The first time I saw Post Grad was in a silent late night half a year ago. At that time, I was not sure where I was going to drift in the next year. I didn’t think about what I wanted to do or what I could do in the future. I even became accustomed to the impetuousness that never faded away. With his acquiescence, the fluorescent second hand turned one frame after another, emitting an unbearable light in the dark, making it difficult to fall asleep, but didn’t want to make futile resistance anymore, so I turned to the "Graduate Survival Guide" and saw this translation of vulgarity. The name did not have any expectations, just wanted to be used for hypnosis, but it didn't let me succeed.
I have always believed that the process of watching a movie is not so much about watching the plot, but about looking for myself. In the movie, I feel things I have never experienced before, relive the past that I have experienced, and force myself to examine the present. Movies give us the opportunity to see the past, present, and future at the same time. How can we not love it?
Now I, standing on the tail of university youth, the paper staying at hand, friends around me, under the balcony is the grass and trees on the campus, but after more than 20 days, with a whistle, all of this will disappear at the same time. No amount of graduation photos can keep the situation at this time. A friend once said to me, write a summary of the four years of university, so that you can better understand the youth that has been struggling but also wasted over the years. Every time you write a pen, But I always don't know how to start. Fortunately, I met Post Grad and helped me find an emotional outlet.
In the lead role, Chinese audiences are familiar with Alexis Bledel in Gilmore Girls and Jane Lynch in Glee. If you have to look at the luxury of the cast, this film can be regarded as a "diaosi" level, but this does not affect my preference for him, because it seems to be telling the story of me or my side.
At the beginning of the film, Ryden Malby, a college graduate who goes backwards in a group of bachelor's uniforms, is a beautiful girl who has a strict plan for things. She rigorously follows her planned life and works hard, earning all A grades and receiving a university scholarship. , Participate in parties and drink less, study hard to maintain scholarships, strive to work in the best publishing houses, and ambitiously to become the best publisher in the United States. At the same time, beside her is a childhood sweetheart who cares about her in every possible way. He has never been a boyfriend. Seeing this, you would say, God! How old-fashioned stories can predict the ending, but it's such a simple story, but it touches me, because it happened to us alive, but it didn't make us realize it until it was interpreted. His life is also beautiful, what a painful comprehension!
1. "Unspoken rules" are not only in the
bustling top publishing houses in LA in China . Ryden, who is full of confidence, is being interviewed by cold interviewers. The unspoken rules are ruthless. Even though Ryden has a glamorous resume and firm ideals, job opportunities are still The reason for snatching it is, as the saying goes, "others have acquaintances." Back home, Guima's family and Adam, who silently loved her, turned into clouds, and not being able to find a job became a big worry. Especially at the school-leaving party, I watched my classmates get good offers and couldn't wait to show off, and my heart became more entangled.
This reminds me of real examples around me. Friends who had first-class scholarships for three years failed in the postgraduate entrance examinations, refused to work, and insisted on taking the exam for another year; classmates asked me in a conversation: What have you learned in the past four years? In fact, he was saying to himself: I have been wasted for the past four years. Let me make another choice. I don't have to go to college. Social college may make me grow faster.
"Reading is useless" began to spread like a prairie fire. "Reading is not as good as having a relationship, and a relationship is not as good as ability." It seems to be regarded as a law. Even myself, I have suspected that I forced myself to sit at a desk in the first three years of university. , The prickly heat grows in summer, and the hands are numb in winter. Are these days worth it? If you change the possibility, what will it be like to spend three years in society?
The above questions have never been answered, and I don’t want to be so anxious to confirm the answer. I only know that when I receive job application rejection letters in my mailbox time and time again, when I am afraid of big-brand companies and dare not move forward. In the first step, when I hid in the ivory tower and refused to go to society in the name of learning, it must be my own problem. A more laborious way of maturation.
The "hidden rule" is not only in China, it exists in any place where there are people. If you can't fight against it, then happily take another road instead of going back to the starting point.
2. "Maybe I'm set, but that does not mean I'm happy"
This is what Adam said to Ryden when he was most disappointed. At that time, Adam had already got an offer from Columbia Law School, and he seemed to hold it in his hand. It was a passport with gold, but when Ryden said to him in a low voice: "You are sure of everything, how good is this," he gently touched Ryden's head on his shoulder and said: You little stupid, The next step is determined, it does not mean that I will be happy, you have passed the most difficult stage, know your dreams, now you only need to spend your whole life to pursue your dreams.
The lives of others always look more beautiful. In fact, most of everything under the appearance of envy and being envied is unknown.
Adam likes music and may not be called a dream, but he worked hard to prove the value of his music. At the same time, he was also seduced by the so-called "success". There is no doubt that the lawyer is closer to "success". When his father said: "I just want more for you", from his moving eyes, I faintly guessed Adam's choice.
Yes, he chose Columbia Law School, but he was not happy. In reality, there are too many things like this that seem to need to be determined in a hurry. Friends around me are urged to start work, but still want to go to school; I go to a prestigious school, but I don’t like a major; I am married, but I don’t like the most... So some people say that bad things are almost impossible, even I am now , And did not achieve the expectations of two years ago to go to the United States to study as a graduate student in media.
I think that there are two possibilities for the unhappiness brought about by this kind of determination: one is that you completely violate your own wishes and you will not have the opportunity to fulfill your wish in the future; the other is that although you are not 100% satisfied now, you can still slow down. Accumulate slowly and reach the goal. The difference between the former and the latter lies in whether they are willing to accumulate and wait for loneliness.
In the days of graduation, there is still a strong atmosphere of “sure but unhappy”. A former senior sister told me that the smile upon graduation was just a disguise, and the heart was full of worry and regret. But I want to say, my dear, bad luck is only for the time being, please seize this opportunity to laugh presumptuously! After this moment, there will no longer be the same people laughing at each other, laughing and laughing with you in all kinds of strange shapes.
In the days to come, you can still work hard, but your friends will not see you again...
Third, the rotten peach blossoms VS Mensao youth
every woman will encounter a number of rotten peach blossoms in the process of growing up, it is these rotten peach blossoms that make girls We grow up, and it is these rotten peach blossoms who let girls know what kind of youth is best for them.
Adam in the play is a typical young man who loves Ryden but never speaks easily. Ryden is faced with the problems faced by some girls. Mensao young men, what is the difference between the two? When the mensao young men sang "maybe one day you will know, how hard it is for me to show my heart" lonely like Adam, the peach blossoms But in the girl's ear, the most tender words were said: "Do you know what I was thinking of when I saw you? In addition to that beautiful face and amazing wisdom, I also saw a little girl about to embrace the whole world. "
Who would the girls choose? This is an unanswered question, because no matter how rotten the peach blossoms are, they also need to be broken, and the young men of Mengsao will always have a day of cultivation.
This reminds me of a story I heard at the graduation dinner. The girl is twenty-four years old. Since she came from a small town, she has gradually lost her way in the big city. The hatred of marriage is increasing day by day, but there is always one person in the chaos. In my heart, the secret love affair has been lingering in my heart for ten years. If you ask who this person is, the girl will be ashamed of her words. Others persuade her to pursue bravely, but she never sees a good relationship. The story of love and being loved is played out in this city every day, but what kind of emotional entanglement will be in a ten-year crush. One thing that the young men of Mensao still don't understand is: Why didn't they pay attention to me? Why can't he see the small current I am watching? Why does he hold hands with others? Why did he marry someone else? In the end, the ending of the Mensao youths is not to be destroyed in Mensao, but to erupt in Mensao!
Ryden is a smart girl after all. She chose the Mensao Youth. She shouted out love for the Mensao Youth: "If you ignore me, I will always follow you, let’s date!" How idealistic this is At the end of the movie, Mensao youth is responsible for continuing Mensao, and his crush is responsible for chasing confession. In real life, does this really happen?
If you ask, how not to be a rotten peach blossom, how not to be a mansao youth, I say, rather than asking how to pursue what you love, there are only four words: serious and courageous.
4. Back to the topic
We often force ourselves to do multiple-choice questions in our lives. For example, please choose one item in work and study, please choose one item in love and study, or say to yourself viciously, Lao Tzu within half a year Make every effort to govern, you can only do this one thing, success or failure, in one fell swoop!
However, life has always been a multi-choice question. It requires us to run multitasking. It provides multiple forks when we are faced with choices. It provides more possibilities when we succeed or fail. It's just that we don't see Tarzan at a glance. I only saw what I wanted to see.
Career and love are never conflicting existences, they are mutually dependent and mutually supportive. The so-called proposition of career and love is also a false proposition. At the age of 20, only when we learn to balance school, career and love, at the age of 30, we can build a solid triangle structure of family, career, and self-development; at the age of 40, we can flexibly deal with the elderly, children, and children. The lover’s multiple families, careers, and self-development are busy; at the age of 50 or 60, we will find that the original multitasking is the best test life can give, because life itself is one after another tribulation. And the so-called happiness is just the gratitude and sentiment that accumulates in the hardships. Happiness is not given by anyone, but is obtained by self-pursuit!
I was impressed by a clip in the movie. Ryden finally got the job he dreamed of. After finishing his day of inputting data, organizing files, and cleaning up the gum on the boss’s high-end customized leather shoes, he came home late at night and suddenly found out when he was chatting with friends. "What you do with your life is really just one half of the equation, the other half, the more important half really is who are you with when you are doing it. And the more important side is who is by your side when you do these things." Look, who narrowly said that this drama is about a girl who gave up her career for love and came to New York alone to find a lover? Only this sentence is the theme that the screenwriters have always wanted to convey. The screenwriters want to tell the princesses who are struggling to be rescued by Prince Charming: Jump on your horse and find a prince to go with you.
I remember that if you are the one last girl asked a male guest: If I become a full-time housewife after getting married, it costs a lot every month, would you be willing to support me? If I were a male guest, I would ask such a girl a question: If I give you enough money every month to enable you to do what I need you to do, you will leave my house. Would you like to? It's the same problem just now. When the family, career, and self-development cannot be taken into account at the same time, as a living person, we are not qualified. The standard of success is never single. The judgment system of wealth and status is too old. A life balancer is a successful life.
Ryden's pursuit is not just love, but a better self. In the past, she was too narrow-minded and obsessed with her own development. Now, when she is mature, she begins to pursue a balanced life. Ryden’s dad said: “Since you were a child, you have arranged everything well for yourself, get high scores, clean the room, eat vegetables obediently, but I always find it a bit troublesome, because baby you know Yes, this world is distorted and there are no so-called rules of the game, so about you quit your job, leave your only home and fly 3000 miles to a strange place that you have never been to, I think this is your best break It’s because no matter where you are, you can live a wonderful life. "The
world is so big, peace of mind is home...
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