Perhaps some things are exaggerated, and perhaps some have happened in reality. In short, when people mention Chinese women, they will always say that the society has changed a lot and the status of women has improved a lot. This is only in terms of certain institutional levels. In people's minds, the idea of male superiority and inferiority is deeply rooted. Many people don't even realize its existence, and don't realize that many things are "gender issues" in the final analysis.
An Mei's mother became pregnant after being raped by Wu Qing, but was regarded as a shame by her family and kicked out of the house. She is a victim and a weak person, but no one sympathizes with her. She was regarded as the property of the first husband, who had to observe the festival when he died. Whether voluntarily or not, once occupied by another man, she broke the rules. She has no personality, she is just a man's thing.
Now that society has developed, has our concept changed for the better? I am afraid not. Not to mention that many victims of rape were first asked by their families not to report the crime, allowing the criminals to escape. In the many cases of domestic violence that I saw during my internship alone, there were many cases where the wife was abused by her husband but was not helped. Relatives and friends came to the unit to lead and all asked the wife to be patient. It seemed that it was her duty to bear the violence of her husband to vent.
Then came the endless "yanzhaomen" incidents. When couples are dating, it is their private matter, privacy. They may commemorate their young carcass, or they may remember a moment of intimacy, which is their right anyway. However, once the photos are released, it will always be girls, beautiful girls, who will be hit. The public condemned them for pretending to be pure, deceiving everyone's feelings, and calling them shameless.
why?
Those who condemned them think that beautiful women, especially famous ones, are tools for men to commit adultery and must always follow the pure mode they like. Once this image is broken, it is their fault.
But no one these girls expressed sympathy. They have complete autonomy over their bodies, they can sleep with people they like, and they can take photos they like. There is nothing wrong with these. The wrong is the people who spread their privacy everywhere. Some people say that they don't want to shoot if something happens. Shooting is their right; dissemination is an infringement of their rights; if you are exercising your rights thinking that one day it will be violated, so you give up this right, then what is the meaning of its existence? If you want to worry about someone taking pictures when you go to the bath, don’t you stop taking a bath? If these people really think that these pornographic photos are so unbearable, they shouldn't watch them and spread them. They first invaded the privacy of others, and then gave pointers to the private lives of others.
After Edison Chen's photos were released one after another, the society began to shape the roles of several protagonists. Edison Chen is the pervert who has made a lot of female stars, Cecilia Cheung is the slutty woman with disorderly life, and Nicholas Tse is the hapless cuckold. This kind of role arrangement is not just a gossip after dinner, it reflects most Chinese people's understanding of the relationship between men and women. If a woman has a relationship with another man and leaves evidence, even if she breaks up later and everything is over, she will be unfaithful to the later man. Even if a man "magnanimously" allows a woman to actually have a relationship with more than one man, she must pretend that she has never done so. Because the so-called "self-esteem" of a man still requires a woman to become an object in front of them, an object that belongs to him alone, even if it is not the case, he must appear to be like this. Perhaps when he asked a woman to take photos, he kept saying that she was his life's favorite, but after breaking up, he betrayed their privacy relentlessly, just like Yingying's husband was so passionate about her, but then he drove her crazy. .
I discussed with people what is sex discrimination, and he said, I will not look down on women, and I have no sex discrimination.
I said, if a young girl carried a valuable bag, what would you think?
He said, mistress.
What if it was a young boy?
Rich second generation.
Then why can't girls be the rich second generation? I asked.
He couldn't tell the reason.
The same question gets different answers, just because of different genders. If a young girl is rich, she must have betrayed her body; if she is a boy, the first choice is family, or young and promising.
This is gender discrimination. Many people do not want to admit it because the word "discrimination" is heavy. Then "gender bias" would sound a little better, but it's essentially the same. Inequality between men and women is different from men and women, and discussions and discussions have no results. If we want to teach all girls a way to distinguish whether they are discriminated against, I think the easiest way is to ask a question: In this specific situation, if I were a man, would I be better treated? ?
If a female celebrity’s computer photos were released, there were intimate photos of her and many male celebrities. One of the male celebrities was married and had a happy family. How different would this story be? I guess that female celebrity must have been verbally criticized and wanted to force her to commit suicide. The married male celebrity will come out hand in hand with his wife, condemn the female celebrity for taking advantage of the old feelings, and declare that their marriage is unbreakable. His wife will be praised as a man's ideal partner for supporting her husband and being fair-minded.
Dear girls, this is our perverted society. Men can be quite proud to talk about the size of their dick, and women have to use various pronouns to avoid mentioning anything related to their reproductive system during menstruation; men use strategies are resourceful, women use strategies are too scheming ; Men give up family for work is enterprising, women give up family for career is against their duties; single men with good conditions are called Diamond Wang Laowu, single women with good conditions are called leftover women. Look around you. This kind of discrimination has existed from beginning to end, and it still exists, but many people take it for granted.
I don’t expect all people to be able to raise gender awareness right away, but when we express our opinions on something, we should consciously ask ourselves whether this opinion is based on gender bias; if it is, at least we should feel A trace of shame.
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