Everyone was not stingy with enthusiasm and positivity, and did not hide their three-minute popularity. The Internet accelerated the speed of intimacy with each other, and also accelerated the speed of separation.
I have been asked more than once how to look at the behavior of finding a partner through an app. The answer has always been: "There is no unreliable way, only unreliable people." At
its root, love is between people and can only It's a matter between two people. It doesn't matter how I found you from the vast crowd. Whether you want to go down with me and how far you can go, this is what I want to know.
# 初初时都不讲道理# The
movie "Novelty" brings the fast-food love of this era to the big screen. Martin played by Nicholas Hoult is a hardworking doctor who works in a pharmacy during the day, and turns into a nostalgia at night. The prodigal son on the bed of the fragrant beauty.
(I have to add a sentence here. Nick was selling meat when he appeared in the first season of "Skin" as a small fresh meat. Why is he still selling meat when he is old? Is the director because of his face and bed skills? He is the leader? The
heroine Gabi is weird and exciting, and her best friend teased her to play too crazy, but she said that she only wanted to find a man who could make her orgasm.
In short, these two people fell in love because of social software. It's almost incredible.
I think of someone asking me last night, what do boys do to chase girls. Hey, I didn't grab your cough syrup, what are you doing after me?
I don’t know how the malformed concept of love prevails. Everyone is like a junior high school teacher. He is critical and must be compared. The second is to care. The first move is the loser, and the indulgence is a necessary skill. Small tricks and careful. The machine couldn't stop playing.
Good love should happen naturally. Two people play games and enjoy each other. There is no initiative and no respect for dignity. I know that one shot is very small and every second is full of uncertainty, but in this way In the unpredictable world, someone catches every ball you throw firmly, walks to you at the right time and says: "I'm tired of playing, come, let's sit on the grass for a meeting, I want to talk to you Talking about the movie I watched last week, your lips look a little sweet, can I taste it?"
Ideally, everything should be like this, illogical and unreasonable.
# Does the past really matter? #
神夏里华生 said to his wife who was once an excellent spy: "I don't want to talk about your past. It's your business. I want to participate in your future. It's my honor."
It is true. , The road we have traveled, the things we have experienced, and the people we have met make our present. But since you are moved by the person in front of you, why do you want to ask him how he got here step by step?
Obviously Gabi didn’t understand this. She was angry and hysterical for Martin to conceal her mother’s illness, sister’s car accident and ex-wife from her. She couldn’t accept hearing from a third person the past that a lover should have confided to her. She hoped Martin spread out the first half of his life on the operating table, waiting for her to dissect and observe carefully.
This is cruel, because not everyone is willing to take off their clothes and be scrutinized, especially when deep and shallow scars are left on the skin, and I just want to hide them more concealed. That is the secret that I don’t want to be peeked, and it’s myself. I don't want to look back at the past.
# 开式关是个假命题#
Two people who are aware of the emotional crisis are determined to confess to each other 100% and achieve a completely transparent relationship after consulting a psychiatrist.
When Gabi admitted that he enjoyed flirting with other men, Martin also expressed his fascination with freshness and excitement, so the two parties reached an agreement to date, flirt, and have sex with other people with the other's knowledge.
"Open relationship" means absolute freedom of relative possession, which not only maintains a certain degree of loyalty to the relationship between two people, but also does not suppress each other's nature, and enjoys sex and love within a reasonable range.
Sounds wonderful, right? But if human nature is so controllable, how can there be so many foolish men and women who frustrate their bones for love?
No matter how open and unrestrained the words are, the bad guy possessive can always hold seven inches accurately, making you worry about gains and losses. It's better to admit it generously. It's not shameful to think about who you want to completely own and belong to.
You actually care about the message that has not been answered by him. You actually want to know who she was drunk with tonight. You are actually willing to wag your tail at him and want to be stroked on your forehead by him. You actually want to know very much. I heard her leaning in your ear and saying how much she likes you.
The so-called open relationship is more like a postponement strategy adopted by two people who dare not bet on chips. It is the Plan B prepared in advance by pessimists in order to avoid the embarrassment and helplessness of one day facing disappointment. After being prepared, he was caught off guard, so he chose to firmly protect the armor on his chest.
But do you know, it's cool to dare to love and not to be afraid of being hurt.
#Welcome to adult world#The
last three scenes of the movie are three dialogues, Martin and his ex-wife, Gabi and the middle-aged divorced man, and Martin and Gabi who are still unwilling to let each other go. .
The ex-wife said that the previous marriage with Martin was like a child's play. When I became a mother and shouldered the responsibility of taking care of the children, I understood what life was all about, although it was a bit boring and completely predictable. I guess, it's not exciting at all, but it's really happy.
Faced with Gabi’s accusation, Duo Jin said frankly that our relationship is based on my needs, not my care for you. All these are equivalent exchanges. I will give you what you want. In exchange for what I want, this is the essence of emotion, not the transparency you emphasize.
Standing in Martin's apartment, Gabi finally realized that feelings need to be compromised, need private space, and need to give up freedom. The parties need to let go of themselves and find a suitable way of getting along.
Fortunately, it's not too late.
I have never experienced great love or hatred, nor have I ever had a story that can be exchanged for a night of wine, but I have just knocked on the door of the adult world, new and childish.
I had to walk and watch, carefully sifting through the weapons brought out of the ivory tower in my backpack, leaving behind courage, honesty, kindness, and enthusiasm, and burying gloom, extremeness, willfulness, and paranoia under the big trees along the way.
I hope you, and myself, don’t be too playful. When it’s time to be all in, you have the confidence to push out the chips in your hands all at once.
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