She can destroy the shackles of all external systems, but she can't escape the more secret internal system-the instinctive desire to be loved.
Does her shadow come from the momentary negligence of her mother? No, it was the way her mother treated her that made her involuntarily learn how to continue to be loved, and formed another mode of drinking poison to quench her thirst.
She keeps running away, constantly resisting everything outside, and constantly hurting herself. It can be seen that almost her anger is the opposite of her mother's extreme cowardice, but maybe her mother's anger is presented in another way-cowardice, Capricious and erratic. One can still tell her daughter that I love you at the moment when she personally sent her away, misunderstand her daughter’s cognition, then turn around and live her life comfortably, and continue to package herself as a victim of persecution. You can still be a good person, this method is also smart enough. So even if she said that she had broken up with her boyfriend and would take her daughter home, when everyone was happy, she suddenly changed her mind and her daughter ran away again, and the mediator collapsed at this time. I was thinking, the reason for her collapse was that the joy of seeing herself was not pure, or was it that the nightmare was far from over? Think about it carefully, someone who can throw her daughter to the organization's own happy life, when she says that she wants to take her daughter home, she needs three points of fear. The subtle and complicated in human nature can invalidate even the promises on paper, and the verbal promises are even more so. If she really loves her daughter, she will not just toss around men of all kinds, but at the moment her daughter is born, breadwinner will be the first choice.
If not, saying that I love you but doing all the things that hurt you, isn't this a scumbag's method? How can you become noble when you get to your mother?
Mother is not an exemption gold medal.
If she can recognize the truth, in her mother’s repeated volatility, she can see that her mother is no longer the only possibility of happiness. She must start the hard work step by step, step out of her life, and say no to her mother’s gentle poison. When she When taken to the forest by accompany, she will recognize that without her mother's love, she can live well by herself. And those unknown explosive anger may have a bigger outlet.
With the maximum help of the mediator, she can also get out of the quagmire of life by herself. He won't be stuck in someone who puts more care on her, unable to extricate himself and entangled, but recognizes that these will all be passers-by, and he is the most important helm.
However, every time, when her mother gave her a gentle look, she surrendered without hesitation.
Just as every time outsiders devoted and cared for her, she turned into another way to set fire to herself, and fell more quickly. She didn't understand why she surrendered to this toxic and gentle town every time, but every time she would fight for it and moths into the fire. Even if it was only a moment of peace, she would not hesitate to calm the black hole in her heart. So those passers-by were held tightly by her as a life-saving straw, and she would even use various methods to keep them, including hurting herself, or even if the other party was just a small baby, she would rather take it for herself, resolutely Won't let go.
Even though they all failed one by one later.
However, doesn't this exactly copy her mother's behavior pattern?
It's just that her mother used cowardice, and she used runaway.
So, is her uncontrollable anger just a symptom of her condition?
No, maybe it was from her anger towards herself. Or it is a means to get more attention from the mother.
More precisely, behind this anger is more inexplicable fear. Fearing that her mother would leave herself again, she tried to stop her with threats.
Ran and egg.
It can also be said that to some extent, this anger also exacerbates the fear itself.
So whenever the bed wets at midnight, she needs more and bigger compensation to comfort herself.
It's like a mouth, pulled by a large amount of external forces frantically left and right, gradually forming larger and larger pits, and this pulling will become more and more addictive, just in this kind of no sign of stopping, this The big pit finally evolved into a black hole, and the inside was like a wind-up fan violently sucked all the sunlight and oxygen warmth, and in the end only dark, humid and cold, which was dying.
And her fear has become bigger and bigger under various external collisions, until she can no longer hold this powerful dark force.
So she can only use the most awkward way to vent-as long as there is a slightly unkind look, words, and behavior from the outside world, she can immediately ignite her out-of-control and angry bombs and explode the audience, leaving everyone present stunned and injured. .
No one can stand up and guide her. Because her existence is like revealing a cauldron of foul-smelling porridge that no one wants to face. Everyone has their own hypocrisy and gloom, let alone anyone.
Perhaps the most appropriate way to treat her is not to tell her that it’s okay and that everything will be okay, but to tell her that this is the way it is now, and it’s like this kind of ghost now, your mother just doesn’t want you, you Mother just can't take you by her side and raise her.
Whether you run wild or go crazy, this is the truth.
Only you can decide whether everything will continue to get worse in the future, or it will get better.
You can decide for yourself to find a way to overcome the challenges in life and plan to live the life you want, such as going to school until adulthood. You don’t want to stay in this place where only fools can stay, so you can go to the forest to be independent. To live a life, you can also decide to go to other places such as Kenya to see the vast world now.
Without a mother, you would not die. Because the world is big, big. There is such a big world waiting for you to grow up. As long as you still have a breath, why don't you want to survive on your own?
You can continue fighting. But not to fight against this world, but to fight against your own demons. When you are most afraid and panicked, learn to comfort yourself and no longer expect anyone to replace this part.
Anyway, your mother just can’t give you the so-called love or even will keep abandoning you, don’t stop you, keep giving up on you, you continue to be angry indefinitely until you are old to death to madness to become lifelong waste Still have to find a way to love yourself, not to abandon yourself, to not abandon yourself, whatever.
Anyway, this is really fucking hard.
You can destroy all the constraints of the external system on you, but do you have to recognize that there is a more subtle internal system-the instinctive desire to be loved, no longer knowing why you are always going around in this system Turn, walk your own way?
Casual.
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