Their breakup was not all due to indifference, but the unequal relationship between the male and female protagonists, and the boys' heart that has not really grown up.
The topic of exploring the relationship between people caused by sexual frigidity is actually worthy of more in-depth discussion, but this movie uses it as an entry point, but ends with the theme of love. It makes me feel that although I was moved in the end, it was still less. Point thickness.
Let me talk about the movie itself. The degree of completion is very high. All the final results have reasons, and they are clearly explained on the memory line.
The quarrel between the male protagonist Edward and the female protagonist Florence is an accumulation of emotions in the past few years, from the acquaintance to the marriage for such a long time. This was their first quarrel, and also the last time, Edward shouted all the grievances accumulated before on this beach, regardless of whether these grievances were related to Florence's sexual indifference.
Edward’s native family is actually a bit unfortunate. He has a mentally abnormal mother who did not give him positive energy during his growth. , Extremism in mental illness is not conducive to growth).
From the clip he wanted to show to his family when he received the admission notice, it was clear that he did not get enough attention at home. No one in the family expressed excitement and blessings for such a major event. It is conceivable that he grew up in an environment lacking love, but perhaps it was not because his father loved him not enough, because they were in the country, and his father had to raise the whole family by himself, so maybe he was too busy and neglected to care.
Children who grow up in such an environment will desperately want to be recognized by others. When others show a little disrespect for him, they will poke his self-esteem brought by inferiority, so he will fight.
As for Florence, she saw Edward's fragile and sensitive side, so she had been using her way to protect him.
This reminds me of my relationship with my ex-boyfriend, who was 6 years old. His parents divorced and his mother left him. This has had a very big impact on him up to now. I think his mental age has never grown up since then, maybe now he is like the third grade of elementary school. I can feel that he has gained the warmth of a mother from me in the course of our interactions. (My personality is very gentle and very tolerant. And I found that the boys who have always been interested in me are children from single-parent families ==)
Like Florence, I always encourage and praise my ex-boyfriend, and I often act as a very small woman and admire his appearance. Because I know that even boys who are in elementary school have a hero complex and want to be worshipped by girls.
Of course, the ex-boyfriend will also have the same problem as Edward, that is, when facing a problem, he will be very emotional and unable to control himself. At the same time, the way to deal with the problem is "avoidance."
Returning to the topic of "sexual frigidity", I can understand Florence's psychology very well. First of all, it can be seen that Florence is a person who loves life very much. She is passionate about the world. She has her own hobbies, her own ideals for work, and her personality is also very good.
So when she faced a boy she loved very much, her first thought was to compromise.
She did not reject Edward at the beginning. We can see that she is working very hard to overcome her physical and psychological discomfort and cooperate with him. Even at the end, she remembered the words in the book, reaching out to help Edward enter her body. So in this context, no one has any reason to blame her.
On the beach, she offered to let Edward go out and find someone to do it, but the two of them still fell in love. I can fully understand. After all, for a resistant person, this solution is not a problem if it can relieve oneself and meet the needs of a partner. But Edward regarded this as an insult to himself.
Edward actually respected Florence very much, otherwise he wouldn't have done it until he got married. But in such an embarrassing situation at the time, the humiliation he suffered as a male, coupled with the previous scenes of being looked down upon by his father-in-law, all broke out at once. And he lacked the ability to control himself, so he made an irreversible regrettable decision under impulse. Therefore, in fact, their breakup was not entirely due to the issue of indifference, but the unequal relationship between the male and female protagonists, and the boys' heart that has not really grown up.
At the end of the film, it ends with a "regretful love". But after reading it, I will think of:
If in reality, a boy would react when he knew that his girlfriend was indifferent?
If they want to solve it together, how can they solve it?
I am more interested in the various contests between beauty and ugliness in human nature involved.
Of course this one is also very good><
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