In 2017, when "Carnival" was released, it caused heated discussions among netizens.
The experience of Xiaowen, who was only 12 years old in the movie, being sexually assaulted by President Liu was shocking, like a throat.
From "The Melting Pot" to "Suyuan" and "Carnival", there are more and more movies about sexual assault.
But this is not just a fictional story, it's happening all around us, and every year.
Even more frightening is that reality is often more terrifying than movies.
"Letterhead Story" is directed and screenwritten by Jennifer Fox, and it tells her personal experience.
At the beginning of the film, it was stated: This film is adapted from the personal experience of Jennifer Fox and contains sensitive themes. To the audience, watch carefully. The story you are about to see is true.
Jennifer is a producer. At the age of 48, her mother, Netty, found the story written by Jennifer when she was a child in the storage room, and Jennifer began to remember.
When Jennifer was 13 years old, coaches Jane and Bill trained her on horseback riding and track and field every week.
Bill, who is over forty years old, took advantage of Jennifer's innocence and lied that he was in love with Jennifer, gradually fell in love with Jennifer, and sexually assaulted Jennifer step by step.
The film mainly revolves around Jennifer, describing her psychological activities as a victim, so that the audience can know what she thought.
As a bystander, it is difficult to know what the victim thinks. For the victim, people may encourage him to tell his own experience, and encourage him to stand up and sue the perpetrator, but people don't know if this is what the victim wants.
So the idea of the victim becomes particularly important. In fact, it is indeed far more complicated than we thought.
Surprisingly, for a long time, Jennifer didn't think she was a victim. She thought Bill was just her first boyfriend.
Therefore, she did not tell her mother about the incident, and she didn't know about it until 35 years later when she turned to the article she wrote.
The reason why Jennifer has such a mentality of (not thinking that she is a victim) is because of Bill's guidance.
Compared with the principal in "The Forge" and President Liu in "Carnival," Bill is even more hateful.
Reality is not like movies, reality is much scarier than movies.
The principal and President Liu are both real villains. They are obviously sexually assaulting children, and the children also know that they have been sexually assaulted;
Bill is a hypocrite. He knew he had sexually assaulted Jennifer, but he packaged their relationship as a relationship.
He took advantage of Jennifer and guided her so that she didn't know that she was sexually assaulted, and mistakenly thought that she and Bill were true love.
Bill said to Jennifer: "Your parents are afraid of the world, afraid to live freely, they cannot accept that you are about to become a woman. You should not hate them, you should pity them, they cannot be as brave as you, you are not afraid of life ."
"Jennifer, you are really special. You are very mature, and I want to save you from those stupid young boys."
Bill used a lot of these words to guide Jennifer, so that Jennifer gradually thought that having sex with Bill was a manifestation of her maturity, growing up, and making decisions for her own life.
Many years later, Netty asked Jennifer why he didn't reject Bill, but kept accepting him.
Jennifer said: I just want to make others think I am different.
Bill’s goal was achieved. Under his guidance, Jennifer did not think that she was sexually assaulted, nor did she consider herself a victim, but was proud of it: “I feel that I have made a decision and control myself. fate."
"I feel pure happiness, just like in heaven, I finally have a sense of belonging."
"You think I am a poor victim, but so what? I am not a victim. What I have is unique."
So Jennifer was willing to be sexually assaulted by Bill, and said to herself: "I love him, and he loves me too."
But in fact, all of this is Bill's conspiracy. It was he who led Jennifer to think so, making Jennifer think they were in love.
Jennifer thought she and Bill were in a relationship, and she thought Bill was her boyfriend. She didn't know that she was a victim, she never told anyone about it, and she never called the police.
No one knows the true face of Bill, and no one arrested him, so he can continue to hurt the second, third... girl.
Jennifer was not the only one who was sexually assaulted by Bill.
For example, Jennifer's friend Alice, who is also a student of Bill, also had a relationship with Bill, and Bill lied to her that they were in a relationship.
Even Bill had a threesome with Alice and Jane, and Jane was still married.
(Because Jane was also sexually assaulted when she was a child, she turned from a victim to a perpetrator when she grew up. This kind of thing often happens. For example, Jennifer was sexually assaulted when she was a child, and when she grew up, she went to bed and had a husband. Many People who were hurt when they were young may hurt others when they grow up.)
Once, Bill offered to play a foursome with Jennifer, Alice, and Jane, but Jennifer escaped from a sudden attack of stomachache.
There were only zero or many sexual assaults, and Bill was obviously the latter. He can be called a demon-like existence, and in his career, countless girls have been brutally murdered.
Bill used his skilful techniques and superb strategies to "perceive well-informed" by taking advantage of the girl's ignorance to commit sexual assault step by step, and let the victim be in the dark, mistakenly thinking that he was in a relationship and would not tell Bill.
Thirty-five years later, not only did Bill not receive the slightest punishment, he went up and down, became a legend in the sports world, and won the Outstanding Citizen Award.
It was also 35 years later that Jennifer finally decided to face this unbearable past. She publicized her experience of being sexually assaulted by Bill when she was 13 years old, and confronted Bill in public: Didn't you call me your little girlfriend?
Not surprisingly, Bill denied it.
Yes, he just won the Outstanding Citizen Award. How could he admit that he sexually assaulted young children in front of everyone?
If Bill really didn’t use his identity as a coach to sexually assault Jennifer, if he really thought he was in love with Jennifer, if he really loves Jennifer, when Jennifer asked him "Didn’t you call me your little girlfriend?" , Why didn't he dare to admit it?
Because he knew it was wrong to sexually assault a young child, he always knew it.
So, "falling in love" with children is nonsense. There is no "true love" between adults and children. It is nothing more than using children's ignorance to satisfy their own selfish desires, and then using "falling in love" and "true love". Such nonsense prevents the victim from knowing that he has been hurt, so he will not go to the police.
The 48-year-old Jennifer already has a very rich experience and a very strong heart, but she still had a long ideological struggle before she mustered the courage to face this past event.
We will never know how much pain she went through from forgetting this incident to remembering it again to admitting that she was a victim.
When Jennifer’s boyfriend just learned about this, he said: Why do you want to help Bill make excuses? You are the victim.
However, Jennifer immediately exploded: I am not a victim, and I don't need you or anyone to call me a victim.
The reason why Jennifer is reluctant to admit that she is a victim is that people will choose to escape from the painful experience if they can't bear it, telling themselves that it's not bad, so as to reduce the psychological pressure.
For example, if a person is robbed as a child, he will have psychological problems from then on. He will gradually tell himself: "Maybe the other party really needs money, so I am not a victim, I did a good deed." Through this distortion of the facts. The way to dilute the inner pain.
The same is true for Jennifer. She did not admit that she was a victim for a long time. She insisted that she was not harmed so that she could feel better.
She said: He loves me and he cried. I am not a victim in the story, I am a winner. It was him who broke down, not me.
But the fact is just the opposite. Even without Jennifer, Bill's life can still be alive and well. Even without Jennifer, Bill would still sexually assault other girls.
The frightening thing is that perpetrators like Bill do not need to reflect, confess, or beg for forgiveness, but want victims like Jennifer to adjust their psychology.
Bill hadn't even felt sorry for his behavior, but Jennifer had to forgive him first. This is so distressing.
The same is true in reality. After many victims have been sexually assaulted, they are reluctant to make it public, because some people do not condemn the perpetrators, but instead discuss and point to the victims, causing secondary harm.
Now that the problem of online violence is getting more and more serious, people always ask victims to have a perfect personality, but do not condemn the perpetrators.
As long as the victim has a shortcoming, someone will say: You have done this kind of thing and deserve to be sexually assaulted/beaten/harmed.
Let's take the movie as an example. In "Reunion 3", because of Xingjue's mistakes, Thanos successfully snapped his fingers and wiped out half of the universe.
As a result, the audience began to criticize Xingjue. As everyone knows, it is not Xingjue who really wiped out half of the universe, but Thanos.
In "Rise of the Apes 3", Caesar was taken advantage of by the colonel because of his impulsive personality, and captured all the orangutans for hard labor. The audience said Caesar was stupid, but they didn't condemn the colonel for being cruel.
Looking back at least 95% of the movies are like this, the audience will not condemn the villain, but if the protagonist makes a mistake and causes the death of his companion, he will be scolded bloody.
People are always too harsh on the victims and too tolerant to the perpetrators.
Some time ago, a flight attendant was killed in Didi early in the morning. Someone even said that she did not care about social news and deserved to be killed.
Even more frightening is that there are many people below who agree with what he said.
Some people even said on Weibo that in the face of this situation, one should be honestly sexually assaulted, and at least one life can be lost.
The same is true for emotional blogger Ayawawa. She said that the comfort women are not too miserable, and at least they can save one life. Coincidentally, there are many fans who support her.
People always say what the victim should do and what he shouldn’t do. When being sexually assaulted, he should cooperate with the criminal. Don’t try to resist. Deserve it...
It's like people don't blame the culprit Thanos, but instead blame the Star Lord who is trying to stop Thanos. Just because Thanos is the villain, they think that Thanos should do everything; just because Xingjue is the protagonist, he can't make mistakes, and he should be scolded if he makes mistakes.
By the same token, in their view, the Didi driver and those sexual assaults are bad guys. They should do everything they do. They should also sexually assault you. So you should go out during the day and travel in groups, otherwise you should be caught. Sexual assault is deserved, it is stupid.
When "Suyuan" was released, people said why Suyuan had to go to school alone; when "Carnival" was released, people said why Xiaowen would run around; when "Letterhead Story" was released, people said why Jennifer didn't reject the coach ...
The flight attendant was killed, and people said why she didn’t follow social news; the Guangzhou girl was sexually assaulted, and people said why she didn’t tell her parents; a woman in Yiwu was sexually assaulted by a netizen, and people asked her why she wanted to see a netizen; a 17-year-old international student was in The United States was sexually assaulted, and people asked her why she wanted to study abroad; Liu Yan was raped as a bridesmaid, and people said why she didn’t wear more...
If women want to live safely, they must pay attention to social news, communicate with their parents frequently, cannot see netizens, cannot study abroad, cannot wear less, and cannot sit in the early morning... In some people’s opinion, it is for women to avoid being victimized. The best way is for everyone to put on a black burqa and stay away from home 365 days a year.
In some people's eyes, it is always the victim's fault.
People always condemn the victims for being too beautiful, but they do not condemn the beasts of the perpetrators.
People always comfort the victims to learn to be strong, but not let the bad guys accept the punishment they deserve.
People always educate girls to protect themselves, but they don’t educate boys not to hurt others.
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