help me take care of my story. ”
"I don’t want to say this, because I don’t want you to treat me as a victim. I am not a victim, because my stories have their value. I tell these stories today because I want you to know that I have lost Power does not mean losing humanity. Your resilience is humanity. Only those who think they have the power to bully the lower end of power lose their humanity-they are weak people!
I don't tell you this... so you think of me as a victim. I am not a victim. I tell you this because my story has value. My story has value. I tell you this'cause I want you to know, I need you to know, what I know. To be rendered powerless does not destroy your humanity. Your resilience is your humanity. The only people who lose their humanity are those who believe they have the right to render another human being powerless. They are the weak. ”
"I see my freedom of speech as a responsibility. Just because I can treat myself as a victim does not make my anger more meaningful. Anger will never make sense. Jokes are not our antidote. Jokes are just bitter. Reality is coated with sugar, and the story itself is the final answer.
Because I take my freedom of speech as a responsibility, and just because I can position myself as a victim, does not make my anger constructive. It never is constructive. Laughter is not our medicine. Stories hold our cure. Laughter is just the honey that sweetens the bitter medicine. ”
"I don't hate men, but I'm afraid of them. If I were the only woman among men in the whole house, I would feel scared. If you think my fear is only a minority, then you have never spoken out for women.
I'm not a man-hater. But I'm afraid of men. If I'm the only woman in a room full of men, I am afraid. And if you think that's unusual, you're not speaking to the women in your life."
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